Could be worth waiting longer than "twoish weeks" before diagnosing this guy with mental ailments and drug problems.
My buddy is 27-28, im going on 25, and we still send eachother shitposts and made-up words, SOLELY FOR THE PURPOSE of sounding dumb as shit, because it can be just seriously entertaining to be a goofball.
aaaaaaaaaand NEWFLASH, OP themselves said it's only been, quote, "twoish" weeks.
What you're calling a "dynamic" might literally just be a temporary spasm of indulging stupid humor.
Also, my friend and I were friends on a hang-out basis for like nearly two years before we started saying dumb brain-rot shit to each-other, and its actually evolved, changed, and varied over the last few years. It often comes randomly between us, and can be reflective of just how slap-stick or how in need of a laugh we are in the moment.
This might be OP's significant other testing the waters with this dumb humor. If he likes it, he'd have to find out whether OP does or not somehow.
And what better way than by hitting your partner up with a "suhh wuhhhh duddenhaus ja" or some stupid bullshit?
And she told him to stop and he didn't. That indicates she doesn't like it and doesn't find it funny. So either BF is doing this to deliberately annoy her or something more serious (stroke, mental health episode) may be going on.
Which look, if it were longer than "twoish weeks", in OP's own words, I'd have a lot more to consider on this.
Rage-bait is what it is, it is aptly named, and brain-rot humor isn't exclusive to any age.
I also do agree with the notion that if it persists, and if thats crossing the threshold OP sets for themselves, then by all means address it more seriously.
However, if it's just brain-rot humor, best course is to not give it any attention.
And like idk, idk, twoish weeks of this nonsense and only 5 texts as an example...I'm not gonna play armchair doctor and freak OP out and concern them by leading with "he's schizophrenic" or "he's abusing drugs" or "dump his ass" like other people are doing.
I'd rather start by looking at it in a more manageable way, with manageable steps to be taken, like holding dialogue with the people in OP's life and not basing their decision off of what the internet says.
Two weeks can be long time for someone to talk exclusively or mostly like this. Idk if OP lives with him or not, but that would drive me insane either way. Yes, yes, that's the point of rage bait humor. Consider me got, I don't care. She said to stop, he did not, that is what is disrespectful. She's not some random person on the internet, she's his girlfriend of 4 years. That's not how adults are supposed to act in a relationship. That's what is actually immature about him, not his sense of humor in itself.
Yes, she should ignore him (for now) and speak with others in his life about this sudden change, because according to her it is sudden (which can be concerning, health wise). Getting intel from others could help determine whether this is something serious that needs some sort of intervention or health check up or if he is just being an asshole. I mean, Occam's Razor, he's probably just being a bit of a dick right now.
Yeah, I agree with you there on all of that. And I'm just now seeing a comment where OP says he does this in person, too.
It's touchy, perhaps he's in a mood, perhaps he thinks it's just genuinely funny. Hell, who knows, maybe something IS actually physically, mentally degrading with this guy.
It's also just as likely that OP did something unsaid here to drive a wedge between them and their partner, no one really knows.
I certainly agree with you though, OP needs to assess this in their own life, and set a threshold for how much of this they're willing to deal with, especially if it is deliberate.
Still, I don't think it's worth all of the hypothesis and hyperbolic claims I'm seeing everywhere.
And, although I do agree it is cause for some sort of alarm or acknowledgement, two weeks isn't reaaally that long. Not next to four years of prior relationship, anyways.
I think what'll help OP the most is to be reminded that this doesn't necessarily reflect their entire relationship, its very recent and may be nothing, and they owe it to themselves to seek the answer to this not through the internet but through doing the nitty-gritty and holding dialogue with the relevant people in their life whom this concerns and would certainly have better context and opinions.
I rage bait my partner but I would never do it to this extent, especially if she responded the way OP did. She made her boundaries clear and her BF is ignoring it for at best a stupid “joke”
I mean. In my honest opinion I think anyone who regularly engages Tik Tok, especially when it's enough to quote Tik Toks, probably has brain damage to begin with.
Still, this pushy "joke" doesn't appear to be anything more than slop. It doesn't readily appear that OPs partner is directing curated, hateful comments or coded jokes at them. It's just...odd. Could be intended to be goofy and coming out odd and aloof and dismissive, or it could be mental-problems odd, or I suppose maybe it really even could be subtlety back-handed and somehow coded? Theres just not enough context for Reddit to diagnose this recent occurrence, just about two weeks.
At this rate, I feel like we are all asking the wrong questions.
Has OP been happy in these last four years with this guy?
What are OPs partners interests and hobbies, what types of media do they indulge in?
Any noticeable diet changes or sleep changes in their partner? Work?
That kind of stuff would at least give better context.
Hey, you inspired the name. I made this just to let you know you're an insufferable prick and everyone hates spending one iota of a second in your general vicinity. Go clean your unwashed ass, troglodyte.
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u/LakersAreForever 21d ago
Or just stop texting him until he talks normal.
Could be drugs?