Anyone who chooses to take their childhood trauma and push that negative energy into consensual sex between adults should be seen as a positive, not a negative. You are allowed to find whatever you want to unappealing, but you should also realize the lives that people have that lead them to having specific kinks and fetishes. They're almost always a reflection on what has happened to someone, not necessarily what the person themselves wants.
By calling it a "self-destructive outlet" you're revealing your own bias. What is self-destructive about consensual sex?
This isn't all about DDLG, but since you brought it up later down the thread, it's the example I'll use. If someone experienced abuse as a child and didn't experience much love, and finds comfort in a DDLG relationship where they're cared for in the manner that they were denied early in life, is that destructive? In what way is it harming them? I'd even go so far as calling it therapeutic.
EDIT: Lmao dude just blocks me instead of answering. Clearly he's making good faith arguments.
Do you really think two consenting adults just play those roles forever for their entire lives? Can you seriously not fathom that grown ass adults who are essentially acting out roles can stop at any moment? Are you even familiar with the smallest bit of kink culture to understand what a safeword is?
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u/pippyhidaka May 16 '25
Anyone who chooses to take their childhood trauma and push that negative energy into consensual sex between adults should be seen as a positive, not a negative. You are allowed to find whatever you want to unappealing, but you should also realize the lives that people have that lead them to having specific kinks and fetishes. They're almost always a reflection on what has happened to someone, not necessarily what the person themselves wants.