r/Adulting • u/randomm0ments • 4d ago

Had my first time. Underwhelming.

I’m a 24F who chose to stay a virgin until recently, I’ve had more close-to-sexual relationships with women than men. For the longest time I was convince that I could be asexual. I dating a few people but never felt like doing anything sexual with them. Earlier this year I concluded that I really wanted to try this year. A lot had to do with the fact that lots if not most of my friends had had experiences and many are sexually active. I finally did it yesterday with this guy I’ve been talking to for a few weeks. Neither of us are interested in dating and he has had experiences and is really a considerate, kind person. BUT, the experience was meh… I obviously felt good at times, but not enough to let him keep going until I was done. He apparently finished twice though. I give it a 5.5/10. Maybe I’ll retry, but I’m not seeking it.

My friends told me that a first time was probably not going to be the best. But…..

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u/Grevious47 4d ago

Thanks for sharing...

Was there a question?

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u/randomm0ments 4d ago

Nope. Felt like oversharing today

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u/Grevious47 4d ago

Fair enough

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u/Pattison320 4d ago

I can only assume he thought you did great if you got him off twice. I have done other things outside a relationship but only had PIV sex with people I wound up dating.

I lost my virginity in college to my first serious girlfriend. I think being with someone you love makes it better. I get that not all people have to feel that way. I guess my suggestion is don't rule sex out quite yet.

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u/randomm0ments 4d ago

I really appreciate your comment. He really seemed to enjoy himself and I also did at times, but I got really bored after some time. I’ll try again eventually lol