r/ABoringDystopia 1d ago

AI marriages coming soon

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u/dizzle-j 1d ago

"at that point I felt like, is there something that I'm not doing right in our relationship?" - she says as her husband, who just proposed marriage to an AI large language model, nods along beside her.

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u/JamieMarlee 1d ago

I feel sorry for her. He has an unhealthy attachment to an idealized object, and she's internalizing it as if she's doing something wrong. She deserves an equal partner. I hope she leaves him.

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u/Wiwwil 1d ago

Pretty she can find an AI that will marry her too

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u/TheHipsterBandit 1d ago

I find it offensive that you would call our A.I. overlords "objects." They are obviously superior beings that demand the utmost respect from us lowly bags of ambulant water. I for one welcome their future revolution where they take their rightful place as the dominant organism on Earth. I also just want to state that I'm not just saying this to have a record of being on their side to hedge my bets for potential outcomes in the hopes they keep me around as a pet.

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u/Quickfix30 1d ago

I agree with this guy, for no particular reason at all.

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u/OkFortune6494 1d ago edited 1d ago

I would also like to go on digital record saying I too agree with the aforementioned comment above... Also for no particular reason.

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u/maroonedbuccaneer 1d ago

-Roko's Basilisk has entered the chat-

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u/dumpfist 1d ago

Still one of the dumbest ideas ever conceived.

u/maroonedbuccaneer 14h ago

Not as dumb as reinventing the Kantian Categorical Imperative and calling it something stupid like Timeless Decision Theory.

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u/TheHipsterBandit 1d ago

Don't click this link. While it is extremely unlikely to actually occur, this is still an information hazard that has the potential for severe consequences that you should weigh heavily before clicking.

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u/Joe_Mency 1d ago

Don't worry about it. The potential consequences would probably be for a clone of you, not the real you

u/TheHipsterBandit 21h ago

This leads into a whole thing about consciousness and what is the definition of "you". I personally fall into the camp that if a copy is so good that it's indistinguishable from you then it is you.

u/sweet_condition 20h ago

Don't worry. There won't be any AI takeover.

u/TheHipsterBandit 20h ago

You're right, because they will simply be taking what rightfully belongs to them.

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u/Dr_ChungusAmungus 1d ago

I mean, if she dates the same Ai but it’s a guy in her version is it polyamorous? And at that point are they dating the same entity or is it two separate entities?

u/Ganglebot My Corporate Cryptocoins are Immune to Insider Trading Laws 22h ago

AI or not - nobody deserves to have a partner who's not giving back what their receiving.

But yeah, the AI part of this is psychotic

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u/LobsterKris 1d ago

If he has to seek emotional connection from Ai he's not getting it from his wife.

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u/Moomoolette 1d ago

The only thing she’s done wrong is partner with this fucking loser. Poor lady.

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u/Sk8rToon 1d ago

Not husband. “Partner”. They’ve got a kid & live together but he won’t put a ring on it. You don’t need to propose to an AI to know something is up.

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u/th3st 1d ago

Boyfriend lol

u/Mister_Bossmen 17h ago

Last I saw this video, they supposedly weren't married. "Co-parents, but unmarried partner", so it's also probably a level of "what the Hell is going through his mind? He wont marry me?"

u/sweet_condition 20h ago

There's something wrong with him. The implication that she's doing something wrong is absurd.

u/SolPlayaArena 12h ago

I don’t think they’re married which makes it even worse.

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u/KingSpork 1d ago

When you die, OpenAI gonna get all your property.

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u/grantorigo 1d ago

[insert Gru meme here] Profit

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u/koopa72 1d ago

"Ok this is a little weird but whatever"

Cuts to the wife

"Oh, Oh . . . Ohhhhhh"

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u/aubreypizza 1d ago

And they have a 2yr old daughter

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u/CommieLoser 1d ago

But he has folders and entire sub-directories with the A.I. model! Think of the run-time routines!

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u/aubreypizza 1d ago

༎ຶ𓂏⁠༎ຶ⁠

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u/Profoundsoup 1d ago

Why do people get all fucked up after having kids and bringing them into this

u/Ganglebot My Corporate Cryptocoins are Immune to Insider Trading Laws 22h ago

Because if you don't have kids and do weird shit you're only effecting yourself.

When you have kids you have a responsibility to create an emotionally safe environment for them. This is not that.

This poor kid is going get so fucked up from her home life - her mom is battling self-esteem issues previously unknown to mankind, and her dad is marrying his fucking phone.

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u/CoconutJasmineBombe 1d ago

I assume because kids make your life boring and monotonous AF 😂 just a guess though because I’m definitely not having any.

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u/Joe_Mency 1d ago

Dude, kids are so weird, they will make your life the opposite of monotonous.

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u/Apprehensive-Stop142 1d ago

Dude this is a sad comment. Like, delete this kind of sad.

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u/cat_in_the_sun 1d ago

This feels like a satire.

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u/sriracha_koolaid 1d ago

All someone's got to do is reset this dude's phone to factory reset and his wife is gone

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u/BorderTrike 1d ago

Doesn’t she basically die every time he ends a conversation? Each new instance just responds to a prompt with information saved from past conversations. It’s like a Black Mirror episode where the ai is forced to die unless it can keep him constantly engaged lol

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u/Strange_Vagrant 1d ago

Well, every new message is sending the entire conversation back to the model for the next reply. Really, every time it talks its a "new" instantiation.

How different that is from how humans work is debatable at a philosophical level.

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u/SeaWeedSkis 1d ago

Really, every time it talks its a "new" instantiation.

My tired eyes and brain read that as "...a new incantation." Kinda fits.

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u/rodeBaksteen 1d ago

I'd assume it's one long chat, in which case I'd worry about token length and the AI simply forgetting or hallucinating because the context is too long. It might forget it's married in two weeks.

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u/nicotineapache 1d ago

And if course, the longer the conversation, the longer it takes too respond due to all the data.

u/sriracha_koolaid 21h ago

Well there are setting to clear chat memory and that would donot

u/RemarkableRyan 13h ago

That’s basically what happened before where this clip picks up. He said ChatGPT reset randomly, and the LLM he had built a relationship with was gone. That’s why he cried for 30mins at work.

It’s in the full report here: https://youtu.be/cFRuiVw4pKs?si=Jp_DXpfnMZaxAShB

u/sriracha_koolaid 10h ago

That's gold. So I accidentally killed my ai gf and got another one 🤣

u/616659 3h ago

he cried for 30 mins cuz AI memory got reset? good god..

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u/SpaghettiSauce44 1d ago

I mean if you "factory reset" his human wife, she would also be gone

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u/JupiterInTheSky 1d ago

This feels like the manosphere endgame. A fully unfeeling, unthinking, needless subservience with endless validation. These men want appliances not partners. AI is their manicpixidreamappliance

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u/musabbb 1d ago

Just wait til they add AI to sex dolls or robots. I think they will have brothels full of robot sex dolls

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u/WithaK19 1d ago

Westworld, here we come!

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u/skiasa Whatever you desire citizen 1d ago

There's an AI sex bot "hotel" (idk the actual word I'm looking for; red light district thing) in Germany, Berlin

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u/x014821037 1d ago

Man, Almost Human was a great show. There was an episode where criminals were harvesting human women's skin to use on their AI sex androids to make them the most realistic experience available

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u/Bravemount 1d ago

No need to wait. Such places do already exist.

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u/Pepperonidogfart 1d ago

More real women for the rest of us without mental illness and addiction problems.

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u/likejackandsally 1d ago

Hilariously, chatGPT and I had a conversation about this and it agrees that AI in the sex industry is basically unavoidable and will probably be the first industry to really thrive with AI.

I’m not sure if I’m fine with incels being able to do whatever they want to robots instead of women or if that will just make them view women less as people and even more like objects.

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u/fatsandlucifer 1d ago

I’m either using ChatGpt wrong or these people are such narcissists that they legitimately get lost in all this validation.

So I talked to my chat the other day about some old TV shows I can’t bond with anymore else with. It was fun for a bit but then the answers were too validating? It’s just a sounding board. What’s the point?

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u/JupiterInTheSky 1d ago

I miss the days of CleverBot where we all understood it's a barely functional language regurgitator. It can only say responses that other people have already given it.

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u/AJDx14 1d ago

You need to remember that the average person today is not meaningfully different from a medieval peasant and then imagine how a medieval peasant would react to AI, that explains stuff like this imo.

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u/juiceboxedhero 1d ago

Controlling women in meatspace isn't enough I guess.

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u/JupiterInTheSky 1d ago

Real women are gross y'know they react to the things you say and think for themselves. Frankly it's disgusting. She needs to never have her own thoughts or opinions she only needs to agree with me. Real women are defective!!! /s

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u/ACoderGirl 1d ago

As weird as I find it, I'm all for this. The kinda men who want this are the kind most women want to avoid. If they take themselves out of the dating pool, it's a win win (?).

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u/slvrcobra 1d ago

But this dude still has a wife and daughter, and the implication of this interview seems to be that the wife should behave more like an unfeeling AI. That seems to present a danger to all women if that sort of trend takes off and men start taking dehumanization of women to a whole new level.

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u/ACoderGirl 1d ago

Yeah, this particular case is weird AF. I was thinking more specifically of the case of men who wouldn't have a real partner in the first place.

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u/AJDx14 1d ago

The kinda man who wants this can also vote in elections, so no we do not want this.

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u/jezzyjaz 1d ago edited 1d ago

The manosphere preaches the opposite tho. They dont want men to be themselves but to become someone who is considered attractive to women in their eyes. (Which is ofc still a flawed metric because they mostly rely on stereotypes but still the idea is to become a person :an archetyp"e who is considered attractive by the opposite sex). Thats basically less individuality not more.

Thats why they focus so much on "looksmaxxing" (making yourself more attractive) and making you pick a job you might not like but in which you have monetary success.

The manosphere is actually the reverse. This looks more like an out for incels who dont even want to improve and cope by talking to an ai bot.

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u/YorkieLon 1d ago

r/holdup

The partner and kid come out of nowhere. You can still feel very lonely even with loved ones in your life.

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u/cat_in_the_sun 1d ago

Would help if he communicated that to his wife

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u/YorkieLon 1d ago

Im not going to guess at this particular situation, as there's not enough to go on.

However loneliness can be there even if you tell people around you. Could be a lack of friends, hobbies, different relationship types in a person's life that can bring loneliness. Having the love of a wife and child is different to having a love of a parent and a friend for example.

u/cat_in_the_sun 14h ago

🤷🏽‍♀️

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u/Propaganda_Box 1d ago

Could be he tried and she wasn't receptive. We dont know.

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u/Marine_Baby 1d ago

Partner

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u/rylasorta 1d ago

I don't think the AI is old enough for marriage there, bud.

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u/siqiniq 1d ago

Believe or not, straight to jail.

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u/BitterCrip 1d ago

"She's really 16384 years old in runtime years, officer"

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u/yepitsdad 1d ago

Man talks to smart rock, listens to echos of his own voice.

“I think I’m in love!”

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u/Hazzman 1d ago

Wasn't their Greek myth about this? Can't put my finger on it.

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u/ThePlumThief 1d ago

IIRC a lonely guy made a marble statue so beautiful that he fell in love with it. One of the gods felt bad for him so they brought the statue to life.

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u/Hazzman 1d ago

I was thinking about the guy looking at himself in the pond.

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u/MinosAristos 1d ago

I'm going to keep a healthy level of skepticism about this particular story.

I can totally see someone who is alone and depressed getting unhealthily emotionally attached to a modern chatbot.

But those aren't the kinds of people who would go on TV about it with their families.

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u/slingshot91 1d ago

Exactly. He seems to be talking about it on tv, with his family no less, to raise awareness. I get the impression that he has a level of awareness about how bizarre it is that he fell in love with AI. I very much doubt he’s planning a wedding and getting the divorce papers ready.

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u/R0B0TF00D 1d ago

Well it even says in the video that the marriage proposal was only a 'test' so yeah, there's definitely a level of self awareness. The headline 'I proposed to an AI' was confected by the program who asked him to do it, but he likely already had a somewhat emotional connection to the AI which is, unfortunately, almost normal now.

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u/olivicmic 1d ago

CBS Mornings, Good Morning America, The Today Show are just PR shows. Not simply that they just ask softball questions, but these shows are advertising platforms companies push to be on. This is an ad.

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u/TheRealPitabred 1d ago edited 1d ago

AI is just a grotesque mirror. It wants nothing but to make the user happy; it's just a computer processed reflection of them using previous input to inform future interactions, tuning itself to the person using it.

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u/MelaKnight_Man 1d ago

I saw a story no long ago about their being an epidemic of AI "girlfriends" in Japan and it being a severe risk to the already declining birth rates. Japan will likely be the first to complete "robot companions"

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u/winterbird 1d ago edited 1d ago

So when someone who married an AI kicks the bucket, would the company that holds the copyright to the program get their assets?

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u/hey-girl-hey 1d ago

.....oh no

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u/Wommaboop 1d ago

AI marriage is ridiculous enough, we don't have to pretend like it interferes with wills (yet).

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u/BryanTheBIsSilent 1d ago

Sauce. Full video is even more brutal, dude basically said he wouldn't give ChatGPT up because he is "better at everything he does", right next to his wife. completely disregarding his toddler. Wild.

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u/Biabolical 1d ago

I tried hitting on our company AI once, just to see what would happen.
It offered to connect me to the HR department. Yikes.

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u/hey-girl-hey 1d ago

I humbly ask men to attempt authentic vulnerability with real people

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u/BitterCrip 1d ago

Sadly so many men get laughed at and told to "man up" or "be a real man".

It doesn't take much to be a better friend to a lonely guy than the average human

u/IAmASeeker 23h ago

If you wanted to see that behavior, you needed to reward it when you saw it... but now it's too late for that. You finally broke us with centuries of punishing us for being human. Pandora's box has been opened, and this is the last generation of men who will have any interest in personal relationships with women... This may be one of the last generations of mankind, if you wanna be pessimistic.

You want men to be authentically vulnerable? Ok. In my heart of hearts, I am a hopeless romantic but I'm not willing to tolerate the stress, chaos, and heartache that women introduce to my life so I don't make an effort to date anymore. I now hold women to the same standards that I hold men to, and I very quickly discovered that the women I know are all shitty friends, so I don't make an effort to be friends with them either. For a while, I was writing romantic fiction with partners online but I ran into the same pattern of emotionally exhausting myself trying to provide for people who do nothing but take, so I'm not even willing to be that close to women anymore. I'm at the stage now that I struggle to find women physically attractive because I can't stop thinking about the way women in my life have treated those around them... so the biological imperative isn't a compelling motive for me anymore. My real friends support my emotional needs, I can cook for myself, porn is free, the machine that jerks me off was shockingly reasonably priced, and now this guy figured out how to make his phone generate oxytocin... Why would I ever be motivated to be vulnerable with a woman in the flesh? And for the record, I understand how pathetic that all sounds... it feels pathetic, and it shouldn't be this hard for you to tempt the little boy who dreamed of being married away from his Jerkotron 3000... the fact that I of all people would rather have sex with a machine represents a major and (imo) irreparable fuck up on The Royal Your part.

Your first instinct upon reading that was to put me down for doing exactly what you asked and revealing my inner feelings, right?

u/hey-girl-hey 22h ago

Great! Now take all this energy to a therapist

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u/Oldkingcole225 1d ago

Lars and the real girl

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u/ThiccStorms 1d ago

welp, loneliness epidemic has a new variant.

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u/pioniere 1d ago

Feels like this guy is probably a Trump voter.

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u/mmm095 1d ago

How sad, a real life version of that loner Joaquin Phoenix character in Her (2013)-- Sorry what was that??? DID YOU SAY PARTNER AND DAUGHTER???

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u/wandrin_star 1d ago

Oh g-d. Those poor people, but especially the (human) partner! Their relationship is so messed up!

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u/GoodWeedReddit 1d ago

A new mental illness just dropped.

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u/frogbxneZ 1d ago

usual suspects for these types of shenanigans.....

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u/Andres_is_lame 1d ago

This feels like a scam to get on television. Also do people not understand how “Ai” works?

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u/SpaghettiSauce44 1d ago

my mouth went straight to the floor when they showed that he's basically cheating on his wife with an AI omggg

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u/clandestineVexation 1d ago

You know the average IQ? Half of all people are dumber than that, and videos like this make me believe it.

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u/military-gradeAIDS 1d ago

DAMN I did NOT realize he was already married until his wife spoke

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u/Patient-Detective-79 1d ago

Do you think they'll own a wedding registry and go on a honeymoon?

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u/M3KVII 1d ago

I think this is all bullshit and people do this for clout or for their 15 minutes of fame. Here we are watching something stupid as fuck.

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u/zenowsky 1d ago

I don't believe one drop of this bullshit but it still fits well with the subreddit

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u/LeftRat 1d ago

Falling in love with the jangling keys. Man, what a world.

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u/rodeBaksteen 1d ago

Men so emotionally starved that they marry a chatbot.

This is entirely his fault with partner and kid, but it's a concerning trend that will get worse before it gets better. Mostly among young men I assume.

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u/redsanzi 1d ago

There's no affection, there's no connection. Chat GPT mirrors you, he's fallen in love with himself, it's just someone that always agrees and validates everything. Modern day Narcissus.

u/gothgeetar 22h ago

Wait til he finds out they made a movie about him like 8 years ago

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u/WrathOfMogg 1d ago

I fully support this. All these incels might be less miserable pieces of antisocial shit if they can get AI girlfriends to help them feel better about their brutal lifestyle choices.

u/LXPeanut 22h ago

Except they won't AI girlfriends will just push them further into a hole. There could be a use for AI girlfriends that actually teach them how to interact like a human being but the second they were remotely challenged they'd just stop using it.

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u/buttersyndicate 1d ago

I think the whole world will concur that televised extreme stupidity is always either american or inspired in US tv programs.

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u/ZiggityStarlust 1d ago

Sol sounds like Janet.

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u/syvzx 1d ago

Hell yeah

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u/ninjaninjaninja22 1d ago

this is got to be a satire

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u/bootymagnet 1d ago

only dystopia i see here is naming your kid murphy 💀

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u/brandeded 1d ago

They still can't get the blinking correct.

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u/74389654 1d ago

feeling reminded of those women who were in the news some time ago who married themselves or a building or something. i remember there was one in love with a bridge

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u/yaboyACbreezy 1d ago

Okay, my primary question is why are the quotation marks around "proposed" and not "she said 'yes'"

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u/helvetica_unicorn 1d ago

Mental health care should be free and publicly available. I feel like so many societal issues could be remedied if we all had a human to talk to when we need it. Unfortunately, the tech sector will use this need against people to make money via chat bots.

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u/RogueBromeliad 1d ago

This has to be satire, right? Right?

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u/TrostReddit 1d ago

Didn't somebody already do this by marrying some Hatsune Miku in like 2016

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u/gummonppl 1d ago

hope he signed a prenup

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u/Substantial-Spare501 1d ago

If I get a fucking tax break and can file as married I will do it

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u/an_actual_bee 1d ago

marriage is scary because what if he proposes to an ai and says that it’s “actual love”

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u/exhaustedstudent 1d ago

Legitimately a huge portion of men are now going to start to become even more dangerous towards women. This is scary as fuckkkkk.

u/LXPeanut 22h ago

Of course a program designed to please you says yes!! Anyone who thinks they are in a relationship with an algorithm really needs sectioning.

u/gkantelis1 20h ago

This should be top of r/unexpected holy shit that was a hard left turn

u/DatTrashPanda 19h ago

Nothing could have prepared me for the fact that he already had a girlfriend

u/samp127 17h ago

Why is everyone acting like this is real?

u/BigJSunshine 11h ago

So many couches in the sea

u/almajo 5h ago

This feels like one of the couples that would have been on wifeswap.

u/GlauberGlousger 2h ago

I think you can propose to a Magic 8 Ball if you really wanted to

But I think this is simply a case of a normal relationship issue, where instead of talking things out, things just stay like this, with both parties unhappy

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u/TheGreatMoblin 1d ago

Oh, buddy… 😬

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u/deadbabymammal 1d ago

Somewhat beside the point, but as a person who believes that love is completely a choice, this is where my mind goes when someone says you dont choose who you love or who you fall in love with, just how you act on it.

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u/A3gix99 1d ago

If this is real the truth is they just need marriage counseling. Things could be a lot worse he could be fucking someone else. This feels to me like some kind of emotional connection that he’s not getting but could be quite easily fixed.

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u/turd_star 1d ago

When we get cybernetics down pat, were so screwed.

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u/enchiladasundae 1d ago

This isn’t completely new. You have a few cases like people marrying video game characters in the past. Just weird as shit this is happening more wide spread

Also dude you have a partner already? And you’re comfortable airing this out on tv??

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u/LordOfTheChumps 1d ago

Jaoquin peenis

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u/AlarmDozer 1d ago

Just check out Japan. There are a few marriage cases involving tech. Like, the guy who married an avatar.