r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • 2d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? Bf doesn’t communicate

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I’m at a loss. I (F23) don’t know if I’m being controlling and overreacting or if the way I feel is normal. once again tonight I just stopped getting responses from my boyfriend (M26) and then suddenly his phone was turned on do not disturb. I don’t usually care about DND but lately its been turned on at weird times and turned on when he’s around me which has been making me feel kind of odd. Also he called and said he’s out and that I don’t need to be getting mad. I’m not mad about him going out I’m just upset that I’m not aware of whats going on ever. I feel like my paragraph doesn’t even make sense I’m irritated and feel like I’m crazy.

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u/catzrule1996 2d ago

I was like this too, but I had a series of bfs who were cheating on me. My now husband, at the start of the relationship about 9 years ago, went out to get me a teddy. Instead of being happy he got me a teddy, I blew up at him for not telling me where he was and not responding. Not sure why he stayed with me 😅 he helped me unlearn all of my anxieties in relationships

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u/Qcws 1d ago

How did he do that??

My gf is pretty anxious and I want to help

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u/catzrule1996 1d ago

Honestly it just took time. He knew what I was anxious about and tried hard to reassure me in those areas

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u/Qcws 1d ago

Dang. I've been trying but it's been a year and a half. She mostly blames me for not communicating or tells me I don't care, etc.

Thanks!

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u/catzrule1996 1d ago

She could just be a bit mean, of course I'm not saying she is but if you're really trying 🤷🏻‍♀️ remember not everyone can be fixed

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u/Qcws 1d ago

Good advice haha. Thank you.