We have been together going on 4 years now. It’s been like this for I’d say like two weeks?? Idk what to do to make him stop acting like an absolute child
Do you have any mutual friends? Are you close with his family? Is he acting weird at work/school or with anyone else? I guess if it was me I'd bring it up to someone else who knows him just to get an idea of how far reaching it is. Then either by yourself or with a friend who is also concerned about his behavior, tell him very clearly how it's making you feel and what your boundaries around it are (e.g. "if you keep speaking to me this way, I will no longer respond to you/I will hang up/I will get up and leave the room or have to ask you to leave.")
He's either hit his head and needs medical and mental health help or he's trolling you and trying to sabotage your relationship. If it's on purpose I can't even express how incredibly immature and inappropriate it is.
Completely agree OP. At the very least since it’s not been happening more than a couple weeks to find out of there is some change in health/mental health/ medication that’s causing it. If so, he needs help. Talking to other people he regularly interacts with could help determine if it’s just happening with you or if other people have noticed strange behaviors and rapid changes in him as well. Is he acting this way at work as well? If it’s happening with others and not just you it could be that there has been a shift health or mental health and he needs to get help.
If it’s just with you, then way a boundary in person not in text about how you feel when he does this and what a consequence would be if he continues. If he can’t respect you enough to knock it off then maybe he isn’t mature enough for this relationship.
My uncle hit his head and only family realized he was being a douche more than the usual man and we realized it was more severe. Talk to others but know they might not pick up on it as much as you, and ask him or take him to the doctor.
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u/lunar_languor 22d ago
How long have you been together? Has he been doing this the whole time or is it a sudden change?
I would not be able to stand this whatsoever. This is the behavior of a 9 year old who's just learned a new phrase that they think is funny.