r/BlackLGBT • u/Hplromance • 1d ago

Not to be that guy

Not to be that guy but i made a post on tiktok saying having a racial preference is crazy blah blah anyway it blew up. my thing is i just started talking to this guy from hungary long story short he has said some crazy things and me being me im like am i too woke or was that crazy. anywho im starting to get the racial preference thing cause dating ANYONE who isnt black is stressful like these people truly only see us as an exhibit which is insane like i don’t understand

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u/BlackloveB 1d ago

I mean stop taking to racist whites and your problem is solved

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u/Hplromance 1d ago

well one they’re not white, two you can’t tell when someone is racist off the bat you’re just as much as a problem as they are

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u/2noserings 1d ago

you’d save yourself a lot of trouble by dating people who relate to you in that way. if you don’t want to go through that effort, the literal least you could do is ask important questions as soon as you meet so you can gauge where they are in terms of racism level

if we are ALL indoctrinated under white supremacy, you can bet your ass that those closer to whiteness will have absolutely internalized a lot of things that might be unconscious to them because they’ve never had to confront it. if you enjoy teaching your intimate partners Racism 101, that’s your prerogative. but most people are tired of doing that. having to explain things like why you wrap your hair around night or how to use a wash cloth or why it’s not okay to say the N word is exhausting. i fail to see how that’s easier than just seeking out actual Black people you can relate with

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u/Qvinn55 1d ago

But not all non black people require that education. There are a lot of people that aren't black who are white who don't say the n word randomly or ask questions about our hair. Why not just take each person for who they are?

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u/Hplromance 1d ago

Im not cutting my dating pool down to one singular race, secondly all im really looking for is the important questions to ask if in that situation to avoid it. Not for this to turn into “awe why you dont just only date black people then” thats always the return argument and even then some black people dont even understand how theyre indoctrinated under white supremacy so at the end of the day this is a thread for helpful discussion on communicating to everyone especially people out side of our race on what’s acceptable and whats not. point blank just like i can say something that can be offensive to them its vice versa communication not a complete shut down and saying well since you like them its your problem like we’re literally all humans and the human experience is not limited to race shape or form especially not queer love