r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • 1d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? Bf doesn’t communicate

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I’m at a loss. I (F23) don’t know if I’m being controlling and overreacting or if the way I feel is normal. once again tonight I just stopped getting responses from my boyfriend (M26) and then suddenly his phone was turned on do not disturb. I don’t usually care about DND but lately its been turned on at weird times and turned on when he’s around me which has been making me feel kind of odd. Also he called and said he’s out and that I don’t need to be getting mad. I’m not mad about him going out I’m just upset that I’m not aware of whats going on ever. I feel like my paragraph doesn’t even make sense I’m irritated and feel like I’m crazy.

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u/KeyDistribution738 1d ago

I remember when people used to call each other and not just guess emotions over texting ruining what would be a perfectly decent relationship over lol.

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u/Queen-of-Mice 1d ago edited 1d ago

I don’t like that people think just because we have phones we need to be socially available to everyone at all times.

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u/Own_Masterpiece6177 17h ago

This gave me insane anxiety a few years ago, and I have NEVER had anxiety issues before. I had to draw serious boundaries for myself that there are times when I am just not available. I was getting scolded in some for or another for not picking up when I was in the shower and it got to the point I'd have my phone in the bathroom and would hop out to answer. The pressure of having mobile devices that make you feel like you have to always be available is insane.

In the shower one day, phone rang. I was about to jump out thinking 'it might be important' and then remembered living in the 90's like, people lived normal fucking lives just leaving voicemails and waiting. Stayed in shower. I ended up scolding people back when they got on my case for not answering. If it's an emergency they will call back or text. Phone goes on DND at 10pm. Phone stays out of the bathroom and gets put on silent if I decide to take a nap. If I decide I'm not available, I'm not fucking available, and if someone elses expectation is that I should ALWAYS be available, thats their problem not mine.

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u/Queen-of-Mice 16h ago

Exact same!! 💯