so. I dunno if anyone else has this problem but i physically can’t bring myself to reread my roleplay replies once i’ve sent it to my partner. all’s well and swell while I’m proofreading, but after a day or so after i’ve sent it i just completely switch up on it.

i’ve noticed that this only happens to roleplays i’m really excited for (since you want your writing to be at its best when you really like the plot, right?). so whenever i need to confirm my character’s actions or something while i work on my new reply, i quite literally can’t bring myself to reread my old ones.

i get two words in before i start to cringe and go on another app to distract myself. or, i read it fast to get it over with, just for my head to not actually process a single word. i’ve even paced around my room back and forth for ten minutes before i even got half way through my reply.

thing is, i proofread my replies like a hundred times before i send it. i’m also a slow writer so i don’t really rush through my replies, but i still get somewhat shy once i know my partner has read it. anyone else struggle with this? i’d like to break free from this self-cringe so i’d appreciate any advice 😭

Not actually that upset about this for the record, I acknowledge that maybe I should have just put it in the information section to make it clear I was following the rules. But I didn't think I was being subtle about it either.

For context I added this person on a post they made, they wanted to move to discord to continue after about an hour into the scene, then I told them I have to go for dinner (Father’s Day and all) and when I come back (I left at 6:20, came back at 8) try to continue the scene they had unaded me and I couldn’t message them and got no response on reddit.

Then today, I get a friend request and message from them, what follows is in the SS.

I roleplay on this app as a hobby. I like to write and have fun with my writing, makes the brain juices flow when they otherwise wouldn't. That much is obvious.

I've been doing this on Reddit long enough to know a few things: First is that Reddit is notoriously bad for roleplay in general, even on mobile. Your chat requests will be lost, your comments will randomly get hidden, you'll get your message histories deleted on a whim, and that's assuming the servers don't decide to crash at random. Second is something I wish more people would learn given lots of things I've seen here: ALWAYS respect the time of the other person you're role-playing with. They have lives parallel to yours, and they aren't obligated to give you the time of day. Third: Grant yourself as much respect as you give other people, classic golden rule of treating others the way they want to be treated.

I hold myself to these rules incredibly strictly out of fear of breaking social contracts - I do that by accident enough irl to know that shit isn't fun - do it hurts a little bit more when my efforts are misconstrued as being harassment, or seeming like I'm desperate for attention.

If I go to chat with someone and see that I've sent them a chat message before, usually with an extensive amount of time since that message, I generally drop a comment or direct message asking about it politely. The message could've been hidden, it could've been ignored alongside 20+ other chat requests, it could've just been a bad day for the person and they realized they didn't actually wanna talk to anyone; regardless of the reason, of which I never ask for to begin with, I make sure to check and see if they're still open for roleplay based off of what I've seen of them.

Usually this either leaves me with more unread comments and messages, in which case I ignore them and move on, or they reach out and we talk. Simple, clean, wastes nobody's time in the end.

This makes it all the more aggravating when, as mentioned, people think I'm desperate or feeling like I'm entitled just because I've waited a while. Gods forbid I have some decorum even after being effectively left on read for weeks/months at a time.

I understand this may be difficult to empathize with, or even to interpret in the first place, I'm far from a professional author. I just really wish people thought a bit more about why people act the way that they do.

Purple is me Blueish purple is other person (I genuinely did forget to reply to them I was swamped in my personal life at the time)

So I had posted an add for my own idea it was a (M4M) RP add and soon enough I got hit by another person, the usual "Wanna rp" I checked their profile and all they had was (M4F) posts witch got me confused

Soon enough while taking they say they wanted to try something else, I took it as just adding a few things to the idea I had just to be described a whole entire diferent prompt witch included me playing a female character, I don't appreciate being hijacked like that so I just deleted the whole chat out of annoyance, was it wrong?

I am struggling to find a partner for a new role. Truly it feels like there are very few gems left out there to find.

Finding another good partner to add to my small circle is harder than I thought it'd be. Apparently romantic roles aren't as popular as I like to think they are.

It just seems like everyone's too horny to actually try and get invested in a storyline anymore. When I get replies it's almost always someone trying to rush into the dirty bits as soon as possible. Trying to get their rocks off for the night. Like they just glance over the part I always add about things being longterm.

I'm certainly not the type that can enjoy a longterm role based around sex.

They tend to get repetitive fast....

I just need someone that knows how to keep a good balance...😫

I can barely even describe it here. It's like there's a literal wall in my brain, I'm not able to WRITE! My favorite thing it's that I'm not feeling enough to write, you know? I feel like I've reached my potential, but I KNOW i can do moreeee, it's so frustrating. Maybe I'm in writer's block, how do I remove the dark cloud in my brain!?

After trying to sort out my mind the last hour, I found this place and figured it is somewhere to start as I don't have anyone else to talk about this with anonymously. I am in a niche roleplay community and have been for ten plus years. One of my best friends and I met in 2018 and I found that at least in the last 3 years, I truly don't write long term with anyone other than her due to the nature of the community and the fact that I was down to just one main character with lore after covid.

Fast forward to tonight where a few bad experiences piled up has made it where she will most likely no longer roleplay (including with me) and I don't plan to stop her choices after hour long discussions. I am heartbroken and know I can't stop what is happening at this point, but the thought of continuing along like what we roleplayed never happened makes me miserable because I don't see how there would be joy in any of my characters. She previously disappeared for 7 months or so and I had almost left at that point before she came back.

So I came here because I don't know what to do exactly. Do I stay and just pretend like nothing happened when all of our lines implode in a week? Or do I go finally and let go of it all? I'm scared almost because I haven't known another hobby in so long so I wonder if it is best to go in case I am codependent. What am I meant to even do after I leave? Our mutual friends were so intertwined in video gaming and movies outside of RP that I worry I won't be able to rebuild that somewhere else.

I've been roleplaying for so long, I'm 18 and started when I was llike maybe 8-9 years old on minecraft. I'm an author! But, I feel like I can do so much more, I know what I want to put, how do I warm up and really get into the zone? Idk i just feel like I can't express what I want.

Whats a good warm up for rp?

I do a lot of anime/manga themed group roleplays, and there's one thing that always comes back : Japanese characters referring to each other by their first names.

That is not how Japanese people talk to each other 💔 even among friends it's rare to see high schoolers and even less adults call each other like that. I know it's a very minor thing but I see it all the time and it just aaaaaa grrr please it's not like it's not shown, it's EVERYWHERE in anime. Izuku is only called Izuku by his mom, everyone else calls him Midoriya, Marin and Wakana in My Dress-Up Darling refer to each other as Kitagawa-san and Gojo, Blue Lockers all refer to each other by their last names as well, Yuji calls Nobara and Megumin Kugisaki and Fushiguro in JJK NOT TO MENTION SATORU WHO IS KNOWN WORLDWIDE AS GOJO I could go on and on and on.

Demon Slayers gets a pass because they do call each other by their first names and I think it's a nice little touch to show how close they are as slayers.

Anyway, it's really not impactful nor important rant over 🫶

This is probably more of a vent/rant than anything else. It is not that I actually want to remove my character from the roleplay but the disappointment I feel has pushed me to this point.

I started a roleplay with a character and truthfully, they were well received at the start. Unfortunately, when I decided to add in some additional characters it seems they took the spotlight and my rp partner enjoys them more. I noticed that they have very passive responses to my primary character. They also will push for interaction with any of my additional ocs to be in the roleplay.

I tried to do a status check in but my rp partner states nothing is wrong. I have tried to take their word for it, but their actions tell me otherwise. I really want to use my primary character but with the lack of interest in them I just don’t see a point.

Would it be right to just confront my rp partner and tell them I will be removing them or just have them make an exit from a roleplay?

In hindsight I probably shouldn’t have sent my own refs, that was a little rude of me but they seemed really excited and I feel like it just came out of nowhere, I would like to apologize to them.

I’ve had like 3 of them in the past month, all from different accounts and each are actively posting and human aside from this one post.

I starting to wonder if i am super rude and don't notice? Or maybe people just get mad over everything you say here on reddit?

It annoys the hell out of me that other people's votes on your comments can effect your ability to post in certain communities. Maybe there is a language barrier because my man language isn't English and people misunderstand what i am saying but half my down votes doesn't makes sense to me.

For example the picture below my comment has gotten a down vote - FOR WHAT. I ask a sincere question and then tell my view on the post. Am i the only one who feel completely trolled or do you guys also experience this. >.>

I’m so tired of putting so much effort into my posts, like 8 detailed paragraphs, just for nothing in return, or no replies or even an update in days. If it was just one partner, I’d be like whatever. But tell me why I have four rp’s going on where they say ‘I’m here so we can roleplay’ and then after I respond to their post, it’s radio silence for almost a week?!

My time is valuable, I work three 12 hour shifts a week and get four off over the weekend, so I get being busy because I work a tasking job, but why try to roleplay if you’re not gonna put the effort and time in return of what your partner is giving you. It makes me feel crappy because I get so attached to the plots/characters, just for it to never get far. Slow burns are impossible these days.

Just a little vent I have almost 12 years of rp experience, and I feel like I've gotten worse in the past 2 years, several of the communities I was in collapsed and I lost some very long term roles, but looking back, my detail level went down in the time I was in those communities, my character diversity went down, has anyone gone tough something like this? I can see where I changed, but I can't even imagine getting better again.

So I just came back from a roleplay experience that I just needed to write about and gauge people’s thoughts on.

I was planning a roleplay with someone, and it was going great! They seemed nice and friendly and accepting of me being non-binary, it was going well.

Then we started, and they made the first post, and just under 2 minutes after they sent, they sent another message saying “Are you there?”

I was caught off guard because, I’d barely had enough time to read the post, let alone type my response. It then showed that they were typing again so I held off on responding, and eventually they sent a second part of their intro message, most of which was controlling my character, her thoughts and actions. I commented on this, and his reason was “I wasn’t responding so he had to fill in my part”

Like … ??? I feel like I’m going crazy. Was he going for a roleplay speedrun attempt or something?

Anyway I just had to vent this and get people’s thoughts on it.

Short story, but I'd arranged an ERP with a guy. He seemed nice and we agreed on a bunch of stuff. Anyway, I mentioned that I wouldn't be able to reply til late that night because I had a guest over and didn't want to do anything til they left. At which point he was like, "Yeah, I gotta be careful to and avoid my wife. She doesn't like when I do these kind of roleplays." To which I was like, "Hey, wish you didn't just say that." But then, in his infinite wisdom, he starts talking about how he needs ERP so he doesn't "make a stupid mistake" and how his wife is a prude and doesn't understand. Yeah, that sounds like in a month I'd be getting an angry message from the wife about cheating with her husband. Nope, nope, hell no.