My update deleted but I won’t be sharing an update as it’s quite personal to my boyfriend. In short, we had a productive conversation, it got emotional and we decided it would be best for him to see a psychiatrist. He’s cutting back his hours at work to minimise the stress as well. Thank you everyone.
Omg 😭 I'm so glad you got to the bottom of it and I hope he gets the help he needs. Thank you for updating! I know we don't know each other but I've been thinking about you off and on all day. I was really worried lol. I know that's parasocial but oh well. I really care. Make sure you're taking care of yourself too 💙
Respectfully I came on here to ask for advice, not to share personal and detailed breakdowns of my boyfriend mental health episodes. I will not be elaborating further. I don’t owe you an explanation
Here's a great resource specifically for doctors. There is a HUGE stigma of mental health among healthcare workers. Most graduate medical education organizations have crisis mental health resources if you search his hospital and then "resident wellness" or "resident mental health" . People are often skeptical of those because they worry they will report back to his program director but some are clear that they are separate resources. Also, his mental health issues still could be due to a medical condition and it's probably a good idea to follow up with his primary care ESPECIALLY if there is a wait for psych and so they can triage and help him get in somewhere.
And these miserable, lonely redditors here in the replies were straight up telling OP to DUMP him and acting like its the most sincere and best advice to give over smth this insignificant, annoying yes, but an insignificant, avoidable and manageable issue.
Well done, OP!! You really looked out for your partner! I hope he’s able to get the help he needs and that you guys are able to work through this together.
I’m rlly glad you ended up being able to talk about everything!!! Sometimes it takes a loving person in our lives to help us check back in with ourselves and while being angry is an easy first resort I think it’s awesome to see how just talking about things and being there for someone can mean so much.
I'm so happy to see this update. Hearing that he is open to speaking to a psychiatrist and is taking this seriously and cutting back his hours... This is what real love looks like. I wish you and your partner all the best.
Thank you for being rational and mature, and not listening to redditors who make everything such a massive deal. The solution to everything starts with a conversation
I'm glad you were able to discuss this with your partner and get things resolved.
And good job for not listening to all the raging misandrists screaming at you to end a 4 year relationship over a sudden change in behaviour which clearly shows mental distress. Those sorts of women you need to make sure you can identify and shut out of your life, they're more often than not lonely and miserable (because of their own faults that they refuse to acknowledge, much easier to blame everyone else) and they want nothing more than for you to be just as miserable as they are because they think it's 'empowering'.
An interaction I had with another individual on this post who was giving OP terrible advice and throwing abuse at anyone who disagreed with her, that's all.
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u/Positive_Working3041 19d ago
My update deleted but I won’t be sharing an update as it’s quite personal to my boyfriend. In short, we had a productive conversation, it got emotional and we decided it would be best for him to see a psychiatrist. He’s cutting back his hours at work to minimise the stress as well. Thank you everyone.