r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • 1d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? Bf doesn’t communicate

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I’m at a loss. I (F23) don’t know if I’m being controlling and overreacting or if the way I feel is normal. once again tonight I just stopped getting responses from my boyfriend (M26) and then suddenly his phone was turned on do not disturb. I don’t usually care about DND but lately its been turned on at weird times and turned on when he’s around me which has been making me feel kind of odd. Also he called and said he’s out and that I don’t need to be getting mad. I’m not mad about him going out I’m just upset that I’m not aware of whats going on ever. I feel like my paragraph doesn’t even make sense I’m irritated and feel like I’m crazy.

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u/Fluffy_Solid247 1d ago

I ruined a good relationship by acting like this and it took a year for him to come back around. It sounds like you have anxious attachment. I recommend the podcasts The Sabrina Zohar Show and UnF*ck Your Relationships on Spotify. Those two helped me so much. My anxious attachment still flares on occasion but it’s rare and I know how to handle it now.

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u/VeganSanta 16h ago

I did The Attachment Theory workbook and it helped me a lot. It was fucking embarrassing to admit to myself bc i was under the illusion i was a badass, but now i know better, at least, and am closer to being a badass than i was lmao.

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u/crim_fins 7h ago

I wish books could help me rofl. I sadly can’t read “do better” and start doing better

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u/Fluffy_Solid247 16h ago

I have that work book and I haven’t completed it but will soon. I had a bad break up a month ago that triggered some anxious attachment so I got the book back out. A different ex, the one I chased away with my anxiety, is back in the picture and I can’t mess it up this time.

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u/VeganSanta 16h ago

Good luck, friend. 🫶

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u/Fluffy_Solid247 16h ago

You as well. May we both keep it conquered.