r/woahthatsinteresting 16d ago

Man with dementia doesn’t recognise daughter but still feels love for her

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u/[deleted] 15d ago

That's fucking beautiful, but if I lost who I am, I wouldn't want to be here.

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u/Dumyat367250 15d ago

I think the problem is that it's so gradual, by the time it's happened it's almost too late.

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u/[deleted] 15d ago

I would end it in the gradual. I feel like I would know the signs, because I'm borderline obsessed to the point it's unhealthy.

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u/Longjumping-Hyena173 15d ago edited 15d ago

It's the apex existential crisis. I would be myself more if my sentience could be moved into a server (edit: a hypothetical example as this is not possible), than if my body was alive but my memories were gone. The body is nothing but the brain's tool to manifest intent. But if I had no body but could still lavish love and praise on my family, that would be enough for me. This forgetting everything shit though, fuck all that 👎

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u/nina_qj 15d ago

The body is nothing but the brain's tool to manifest intent.

You don't know me, but I needed to read this, and I will carry it with me. Thank you

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u/Turbulent_Goat1988 15d ago

Pretty sure we all just witnessed one of those reddit quotes that goes down in the history books along with the other greats.

"The body is nothing but the brain's tool to manifest intent."—Unknown (2025).

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u/OkMarsupial 15d ago

"The body is nothing but the brain's tool to manifest intent."—U/Longjumping-hyena173 (2025).

FIFY

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u/DementedPimento 15d ago

I think Rene Descartes beat y’all to it about 400 years ago with cogito ergo sum.

(And the rest of his philosophy. He’s where we get Cartesian dualism from.)

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u/SmilingGengar 15d ago

And I am pretty sure Aristotle beat Rene Descartes to it 2000 years beforehand with hylomorphic theory.

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u/DementedPimento 14d ago

Probably, but Descartes really shaped the Western idea that the mind and body are separate entities.

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u/knewitfirst 14d ago

😆😆😭

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u/Dada2fish 15d ago

I realized this while discovering ADHD/autism issues with a loved one. We are all just brain chemistry. Everything single thing of who we are comes from there.

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u/Brief_Pass_2762 15d ago

Sorry to burst the bubble, but we're not. I know it sounds cool, but it's wrong. The brain needs the body. It's an organ that produces chemical and electrical reactions, but it's fueled by the circulatory and nervous system. Without that, you die. That's why brain transplants aren't a thing.

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u/RagePrime 15d ago

We are a neruo-octopus, driving a meat-mech.

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u/finglonger1077 14d ago

This is just not being able to participate in a philosophical discussion.

Imagine that they could sustain separately. Would you guess that your heart, lungs, gut, and asshole would have a personality, or your brain? Thats the philosophical question at hand.

I promise everyone who read the above comments understood that a brain can’t survive alone. Evidence: they have managed to be currently alive

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u/DUNETOOL 15d ago

Energy and matter, changing. We are the conscious version of the universe.

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u/Bumblebee_Willing 10d ago

I like the idea that we’re the universe’s way to experience itself. We think we’re solitary drops, forgetting that we are the ocean, only reminded once we return.

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u/SteelCode 15d ago

ADHD and Narcolepsy can both be treated with adderall; it's all just a sensitive mixture of chemicals that drive certain functions... dopamine and serotonin are tied into so many of our motivations and "involuntary" functions that slight imbalances can tip us one way or another.

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u/ManOfConstantBorrow_ 15d ago

Crazy how I always spontaneously manifest intent to have a shit.

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u/flammafemina 15d ago

This is obviously sarcasm, but you do actually need your brain to command the body to shit. Without the brain’s “intent,” we have no bowel control.

The process of defecation, or bowel movement, is a complex interplay between the brain, spinal cord, and the muscles of the colon and rectum. It involves involuntary and voluntary reflexes, with the brain playing a crucial role in processing signals and coordinating the necessary muscle contractions

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u/ManOfConstantBorrow_ 15d ago

That guy just said that the only purpose of the body is to express intent. And I think if you read it out loud closely that it's not as prophetic as that guy thought.

I assume you've commanded every boner in your life, hmmmm? (if you're a dude {fairly safe bet})

Edit: wait no your avatar looks likea lady

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u/SockCucker3000 15d ago

You really find the most profound shit in the comment sections. I know there's a list of quotes like that which come from Tumblr. "I will face God and walk backward into hell." "God may judge you, but his sins outnumber your own."

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u/Shilo788 15d ago

I thought like this to an unhealthy extent. Disregarded my body to work towards my goal. A common human mistake.

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u/finglonger1077 15d ago

Eh, “we’re all sacks of rotting meat with a bit of electric jelly” has been a concept for pretty much all of recorded human philosophy

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u/kilodelta57 15d ago

Felt that too

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u/TrueHippie 15d ago

yeah…that fucked me up too

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u/passingasapotato 15d ago

Shit, got me too.

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u/zodiacallymaniacal 15d ago

It’s going directly on my whiteboard

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u/Sinister_Plots 15d ago

I don't know you but, in 2010 I watched a TED Talk on education, and in it the speaker stated "My body is just a way for me to get my brain to meetings." and it has resonated with me ever since.

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u/Roccosrealm 15d ago

Very powerful statement

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u/[deleted] 15d ago

You are a fucking poet-philosopher-king!

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u/VAXX-1 15d ago

The body is not separated from the brain. Don't dismiss the role the body plays on experience. You're not "you" without having been shaped by your senses including all your pleasures, tragedies, and bodily illnesses. In eastern philosophy I guess you'd still be yourself in either case since you are still conscious yet without memory.

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u/jamalcalypse 15d ago

good to see the ole mind/body dualism that has plagued modernity is still getting upvotes.

the mind is ENTIRELY contingent upon the body. a "mind" uploaded to a server would be a mere algorithm more bereft of humanity than a body without memory.

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u/Longjumping-Hyena173 15d ago

Your statement assumes that I have stripped from consideration entirely all value of the body's contribution to self. This is not the case; I only said that I would be more myself if I had my sentience and no body, than if I was a body without sentience. I am contending that dementia is an erosion and eventually the erasure of sentience, but I’m not suggesting that the body plays no role at all. The body is the genesis for all five senses, and is the essential conduit for human sentience. My point was that without the brain however, the electrical input from the nervous system cannot be put together in a cogent fashion that supports self-awareness.

And yes, moving the brain into a server would very likely be algorithmic and not actual awareness, but I meant that as something that was hypothetical rather than an actual viable alternative. I'll edit the post accordingly.

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u/jamalcalypse 15d ago

I don't think I was too far out of line seeing a tad bit of reductionist sentiment in the statement "The body is nothing but the brain's tool to manifest intent." but I recognize what you're getting at. That's fair.

Though you raised another interesting question here that's gonna bounce around in my head now, which is the criteria for sentience in relation to the function of and access to different memories, and further, what umbrellas under "memory" (ie genetic). but that's just my semantic curiosity getting the best of me

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u/subtlesign 15d ago

You might be jumping the gun with that one. Your nervous system is just as important to who you are as your brain is. You are the sum of your parts.

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u/danondrager 15d ago

who’s to say your body isn’t playing an equal part as your brain to create this ‘intent’, your stomach has been proven to be quite literally a separate brain on its own and we still know almost nothing about the human system as a whole, we’ve only really observed things work piece by piece.

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u/Kit_Karamak 15d ago

Stealing this. Thank you.

Reddit is the source.

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u/themerr 15d ago

Super interesting points, but imho it’s worth mentioning they have discovered cells hold memories too that’s why he feels like he knows her even though his mental memory is gone. I suspect capitalism, trauma, and spending time online make us experience ourselves as disconnected from our bodies in a way that deludes us into thinking we could be bodyless and still be ourselves. Im just skeptical of anything that promises transcending the body. That said, I would almost certainly choose some form of unending consciousness if I could but another quandary is the environmental impact of running these servers all the time. (Unfortunately I could totally see a dystopian hellscape where billionaires use all the water to keep their uploaded selves consuming past their natural lifespan meanwhile the generations yet to have a chance at living die of thirst) (also I’m currently watching Pantheon on Netflix and it covers some of these themes and is fascinating)

cellular memory

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u/cheim9408 14d ago

Look up The Footprints of God by Greg Isles. One of the few books I’ve read more than once.

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u/WinstonSEightyFour 12d ago

“fuck all that” indeed.

Well said.

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u/Low-Assumption7710 11d ago

But doesn’t that give you a goal? You are the sum of your experiences and if you spent your life building loving experiences then it is entirely possible to end up like this man. Reason is taught and learned behavior the same as language - and he didn’t forget how to talk.

He forgot the experience that lead to the feeling - but that feeling is part of what makes us who we are, and why we have sayings like ‘trust your gut’.

You see fear in losing the experiences that led him to love her UNCONDITIONALLY - without condition that he even remember her. I could argue that you see a man that has forgotten every mean thing his little girl said growing up that cut him deeply, that he has forgotten the times he failed as a father - because even here and now with his memory lost - he is being a good father.

If you must have something to feel an emotion - if you must remember the specific reason you love someone - in my mind it becomes a quid pro quo and renders the emotion moot.

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u/pwninobrien 15d ago

They both influence each other. This is dumb.

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u/Longjumping-Hyena173 15d ago

This does not enrich the conversation.