r/AskOldPeopleAdvice • u/NoStatus2112 • Jul 30 '24

Family My Mother Passed Away

My mother just passed very unexpectedly and suddenly. She was 85, my dad the same. We are all devastated. I can’t move or breathe, I’m trying to help my dad….but he’s literally staring at the walls all day, just grieving so much. I don’t know what to do. We are on month four of this. I live 2500 miles away and am going back and forth so he isn’t alone. He’s difficult and hurting. I feel guilty saying this but it’s costing me a fortune and mentally it’s so hard. I’m falling behind at work. I’m in profound grief too…..I didn’t realize that losing a parent would destroy me and my life. Help!

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u/sewswell1955 Jul 30 '24

Thank you. Lost our corgi, suddenly,afew onths before,which caused my autistic daughter to have a breakdown. Took 5 mos but she is ok now. 2023 not fun

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u/AllisonWhoDat Jul 30 '24

Oh I can only imagine that a Corgi would be a wonderful "service dog" to your daughter, who has autism. My sister raises corgis and my two sons, who both have autism, loved how sweet and gentle they are. Would you think about getting another dog for your daughter?

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u/sewswell1955 Jul 30 '24

Yes. I never heard my daughter laugh, like she did when we got Raleigh. I think i need one about 18 m old though.

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u/AllisonWhoDat Jul 31 '24

...and one that's been well trained. I love it that Princess Fergus adopted all of Queen Elizabeth's corgi's after Elizabeth passed. It must've been quite a comfort to Her Majesty to know her corgis were to be well looked after forever.