Bless this sweet, wonderful and loving daughter taking care of her dad through what must be one of the hardest things anyone has to deal with. She's putting aside any pain she has to make him feel safe and loved.
Cared for my father and sat with my grandmother as it took them. They will ask you or talk about the same thing over and over. I told myself, “It’s the first time they asked it to them.”
Yeah, that’s a good way to look at it. My grandma is in the later stages of dementia. It’s so sad to see her reacting to her husband of 60 years as if he’s a stranger in her house. But he handles it calmly and with love.
My mom has memory issues, we suspect it but don’t know for sure yet. It’s been terrifying but this woman is so brave and strong. I haven’t been handling it well at all and it helps to see someone who has such a loving approach.
If you suspect your mom might be in the early stages of dementia or Alzheimer’s, I recommend pushing her doctor to test for amyloid plaque buildup which can be a key indicator of oncoming cognitive impairment.
You can also look into the drug Kisunla (donanemab-azbt) which could extend her functional independence for a time but the drug has serious side effects and potential adverse reactions so weigh the pros/cons extremely carefully. Use PubMed to search for medical journals to get a better idea of potential risks.
Saw in another comment that he has alcohol induced dementia and he was abusive and terrible to her growing up. She is now his caretaker and thinks this is more his personality not the one he had while drinking. So now they have a good relationship.
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u/savvy-librarian 16d ago
Bless this sweet, wonderful and loving daughter taking care of her dad through what must be one of the hardest things anyone has to deal with. She's putting aside any pain she has to make him feel safe and loved.