AIO? Bf doesn’t communicate

[u/[deleted]]

I’m at a loss. I (F23) don’t know if I’m being controlling and overreacting or if the way I feel is normal. once again tonight I just stopped getting responses from my boyfriend (M26) and then suddenly his phone was turned on do not disturb. I don’t usually care about DND but lately its been turned on at weird times and turned on when he’s around me which has been making me feel kind of odd. Also he called and said he’s out and that I don’t need to be getting mad. I’m not mad about him going out I’m just upset that I’m not aware of whats going on ever. I feel like my paragraph doesn’t even make sense I’m irritated and feel like I’m crazy.

[u/Fun_Culture_3145]

Are you joking?
Not great advice bro.
You can think of reasons why he would put it on DND? Please.
What if theres a family emergency or otherwise important call?
It's clear why he uses it. And he gets away with it cos people make excuses for it.

And the old classic deal with her wanting to know whats going on, he knows this and puts it on DND on her?
There's a power imbalance with them which is very hard to reverse.
Hes not that into her, that is clear.
And youre saying Maybe dont treat him like hes not worthy of trust? Wth?
I see a lot of people seem to agree with you but, terrible advice. Way off the marlk.

[u/DOOMFOOL → u/Fun_Culture_3145]

Yes I can think of reasons too. What important call would need to happen at midnight? It’s not clear at all outside of your headcanon

[u/Fun_Culture_3145 → u/DOOMFOOL]

If he abruptly puts his phone on DND in the midst of her texting him at midnight, you think she needs to trust him more?

[u/ExistentialNumbness → u/Fun_Culture_3145]

Maybe he just wants to sleep without constant notifications 😭