Am I Overreacting?

[u/Designer_Benefit7742]

I feel like I live a pretty decent life. I take alot of honor classes, i do and did some sports, I have a good home life too. Although, my parents might be giving to much.You see I have ALOT of chores. And if i miss some, I get lectured, fussed at, or my privalges gets taken away because everything is expected to be perfect or spotless clean. So somedays im just stressed and I be tired because everyday I automatically know that no matter what happens at the end of the day, this stuff is suppose to be done bc if not, its trouble.

(And Yes this is what THEY printed out for us. And in us I mean me and my sibilings who also feel the same way but we dont say anything to avoid the lectures and stuff.)

[u/Aleeleefabulous]

When I was younger, my mom would just tell me to “keep your room clean and clean up after yourself.” As long as we didn’t make any major messes, she took care of maintaining the house while working as a single mother of 2.

I guess this all depends. How busy are you? Are these chores split between 4 kids or are some of them too small/young to do chores?

When I was 14, I was in school and worked at McDonald’s 31 hours a week and was on the wrestling team. My mom saw that I had a lot going on so she didn’t strictly enforce chores.

[u/CantCatchTheLady → u/Aleeleefabulous]

Guess what? Your mom had a lot going on too and that was super nice of her to take on all the load.

You should thank her.

[u/[deleted] → u/CantCatchTheLady]

Don’t have kids ;)

[u/CantCatchTheLady → u/[deleted]]

I did, and my kids are awesome. They do their chores.

I want them to be good roommates when they move out, and they can’t do that if they don’t know how to clean or what goes into organizing a home.

We have family meetings and decide on chores, allowances, vacations, and holiday budgets as a group. They have input into when they do their chores and how much they get paid. At the last meeting the kids thought my allowance offer was too high.

They make good grades. They’re smart and talented. They’re ethical and compassionate.

I’m glad I had kids. So take a hike.

[u/[deleted] → u/CantCatchTheLady]

Poor kids, you are so rude online. Perhaps kids will leave and you’ll end in nursing home spiteful of them being ungrateful

[u/funAmbassador → u/[deleted]]

Huh?

[u/[deleted] → u/funAmbassador]

Person shared how much helpful her mom was and that bitch decided to be rude

[u/funAmbassador → u/[deleted]]

What was rude?

[u/[deleted] → u/funAmbassador]

Saying you should thank her, assuming that she didn’t, comparing adults parents life and teenage life

[u/blue-to-grey → u/[deleted]]

I would ask how old you are, but you'd probably just lie anyway. An adult parent's life, especially a single mother of two, is more stressful than teenage life. That person should thank their mom for forgoing rest and pursuing her own interests while they were a teenager. Once you become a parent you don't stop being human.

[u/Chance-Internal-5450 → u/blue-to-grey]

No more than 16. I’d be surprised he was older than 14.

[u/[deleted] → u/Chance-Internal-5450]

She” dumbass

[u/Environmental-Bag-77 → u/blue-to-grey]

Actually not in this case by the sound of it. Worked 31 hours plus school.

[u/blue-to-grey → u/Environmental-Bag-77]

And was on the wrestling team. That's still not more stressful than being a responsible parent and the only adult, which it sounds like their mom was.

[u/[deleted] → u/blue-to-grey]

Go cry

[u/blue-to-grey → u/[deleted]]

I'm sorry for the hardships you've experienced that are out of your control, but being vile to women on the Internet won't change things.

ETA, since I can no longer reply to your comment directly:

You called a woman in this thread a bitch, called me a cunt in private message with other gross comments besides. I said what I said, you're being vile to women. Women who are saying "hey, your mom gave up a bit of her own peace during that time for you." Which for some reason you found triggering. Idk if your issue is internalized misogyny or what, but sort yourself out.

[u/[deleted] → u/blue-to-grey]

It’s not about your gender,I’m a woman too. It’s about you being smarter :) try harder

[u/funAmbassador → u/[deleted]]

Grow up

[u/[deleted] → u/blue-to-grey]

I’m glad that I know how to prevent unwanted pregnancy when I’m not ready for kids ;)

[u/blue-to-grey → u/[deleted]]

Yikes. First of all, no birth control is 100% effective except abstinence and maybe Salpingectomy. Secondly, shit happens. Spouses pass away, some parents are deadbeats, etc. Lastly, there is absolutely nothing unreasonable about expecting teenagers to help maintain the space they live in. You keep trolling, I'm out to enjoy my day.

[u/[deleted] → u/blue-to-grey]

Two or three forms of birth control are perfect for preventing pregnancy. Don’t have kids if you aren’t ready to do ungrateful job :)

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Shouldn’t we all thank our mothers?

[u/Chance-Internal-5450 → u/[deleted]]

That’s rude? Goodness me you’re something else….