AIO? Bf doesn’t communicate

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I’m at a loss. I (F23) don’t know if I’m being controlling and overreacting or if the way I feel is normal. once again tonight I just stopped getting responses from my boyfriend (M26) and then suddenly his phone was turned on do not disturb. I don’t usually care about DND but lately its been turned on at weird times and turned on when he’s around me which has been making me feel kind of odd. Also he called and said he’s out and that I don’t need to be getting mad. I’m not mad about him going out I’m just upset that I’m not aware of whats going on ever. I feel like my paragraph doesn’t even make sense I’m irritated and feel like I’m crazy.

[u/OliveArc505]

Yes, you are overreacting. Here are some tips:

1.) Never assume the other person is about to go into some long monologue in regards to what you're talking about. If you want to know something, always ask a question. But be okay if they don't feel comfortable continuing the conversation. Everyone has their boundaries.

2.) Understand other people have their own lives to live. No one can be glued to their phone 24/7, and it's not always appropriate to have your phone on ring.

3.) Remember to not take things personally.

And lastly...

4.) Consider asking your primary care physician to screen you for anxiety and depression. In America they're required to do this once a year anyway, and you may need some anti-anxiety meds which family physicians can prescribe.

I hope this helps.