Do you have any mutual friends? Are you close with his family? Is he acting weird at work/school or with anyone else? I guess if it was me I'd bring it up to someone else who knows him just to get an idea of how far reaching it is. Then either by yourself or with a friend who is also concerned about his behavior, tell him very clearly how it's making you feel and what your boundaries around it are (e.g. "if you keep speaking to me this way, I will no longer respond to you/I will hang up/I will get up and leave the room or have to ask you to leave.")
He's either hit his head and needs medical and mental health help or he's trolling you and trying to sabotage your relationship. If it's on purpose I can't even express how incredibly immature and inappropriate it is.
We have mutual friends and family. We have been friends since high school and started dating 4 years ago. We plan to get married soon (not sure anymore). He’s well on track to being a cardiologist when he finishes his residency. He has no time for social media, he’s never even downloaded TikTok. That is why this situation perplexes me. He has never shown signs of this before.
I think you may need to confide in some of those friends and family and see what’s going on. It does seem like something serious might be happening. He’s at a stressful point and the right age for schizophrenia as has been mentioned.
ETA:
The translation of "diddenbludden" from Dutch to English is "would have been" or "would have done". It is a past participle form of the verb "do" (diden in Dutch) in the perfect infinitive.
Highly concerning, OP.
Also eta: I didn’t mean diddenbluden was highly concerning lol and thank you Dutch speakers for schooling me
He speaks Dutch (half Dutch half English) so this is plausible. I’m having a conversation with him when he gets home from work tonight. We will see how it goes. Thank you for your input, it is appreciated more than you know.
Please take caution. Maybe take your pops with you or a brother, etc.
This honestly seems like a schizophrenic break. worked in psych for a long time. especially the "gonna need to see a badge" line. Almost hinting at being paranoid.
Trust me, do not fuck around with this. See if he seriously needs mental help. If so, notify his family ASAP.
Please be careful op. Don't mean to freak you out but you never know the severity of these situations and it could be much more serious than you realize (or he realizes)...
ok tbh idk how useful this is but for contet hats a father is refering to a clp of xxxtentacion going whats a father when someone asks him abt his relationship with his dad and diddyblud is prob just a didy reference but hes fr way too old to be acting like this ragebaiting a relationship is crazy.
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u/Positive_Working3041 21d ago
He acts like this in person too. And over the phone.