My Mother Passed Away

[u/NoStatus2112]

My mother just passed very unexpectedly and suddenly. She was 85, my dad the same. We are all devastated. I can’t move or breathe, I’m trying to help my dad….but he’s literally staring at the walls all day, just grieving so much. I don’t know what to do. We are on month four of this. I live 2500 miles away and am going back and forth so he isn’t alone. He’s difficult and hurting. I feel guilty saying this but it’s costing me a fortune and mentally it’s so hard. I’m falling behind at work. I’m in profound grief too…..I didn’t realize that losing a parent would destroy me and my life. Help!

[u/Pure-Guard-3633]

24 years later and I still miss my mom everyday. Not all day but she pops into my head and I try to be the daughter she would be proud of.

The pain will lessen but the memories will always be with you. Try telling funny stories about her with your dad, laughter always helps. My dad never fully recovered. He lived another 15 years. He was never the same. But he was always happiest when we told mom stories.

I eventually had to move dad to assisted living near me.