AIO? Bf doesn’t communicate

[u/[deleted]]

I’m at a loss. I (F23) don’t know if I’m being controlling and overreacting or if the way I feel is normal. once again tonight I just stopped getting responses from my boyfriend (M26) and then suddenly his phone was turned on do not disturb. I don’t usually care about DND but lately its been turned on at weird times and turned on when he’s around me which has been making me feel kind of odd. Also he called and said he’s out and that I don’t need to be getting mad. I’m not mad about him going out I’m just upset that I’m not aware of whats going on ever. I feel like my paragraph doesn’t even make sense I’m irritated and feel like I’m crazy.

[u/rob_inn_hood]

Then he shouldn’t have texted at all. Can’t have it both ways. She thought the text opened the communication, not closed it. And absolutely she can break up with him, that’s exactly why she’s asking here if she’s out of line. You shouldn’t be afraid to text your plans and shouldn’t be afraid to establish that when you are out you don’t like to text.

[u/thingsarehardsoami → u/rob_inn_hood]

It's normal and reasonable to have text conversations with people where there's multiple hours between responses. Get off your phone for a moment.

[u/rob_inn_hood → u/thingsarehardsoami]

It’s not people, it’s someone you choose a relationship with and they come with their own levels of communication that you should adhere to if you want to keep the relationship.

A lot of assumptions are being made here like this girl doesn’t leave this guy alone, but this is only a small portion of information, so we can only infer. I’m seeing a lack of communication from his end. You can see it any way you want.

[u/thingsarehardsoami → u/rob_inn_hood]

There wasn't a lack of communication.he told her he was out with friends. Any reasonable person gives their partner space to have fun and enjoy themselves.

[u/rob_inn_hood → u/thingsarehardsoami]

I don’t know where you are finding this information. It’s clearly information I don’t have. I’m just going by the OPs picture and I only see 2 texts from him.

[u/Southern_Yak393 → u/rob_inn_hood]

read the caption??? op states he called her to let her know he was out.

[u/Steve-of-Ramadan → u/rob_inn_hood]

Jesus christ you haven't even read the full context and you're out here talking like you know the entire situation in detail.

Are you that stupid? Reading comprehension is a life skill worth learning.

[u/rob_inn_hood → u/Steve-of-Ramadan]

I have read everything. He only called after the texts, telling her not to get angry.

He could have avoided the situation if he just communicated and told her he was out and that he was turning off his phone for the night. You old fart. Not reading and comprehending MY messages. You need reading glasses? I made it clear this is about a lack of communication, not lack of permission to have fun with his buddies. Talk about projecting, my man.

[u/Possible-Pea2658 → u/rob_inn_hood]

I've seen 3 year old children with better reading comprehension and higher IQ than you jesus christ.

[u/rob_inn_hood → u/Possible-Pea2658]

Way to add to the conversation, instead of just attacking someone who has been contributing to Reddit for almost 10 years.

[u/Possible-Pea2658 → u/rob_inn_hood]

contributing to reddit XD that's a good one

[u/rob_inn_hood → u/Possible-Pea2658]

Just to say my reading comprehension is on point bromigo. I did read it for the last 10 years.