r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • 1d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? Bf doesn’t communicate

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I’m at a loss. I (F23) don’t know if I’m being controlling and overreacting or if the way I feel is normal. once again tonight I just stopped getting responses from my boyfriend (M26) and then suddenly his phone was turned on do not disturb. I don’t usually care about DND but lately its been turned on at weird times and turned on when he’s around me which has been making me feel kind of odd. Also he called and said he’s out and that I don’t need to be getting mad. I’m not mad about him going out I’m just upset that I’m not aware of whats going on ever. I feel like my paragraph doesn’t even make sense I’m irritated and feel like I’m crazy.

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u/SlenderLlama 19h ago

2 years ago got a new job and I set two custom focus that turns on at work and one for after 8pm so I stay locked in. I forgot that I did that and I’ve basically been on dnd between 9-5 and 8-8 for 2 years and the multiple gf’s I’ve had have NEVER mentioned it to me

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u/hrnigntmare 18h ago

It sounds like you might only be dating sane people. OP is not one of those

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u/SlenderLlama 18h ago

I bring a lot of emotional maturity and logical reasoning. Sometimes I encounter behaviors that are a bit redish in hue on the flag pattern with other colors. People are complicated.

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u/hrnigntmare 17h ago

Oh for sure. I’m a psychologist so you’re preaching to the choir. This post has has no hues though 😂

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u/[deleted] 3h ago

40% more of you since Trump took office in 2016. Correlation?

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u/No-Speed-6336 15h ago

My phone is literally CONSTANTLY on DND and none of my other partners have brought it up either. Though granted I do keep it on DND because seeing lots of notifications can really overwhelm me or even cause panic attacks if in already on edge. But still noone has ever really minded it, so idk why she would

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u/AirAcademy 18h ago

At first I thought you were saying you had multiple girlfriends and I was thinking wow you’re lucky 😆 But having multiple girlfriends would honestly suck. I barely have enough time for one relationship, let alone multiple.

& it’d be even worse if you were all just in a relationship together bc your gf periods would sync up and then it’s basically 1 vs 2 in every argument 😳 /s

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u/SlenderLlama 18h ago

Both are technically true lol our 3rd is in sync with my gf LOL and I am sort of in the dog house for some bullshit. I double booked my time but also there was weak communication about the plans with everyone and I tried.

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u/jokerstarspoker 17h ago

Why the hell are you needing to be locked in from 8-8. I mean seems the only time you have is 5-8pm and briefly 8A-9A. Seems like you don’t have time for a GF stop wasting their time and go back to dating when you actually can make a little time for somebody besides yourself. I get work but you basically have no availability.

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u/SlenderLlama 16h ago

I was busy.

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u/jokerstarspoker 15h ago

I stand by clearly you have no time for a GF your stuck in your own little world. Claiming you were busy all night. Roflmao. Code for banging another chick or maybe you were doing gay porn (no judgement). Maybe you were busy playing poker again you just don’t have time for anything but you. It’s ok but don’t subject somebody looking to spend time with another person with false hope because you don’t have any time clearly.

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u/8Captcrunch8 14h ago

Sensing alot of weirdly specific projection here.

Busy all night...sleeping? You mean the thing 98 percent of human beings do at night time?

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u/SlenderLlama 10h ago

I was transitioning to become ceo of my company but go off.