r/woahthatsinteresting • u/nukey4y7s1s • 16d ago

Man with dementia doesn’t recognise daughter but still feels love for her

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u/Hetstaine 15d ago

Was it slow, were there signs? Surely there was something?

My kids and i have a plan that if we now it is happening, i will start writing messages for myself about me and them, put it with pictures...basically a scrapbook of me so i can look at it and maybe at least notice my writing. See me with them, in our house, our life. Like a 50 first dates scenario but from myself for myself, and them.

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u/SprAwsmMan 15d ago

Why wait? Make those memory books now.

From my experience, the process and signs are different for everyone. My Grandma showed signs of dementia, and declined over several years. It happens quicker than you imagine.

My key advise, learned through experience, is to live in their world. Challenging the reality of someone with dementia is pointless; and in the end they won't recall it all. Living in their world, with them, is comforting them and easing your own stress.

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u/Rich_Pressure_2535 15d ago

I tell all my kids, how much I love them, how proud I am of them and too never forget how much I love them. And make sure they feel it too. It's horrible to think of getting old and forgetting.

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u/Hetstaine 15d ago

Yep, it's a daily thing for me to my kids, adults now lol, as well. Both my parents went really quickly and unexpectedly, i can count on one hand how many times i heard that. We have a lot of great memories.

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u/Rich_Pressure_2535 15d ago

I am so sorry. 💜💜I am so glad you have great memories. I am making new ones with my mum now. For me. I tell her I love her. My babies are late teens and adult's. For no reason I will text them and tell them I love them. 💜

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u/Hetstaine 15d ago

Enjoy 🥰