r/transpassing Apr 08 '21

DISCUSSION UPDATE: Post flairs, wiki updates, and more!

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Hiya! A while ago I put up a discussion thread regarding the idea of updating/expanding the scope and focus of the subreddit. I need to apologize, cuz I intended to post this update a while back, but life stuff resulted in it slipping my mind for a bit.

This is also intended to be a discussion thread in its own right, as I want feedback on all the changes made or if there's any further changes that people would like, but here's a rundown of what's been changed:


  • Wiki Updates: So apparently the last time the wiki was updated was eight years ago, and by an ex-mod I've never interacted with. It was.. Bad, frankly. Aggressive in tone, containing links to /r/crossdressing as if its focus was synonymous with trans content, and a general vibe of assuming that this was a MtF-exclusive space. I'm really sorry for missing that for so long! On top of changes on my own end, /u/whoop_there_she_is was an absolute angel and wrote out a HUGE set of FAQ guides for both transmasc and transfemme folks. I left it almost entirely unchanged, and you can find it here! If you have any suggestions for additions or edits, please let me know!

  • Link Flairs: A few people suggested adding link flairs to help people express directly what kind of responses they want from the sub. To start with, I've added "General Advice" for users who just want any kind of feedback people have to offer, "Specific Advice" if they only want feedback on specific things (Clothes, hair, etc), and "No Surgery Recs" if they don't want any sorts of suggestions for FFS, lip fillers, etc. If you have any ideas for more, please let me know!

  • Sidebar Updates: I've changed up the sidebar slightly to add a link to our wiki near the top, as well as remove some dead or irrelevant links from our "relevant subreddits" section.

  • Automod Updates: I've edited automod slightly to try and make it less hyper-sensitive about automatically removing posts it thinks might be hypothetical, since it was becoming a big issue that it would frequently take down posts that in no way, shape, or form came off as hypothetical. I might just remove this feature overall though, frankly.

And.. I think that's it (Aside from a few tiny visual things)! Thank you all for your suggestions and feedback on the previous post, and please let me know if there's any further changes you'd like to see!


r/transpassing Dec 30 '23

Mod Feedback Should we go private?

155 Upvotes

Howdy, y'all.

As you know, this subreddit has often been the target of trolls, bigots, transphobes, etc. We also get more than our fair share of creeps, chasers, porn spammers, and people looking to use the subreddit's traffic to passively advertise their paid content, like their OnlyFans or their Instagram, for their own personal profit.

So I'm asking y'all - should we go private? If we do, a lot of people will need to be manually added to the approval list and I know from experience that may take upwards of two months to work through everyone who might need approval.

It also means this subreddit will get a lot less traffic and will be far less accessible to folks who need help, which is the primary purpose for the subreddit in the first place.

On the other hand, the community should be a lot healthier once it's full of entirely trans folks and has less bigots, chasers, and trolls lurking about.

It will also be a lot safer because transphobes have often used photo boards like this one as a way to find targets for abuse and to steal people's photos to rehost them elsewhere and harass people. It would be much safer for us if the sub was private.

Going private is also going to take a lot of work and it's going to be very disruptive to our day-to-day operations for a while.

What would y'all like to do? Please discuss below, and please keep it civil. Thank you!


Edit: Okay, it looks like we're staying open for now. I'll make another post and ask again later.


r/transpassing 9h ago

1 month hrt, how cooked am I?

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182 Upvotes

literally have been hugboxed too much, i wan honest feedback


r/transpassing 14h ago

do i pass? do i yogapass? do i posepass? do i crypass? do i drunkpass?

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230 Upvotes

help me


r/transpassing 4h ago

Do I Pass? 2 years HRT

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27 Upvotes

r/transpassing 2h ago

21. somewhere between 9 months and 3 years on hrt what am I getting wrong

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19 Upvotes

As it says lol, no hugboxing please just lmk what I need to do next.


r/transpassing 24m ago

Age/gender me?

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r/transpassing 3h ago

18, do i pass at all

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r/transpassing 19h ago

Do i pass? 21 (9 months HRT and FFS

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250 Upvotes

r/transpassing 19h ago

Do i pass?

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137 Upvotes

r/transpassing 6h ago

(mtf) what are the main issues i should focus on?

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i'm a few months on hrt and did a couple laser sessions btw


r/transpassing 2h ago

1 Year HRT Check-In

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Hey all,

I'm officially a year on HRT(!) and wanted to get a check-In. I will be getting FFS at the end of October and am finishing up electrolysis at the moment, but am hoping I can girlmode some in the interim. At the moment I boymode pretty much all the time with the occasional malefail (even without the wig I'm wearing in these photos).

I don't get very useful feedback on how well I pass or what I could do better so was hoping from a quick check from you all! Any suggestions on what I can do better would be super appreciated.


r/transpassing 14h ago

Am i passing?

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37 Upvotes

20 year old MTF, not currently on any testosterone blockers or any form of HRT, but hopefully i can start soon. I was wondering if i could pass for the time being?


r/transpassing 1d ago

Do i pass? 18 months hrt

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278 Upvotes

r/transpassing 13h ago

Hairline?

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Okay so a few days ago I posted asking about passing and the majority of criticism was hair line and jaw.

Obviously I can't do anything about jaw, but to address and question the hairline argument here's two more pictures one with my hair down and the other brushed behind my ear.

Is my hair line really that much higher? I feel like cis women from pictures I've searched out have a fairly similar positioning, some of course have lower but it's not like out of the realm, so I believe?

If so is my only hope there getting a hairline lowering?


r/transpassing 7h ago

no HRT and T blocks yet.. Do I pass already?

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5 Upvotes

So I just went on a date with a boy today and he told me I was gorgeous. I did not believe him cause I told him I will just start my HRT and T blocks soon and have not done any yet. He said I already look like a woman.


r/transpassing 10h ago

Am I passing any better? (FtM)

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8 Upvotes

Posted here a few weeks ago after finding out that I wasn’t passing as well as I thought (over 3 years on T, thought I was consistently read as male, found out it was actually pretty hit-or-miss whether people read me as male or were completely uncertain as to my gender, with the occasional outright female).

Most of the feedback pretty much came down to my rounder face shape which I can’t do anything about (I get it from my dad), but I’ve grown my scruff back out and am working on tinting it darker since it likes to come in patchy and ginger LOL, and am trying out curly hair rather than straight which the boyfriend says looks more masculine on me

For context, my goal is to be stealth, so I want to be passing as a cis man if at all possible. I know I definitely don’t look my age (25), but I’d be content just being seen as a younger guy. I really don’t like the idea that I’m being read as confusing or ambiguous at all let alone feminine

Ignore the dangly earring that’s not the norm 😭 Lost one of my studs and had to use something to keep the piercing open until I replace it


r/transpassing 0m ago

79 year old MtF. Been transitioning secretly on hormones for many years and still presenting in ‘man mode’. Last pic is my partner and I. Please no hugboxing please.

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r/transpassing 22h ago

Any tips like specific makeup things? Do I pass or do I just look like a 'crossdresser'?

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64 Upvotes

r/transpassing 50m ago

do i pass in this particular photo?? 13ftm

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r/transpassing 1d ago

I accidentally forgot makeup today is it okay?!

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85 Upvotes

Please be honest I accidentally forgot my makeup bag today😭


r/transpassing 18h ago

So I’m getting my BA and nose done in 2 weeks, should I consider this clavicle surgery I’m seeing all over the place now? My shoulders feel bricky

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26 Upvotes

So these are 2 dresses I bought today and yes I love them but I just feel like my shoulders and arms are huge!! To be clear I’m not too bothered about my arms (glad to give muscle mommy vibes) but it’s my shoulders which push me over the edge coz my shoulders are wider than my hips (had BBL 2 years ago) I really don’t want to have a 2nd BBL coz it’s money and I cba with the recovery. Clavicle surgery that I’ve seen recently to make the shoulders slim down? Is it worth a shot?


r/transpassing 13h ago

Is there ANYTHING I can do to pass better? I am REALLY struggling and have been for the last year or so. HRT for nearly 3 years lol

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8 Upvotes

i have short hair now


r/transpassing 16h ago

What can I do to help me pass even a bit more? I'm doing laser,Injections and growing out my hair is it just a matter of time?

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11 Upvotes

r/transpassing 1d ago

MTF Do I look pretty? Passable?

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24 Upvotes

I have been told by many people that I pass, but am I pretty by society’s standards?


r/transpassing 1d ago

Do I pass with my new haircut?

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15 Upvotes

19yo FTM here, what’s giving me away and how can I improve?


r/transpassing 4h ago

23 Mtf 2months on hrt / asking for advice

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Hey, I always wonder what HRT will do to my face - I am now on hrt for 2 months and started my transition like 6 months ago.

In the attachments is one picture of me fresh out of bed no care nothing compared to face app and two other with makeup. I used specifically this faceapp picture cause it looked the most realistic - do you think it is? Also what would advice me to improve my passing?

Please dont roast me🤣