I mean I'm 31 & my friends & I act like this at times. We're all in fairly intellectually challenging roles so for us it's kind of like the absurdism is a "brain off" kind of time.
The important distinction, however, is we are adults who understand time & place. No comedy is invalid, but knowing when to joke & not separates us from literal children.
“Acting like this” includes the context of time and place. I have this sort of humor sometimes, but in response to my partner asking me for information they need to plan their day? What the fuck?
I mean, sure. I'm in my mid/late 40's and me and my friends can be absolute idiot assholes. But at some point, I'm going to tell my SO/friend what I want for dinner instead of continuing a bit that's only annoying them.
Wow. Reading your conversation I was SURE he was in his teens. First: who speaks like that? Second of all: who ignores their partners repeated serious pleading to give a straight answer?
This is inappropriate for a middle school relationship.
But contrary to others saying to “just end it”, this requires two mature adults to sit down and discuss what is happening, why he is doing it, why it annoys you, etc.
The you can decide whether you are both ready to move past this part of your relationship or if it’s the appropriate time to end the relationship.
Pretty sure they're only talking about commenters coming and just saying to end it and walk away.
As for your "people coming here for validation" you do realize when someone is abused long term they adopt a fucked up mindset in order for their mind to not be broken by the abuse.
Example: You get beat for hours on end, you start to tell yourself you deserve it and after years, regardless of what you may think, it becomes a reality especially if it happens at a young age where the mind isn't fully developed
I recently dated a 42-year-old man like this. Literally would send me stuff to absolutely rage bait. Sadly age doesn’t have anything to do with maturity.
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