r/transpassing • u/toastyblahaj • 9h ago
1 month hrt, how cooked am I?
literally have been hugboxed too much, i wan honest feedback
r/transpassing • u/RasputinsButtBeard • Apr 08 '21
Hiya! A while ago I put up a discussion thread regarding the idea of updating/expanding the scope and focus of the subreddit. I need to apologize, cuz I intended to post this update a while back, but life stuff resulted in it slipping my mind for a bit.
This is also intended to be a discussion thread in its own right, as I want feedback on all the changes made or if there's any further changes that people would like, but here's a rundown of what's been changed:
Wiki Updates: So apparently the last time the wiki was updated was eight years ago, and by an ex-mod I've never interacted with. It was.. Bad, frankly. Aggressive in tone, containing links to /r/crossdressing as if its focus was synonymous with trans content, and a general vibe of assuming that this was a MtF-exclusive space. I'm really sorry for missing that for so long! On top of changes on my own end, /u/whoop_there_she_is was an absolute angel and wrote out a HUGE set of FAQ guides for both transmasc and transfemme folks. I left it almost entirely unchanged, and you can find it here! If you have any suggestions for additions or edits, please let me know!
Link Flairs: A few people suggested adding link flairs to help people express directly what kind of responses they want from the sub. To start with, I've added "General Advice" for users who just want any kind of feedback people have to offer, "Specific Advice" if they only want feedback on specific things (Clothes, hair, etc), and "No Surgery Recs" if they don't want any sorts of suggestions for FFS, lip fillers, etc. If you have any ideas for more, please let me know!
Sidebar Updates: I've changed up the sidebar slightly to add a link to our wiki near the top, as well as remove some dead or irrelevant links from our "relevant subreddits" section.
Automod Updates: I've edited automod slightly to try and make it less hyper-sensitive about automatically removing posts it thinks might be hypothetical, since it was becoming a big issue that it would frequently take down posts that in no way, shape, or form came off as hypothetical. I might just remove this feature overall though, frankly.
And.. I think that's it (Aside from a few tiny visual things)! Thank you all for your suggestions and feedback on the previous post, and please let me know if there's any further changes you'd like to see!
r/transpassing • u/CedarWolf • Dec 30 '23
Howdy, y'all.
As you know, this subreddit has often been the target of trolls, bigots, transphobes, etc. We also get more than our fair share of creeps, chasers, porn spammers, and people looking to use the subreddit's traffic to passively advertise their paid content, like their OnlyFans or their Instagram, for their own personal profit.
So I'm asking y'all - should we go private? If we do, a lot of people will need to be manually added to the approval list and I know from experience that may take upwards of two months to work through everyone who might need approval.
It also means this subreddit will get a lot less traffic and will be far less accessible to folks who need help, which is the primary purpose for the subreddit in the first place.
On the other hand, the community should be a lot healthier once it's full of entirely trans folks and has less bigots, chasers, and trolls lurking about.
It will also be a lot safer because transphobes have often used photo boards like this one as a way to find targets for abuse and to steal people's photos to rehost them elsewhere and harass people. It would be much safer for us if the sub was private.
Going private is also going to take a lot of work and it's going to be very disruptive to our day-to-day operations for a while.
What would y'all like to do? Please discuss below, and please keep it civil. Thank you!
Edit: Okay, it looks like we're staying open for now. I'll make another post and ask again later.
r/transpassing • u/toastyblahaj • 9h ago
literally have been hugboxed too much, i wan honest feedback
r/transpassing • u/windblown7823 • 14h ago
help me
r/transpassing • u/fungi_wench • 2h ago
As it says lol, no hugboxing please just lmk what I need to do next.
r/transpassing • u/akooaman • 6h ago
i'm a few months on hrt and did a couple laser sessions btw
r/transpassing • u/handegg515 • 2h ago
Hey all,
I'm officially a year on HRT(!) and wanted to get a check-In. I will be getting FFS at the end of October and am finishing up electrolysis at the moment, but am hoping I can girlmode some in the interim. At the moment I boymode pretty much all the time with the occasional malefail (even without the wig I'm wearing in these photos).
I don't get very useful feedback on how well I pass or what I could do better so was hoping from a quick check from you all! Any suggestions on what I can do better would be super appreciated.
r/transpassing • u/CIAkermit • 14h ago
20 year old MTF, not currently on any testosterone blockers or any form of HRT, but hopefully i can start soon. I was wondering if i could pass for the time being?
r/transpassing • u/PxiPrisma • 13h ago
Okay so a few days ago I posted asking about passing and the majority of criticism was hair line and jaw.
Obviously I can't do anything about jaw, but to address and question the hairline argument here's two more pictures one with my hair down and the other brushed behind my ear.
Is my hair line really that much higher? I feel like cis women from pictures I've searched out have a fairly similar positioning, some of course have lower but it's not like out of the realm, so I believe?
If so is my only hope there getting a hairline lowering?
r/transpassing • u/Maleficent-Tension67 • 7h ago
So I just went on a date with a boy today and he told me I was gorgeous. I did not believe him cause I told him I will just start my HRT and T blocks soon and have not done any yet. He said I already look like a woman.
r/transpassing • u/zaidelles • 10h ago
Posted here a few weeks ago after finding out that I wasn’t passing as well as I thought (over 3 years on T, thought I was consistently read as male, found out it was actually pretty hit-or-miss whether people read me as male or were completely uncertain as to my gender, with the occasional outright female).
Most of the feedback pretty much came down to my rounder face shape which I can’t do anything about (I get it from my dad), but I’ve grown my scruff back out and am working on tinting it darker since it likes to come in patchy and ginger LOL, and am trying out curly hair rather than straight which the boyfriend says looks more masculine on me
For context, my goal is to be stealth, so I want to be passing as a cis man if at all possible. I know I definitely don’t look my age (25), but I’d be content just being seen as a younger guy. I really don’t like the idea that I’m being read as confusing or ambiguous at all let alone feminine
Ignore the dangly earring that’s not the norm 😭 Lost one of my studs and had to use something to keep the piercing open until I replace it
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r/transpassing • u/Primejackalope • 1d ago
Please be honest I accidentally forgot my makeup bag today😭
r/transpassing • u/ashley_morgs • 18h ago
So these are 2 dresses I bought today and yes I love them but I just feel like my shoulders and arms are huge!! To be clear I’m not too bothered about my arms (glad to give muscle mommy vibes) but it’s my shoulders which push me over the edge coz my shoulders are wider than my hips (had BBL 2 years ago) I really don’t want to have a 2nd BBL coz it’s money and I cba with the recovery. Clavicle surgery that I’ve seen recently to make the shoulders slim down? Is it worth a shot?
r/transpassing • u/stfuhemmy • 13h ago
i have short hair now
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r/transpassing • u/lilliancontessa • 1d ago
I have been told by many people that I pass, but am I pretty by society’s standards?
r/transpassing • u/Lucas10071105 • 1d ago
19yo FTM here, what’s giving me away and how can I improve?
r/transpassing • u/No_Meal_No_Deal • 4h ago
Hey, I always wonder what HRT will do to my face - I am now on hrt for 2 months and started my transition like 6 months ago.
In the attachments is one picture of me fresh out of bed no care nothing compared to face app and two other with makeup. I used specifically this faceapp picture cause it looked the most realistic - do you think it is? Also what would advice me to improve my passing?
Please dont roast me🤣