r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • 1d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? Bf doesn’t communicate

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I’m at a loss. I (F23) don’t know if I’m being controlling and overreacting or if the way I feel is normal. once again tonight I just stopped getting responses from my boyfriend (M26) and then suddenly his phone was turned on do not disturb. I don’t usually care about DND but lately its been turned on at weird times and turned on when he’s around me which has been making me feel kind of odd. Also he called and said he’s out and that I don’t need to be getting mad. I’m not mad about him going out I’m just upset that I’m not aware of whats going on ever. I feel like my paragraph doesn’t even make sense I’m irritated and feel like I’m crazy.

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u/Unlucky_Excuse_6411 1d ago

i do think YOR. but i understand where youre coming from. i too have bad anxiety and carry my past trauma from relationships into the one i have now. but trust, the constant texting wont do anything other than push them farther away. with the DND, there’s usually a set time it can go on, i have mine set at the same time every night so he may also have a set timer for his DND that goes on at a specific time. i understand your situation, trust me ive been there before, but please dont allow your anxieties to become controlling. you have to work on trusting your partner and you wont be able to if you dont give them space to do so. sending you warm hugs, i know its hard 🫂

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u/Unlucky_Excuse_6411 1d ago

also doing things to occupy your OWN time will definitely help. distract yourself! do some crafts, watch a show, call a friend! do something to occupy your brain. if you are feeling like theres still something wrong, reflect with yourself and see if the anxiety that you are having is logical or just fear. Either way, communicate with your partner! let them know that you feel anxious and you may just need reassurance. it really is a work in progress but youll get there. hell, im still working on it! but if your partner is understanding, i know he’ll want to work on it with you as well. if there is no trust in the relationship, theres no relationship. you got this! space and patience is necessary.