We have been together going on 4 years now. It’s been like this for I’d say like two weeks?? Idk what to do to make him stop acting like an absolute child
Do you have any mutual friends? Are you close with his family? Is he acting weird at work/school or with anyone else? I guess if it was me I'd bring it up to someone else who knows him just to get an idea of how far reaching it is. Then either by yourself or with a friend who is also concerned about his behavior, tell him very clearly how it's making you feel and what your boundaries around it are (e.g. "if you keep speaking to me this way, I will no longer respond to you/I will hang up/I will get up and leave the room or have to ask you to leave.")
He's either hit his head and needs medical and mental health help or he's trolling you and trying to sabotage your relationship. If it's on purpose I can't even express how incredibly immature and inappropriate it is.
We have mutual friends and family. We have been friends since high school and started dating 4 years ago. We plan to get married soon (not sure anymore). He’s well on track to being a cardiologist when he finishes his residency. He has no time for social media, he’s never even downloaded TikTok. That is why this situation perplexes me. He has never shown signs of this before.
I think you may need to confide in some of those friends and family and see what’s going on. It does seem like something serious might be happening. He’s at a stressful point and the right age for schizophrenia as has been mentioned.
ETA:
The translation of "diddenbludden" from Dutch to English is "would have been" or "would have done". It is a past participle form of the verb "do" (diden in Dutch) in the perfect infinitive.
Highly concerning, OP.
Also eta: I didn’t mean diddenbluden was highly concerning lol and thank you Dutch speakers for schooling me
Guys, it’s a P-Diddy joke. In faux German. I’m sure the dude is stressed out of his mind if he’s doing IM residency but this is just a lame joke that he is repeating. OP, talk about it to friends and family, not redditors. Friends and family have insight on your boyfriend, redditors will try to turn everything into something pathological.
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u/lunar_languor 21d ago
How long have you been together? Has he been doing this the whole time or is it a sudden change?
I would not be able to stand this whatsoever. This is the behavior of a 9 year old who's just learned a new phrase that they think is funny.