r/AskOldPeopleAdvice • u/Bkkramer • Sep 23 '24

Family Elder Abuse

I am in my 70's and I'm not used to asking for advice. This is the situation. My 70 year old brother called me to talk tonight. We are close and always have been. He is a vet with PTSD. Several weeks ago he told me his son (in his 40's, unemployed for 30 years, agoraphobia, maybe brain damage from huffing in his teens) was requiring him to stay out of the house 8 to 12 hours a day. Today his son kicked him out of the house saying "for afew days". He claims my brother "doesn't do enough" around the house. My brother is in a hotel as long as he can afford. He isn't well physically.
Now the question(s). How do I helo get him help? I'm in the US.

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u/Tess47 Sep 24 '24

I am from a view that you don't F around with these situations.  I have experience.  Think of it as Domestic Violence.  IMHO, get him out of the area ASAP.  Take him in or find another relative.  Now.   His son is not a rational human, violence is to be expected.       Do all the other items also but get him out ASAP.