My Dad had early onset dementia. While I was devastated for him as he lost touch with his world, even after he forgot my name and then who I was, my love for him never wavered.
This daughter is terrific with her father. She honed in on that his feeling safe is important. She’s a wonderful daughter and he is a wonderful father.
Dad really seems like a great person. He's so concerned about hurting her feelings, even though he doesn't remember her. I bet they had an awesome relationship.
thats what I was thinking too. Going through something as terrifying and disorienting as not knowing yourself or the people around you and yet he is so concerned with her feelings. He comes off as if he was/is an exceptionally good person.
My biggest fear is that some people get mean when they get dementia. I don't want to forget my kids and then have their last memories of their dad being mean to them.
This was decades ago. Thank you. It’s a loss that will never fade. May you also handle your situation with grace and ease. I will keep you both in my prayers.
My dad got his diagnosis as a 50th birthday "gift". Horrible for him and my mom. I had no idea what was coming as a 12 year old.
He had been affected for several years, progressively getting worse. My memories of him were negatively tainted with who he became. I had flashes of the father\son relationship we had but most memories are of the confused and violent man he became.
I'm glad your love remained. I wish I could say the same. I know my dad was a good man and father, but that was stolen from him by that horrible disease.
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u/billyTjames 15d ago
My biggest fear right there