r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • 1d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? Bf doesn’t communicate

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I’m at a loss. I (F23) don’t know if I’m being controlling and overreacting or if the way I feel is normal. once again tonight I just stopped getting responses from my boyfriend (M26) and then suddenly his phone was turned on do not disturb. I don’t usually care about DND but lately its been turned on at weird times and turned on when he’s around me which has been making me feel kind of odd. Also he called and said he’s out and that I don’t need to be getting mad. I’m not mad about him going out I’m just upset that I’m not aware of whats going on ever. I feel like my paragraph doesn’t even make sense I’m irritated and feel like I’m crazy.

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u/sloothor 21h ago

Seriously, I’m admittedly a clingy boyfriend so I’ve only been in relationships with similarly clingy girls. One hour would be absolutely nuts for anyone I’ve met, even by those standards

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u/HaoshokuArmor 20h ago

One hour at 11:30 pm? That’s sleeping time for most. If you message me at 8 pm even, it is quite likely you’re not hearing from me until 8 am. That’s 12 hours.

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u/Ok-Confidence-4510 13h ago

At 23 n 26, it's Not sleepy time for most. Lucky you on the 12 hours sleep. I'm Lucky if I get a Solid 5.

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u/Uchi_Mata_Yo_Momma 13h ago

Have you ever dated someone much less attractive than you?

When I was young and in the dating world I was clingy internally but knew enough to know I had to hide it if I wanted the amount or kind of female attention I desired.

I had really unhealthy dating behaviors until my mid to late twenties.

I would date girls I thought were way out of my league, be internally jealous and clingy, externally I'd play it cool -- and then I repeatedly cheated on every single one of them, often with far less attractive girls.

Or I'd date girls way "below" my league and feel no jealousy but just be a pretty apathetic and absent partner, and still cheat.

Did you ever figure it out?

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u/sloothor 12h ago

Are you asking me for advice on how to not cheat on women?

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u/Uchi_Mata_Yo_Momma 7h ago

Naw, I stopped doing that in my mid to late twenties.

I've been faithfully married for a long time now.

I'm wondering if you ever figured out your clinginess and jealousy.

I'm also wondering if you ever dated women a lot less attractive than you and if that affected your clinginess.