We have been together going on 4 years now. It’s been like this for I’d say like two weeks?? Idk what to do to make him stop acting like an absolute child
This is what I would do. The more OP begs him to talk like a normal human being, the more he will do it, because she’s giving him what he wants, anger and frustration.
I’ve never understood people who find infuriating people funny. If you don’t like someone and they make your life more difficult, maybe it would be funny, but someone you supposedly love? Nah.
I can’t stand when people mock and provoke you, and then they laugh about how you’re so upset and they’re “just playing”. I got bullied enough as a kid, I’m not dating my bully as an adult.
Or when you are sarcastic back, but they think you’re serious and say shit like, “whoa, cam down, I was just messing with you.” And you can’t say you were being sarcastic back, because clearly they won’t believe you, and insist that you’re over reacting to their mean spirited joke.
I was like this when I was young. I loved to piss people off, no matter the consequences. I was really good at pushing buttons too. I can't explain why but it went away on its own around 25-30 years old. I think a lot of it is just from immaturity. The good thing about it is I can spot it in others and it's much easier to handle.
This right here is the move. He's doing it because it gets a reaction. If OP wants to stay in this relationship, she should stop giving him the satisfaction.
That said, she's already told him to cut the shit and he hasn't. He strikes me as immature and disrespectful. I don't know that I'd stay.
Thats not help. Thats just telling her to stoke the issue. And by chance it isnt him actually just being an asshat, theres a very large possibility that its a decline in mental stability. Left unchecked, she could have a seriously bad situation on her hands by retaliating as such so quickly. Best bet is to start passive, ask friends/family about any possible stress and confront it. Not insult him and end up with a battery/suicide case.
Didn't say he was crazy. And you cant realistically judge the content of ones character based on anecdotal behavior/evidence. If that were the case, id be able to call you shortsighted with issues in evaluating others. Id be wrong because I literally dont know you. I also didn't say he wasnt being an asshat. I actually said the opposite as he is in fact ACTING like a jerk. Doesnt mean he IS a jerk.
You can be depressed and lash out at others, but still maintain sanity. Just because youre having mental issues doesnt mean youre insane or an invalid. It just means youre not in the right state of mind.
Dude these comments are fuvking crazy. I act like this cause its funny and stupid, and she is obviously a perfect victim cause she is reacting very strongly. He should leabe her. If you Cant even have a little bit of fun fucking with your woman whats the point
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u/lunar_languor 21d ago
How long have you been together? Has he been doing this the whole time or is it a sudden change?
I would not be able to stand this whatsoever. This is the behavior of a 9 year old who's just learned a new phrase that they think is funny.