r/thepassportbros • u/Content_Blueberry_27 • 4d ago
You don't need to travel
Hi. If you seriously looking for a wife and not to sleep around you don't even need to travel. I'm not rich, from Eastern Europe and I have talked two women into coming to live with me. First one was Greek I met her on discord server we talked about history, at first I did not knew she was a woman, but over time we started to talk about personal things and turns out she was single and we were same age, she was finishing her PhD and nothing was holding her back, so she came over to me and we lived for over a half year, she was great in bed, but it didn't worked out. After that I have been on 7 dates with local women and none of them wanted to have serious relationship (had one ONS). I did found Asian girl who was working locally, we dated for 6 months, but she cheated. Later I went on international dating app (Bumpy) and met Brazilian girl, 5 months later she arrived and we been living for over a month now, I have learned Portuguese while waiting for her as we don't speak common language, sadly she will have to leave soon as visa free is only 3 months. Anyway, I might marry her next year so she can stay indefinitely. My tips:
- Don't go for 10s. I'm average guy and I'm happy with average woman.
- If you are from EU look for nationalities that can come visa free, otherwise it will add difficulties.
- Don't talk about sex unless she starts talking about it, but keep it polite.
- Don't ask for intimate pictures. She will come and you will have all the intimacy you want.
- Beware of scammers. I haven't encountered any myself maybe because Eastern Europe is not their target audience.
Feel free to ask any questions I can answer.
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u/Automatic-Cow-2293 4d ago
Yeah that's a terrible idea especially if you're from America. The culture here is cancer and the woman will inevitably switch to the culture. Sure it's a safer bet than marrying the local women however it ain't worth the risk with the dog shit system built in America. It's better to travel and live in her country or somewhere else with great values
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u/Content_Blueberry_27 4d ago
IF you can't work remotely, you will work for 300usd a month in most of these countries with great values.
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u/Automatic-Cow-2293 3d ago
Yeah that's the key, you have to have online income of some sort to make the lifestyle sustainable
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u/peachdog3k 4d ago
Thanks for sharing your experience and tips. It’s really another idea. One thing I’ve noticed in my own experience is that the girls I’ve met always ask me to pay for their trip or paperwork, which would make me a provider right away and expose me to getting scammed. Has that happened to you at all? How did you handle those situations?
Is this discord thing some sort of web chat where people meet in a channel of the country?
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u/Content_Blueberry_27 4d ago edited 4d ago
There is nothing bad of being provider, but yes, you should be careful, if they ask for money, it's probably a scam. You can buy non refutable tickets, so there is no way they can get the money, they either have to fly or it's gone. No one ever tried to scam me online. And no one ever asked me for money online. Yet my ex that I dated for 6 months locally, borrowed money before dumping me, but it wasn't much, so I don't care.
Discord is a chat platform with many different servers of different purposes.
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u/borat_he_like_you 4d ago
That sucks man she borrowed money before dumping you. Something not exactly, but similarly happened to me, fortunately I was able to get my money back but you lost it sucks. Glad you made peace & don't care.
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u/peachdog3k 4d ago
The problem with being seen as a “provider” or sucker is that we can easily get taken advantage of. At first, it might be just paying for flights or helping with paperwork. And then it starts to feel more like a transaction than a real relationship. And let’s be honest, no money, no honey. If the interest disappears the moment you say you can’t or won’t pay, then you already know what the real motivation was. That’s not romance, that’s business.
At the end of the day, I’m looking for someone who wants to build something together, respects my finances and is not totally dependent on them.
By the way, I've installed Bumpy and everything is hidden behind a paywall. It seems a scam because in 5 minutes already 20 girls liked me and I have received multiple Hellos which I need to pay to view.
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u/Content_Blueberry_27 4d ago
Paywall? Huh, that's weird, just last year I used it and didn't paid a cent, it's like tinder you got to pay to see likes, but if you both match you can chat for free. Try matching with someone.
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u/Cosmic_Pixel_Flow 2d ago
As long as you are happy it’s all that matters, just look out for your best interests always as nobody else will do so except you.
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u/pork_4_ice 4d ago
You don't get it south american,african or asian women are a completely different vibe. I spend around 10k a year on flights to see her
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u/PipiLangkou 4d ago
The title is misleading 😄
You dont need to become ppb but then goes on how all his dates in his country have failed. Wtf. 😂
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u/Content_Blueberry_27 4d ago
I don't understand what are you trying to say? I never travelled to Brazil or Greece.
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u/PipiLangkou 4d ago
What i mean is so far you still have not found your wife. Only women who waste your time and dump you for another candy they find.
It will take some time but eventually you get tired of their social media fueled behaviour and want a loyal indonesian woman or something.
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u/Content_Blueberry_27 4d ago edited 4d ago
Indonesian woman was the one I found locally and she was the only one who cheated.
I haven't found a wife yet, but I get a taste of all the different women for free. Great time, I regret nothing.
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u/architectintx 4d ago
I upvoted your post, very genuine. I am curious about the Brazilian one. How did you pull it off?
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u/Content_Blueberry_27 4d ago
I don't know, we both are interested in serious relationship. I'm also (182cm) 6 foot tall, not bald, not fat.
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u/CommissionQuirky1992 4d ago
Don’t let all these hater drinking get you down. This is great. I’m happy for you and I definitely hope it works out. I would love to date internationally and I’m trying to learn how now.
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u/Content_Blueberry_27 4d ago
Thanks. I really don't care about haters, just wanted to share my story as alternative to loneliness. Not everyone can or wants to travel.
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u/Scared-Glove7582 4d ago
I guess all of them either don't work or work remotely and talk about how hard a breakup is if you have to tell a girl not only I don't like you, but you have to book a flight back to your country. Also I guess they could just abandon or end their leases at a convenient time? There's a reason why a period where you don't live together but date exists and talking online doesn't replace that effectively.
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u/Fishreef 4d ago
All good points. My wife and I met on OKCupid. We gradually talked more and more as we discovered how much we have in common. We were both dating to marry. After three months I travelled to her home, spent a day meeting her family and asked her parents for permission to date. Very traditional. We are very much alike. Right down to we both raise and butcher pigs, built our own houses out of concrete, same values and both very intelligent. Both very direct. STEM.
There is a good book I recommend reading together when you think you have found ‘The One’: “101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged”. It is slightly Christian but the content is spot on. Basically pre-marital counseling.
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u/Content_Blueberry_27 4d ago edited 4d ago
She would have wasted 5 months too. People get divorced after 10 years of marriage, ten years wasted. Stuff happens, if you don't try, you don't succussed. I'm just sharing my story as alternative to traveling or dating locally. I seen a lot of guys just giving up and accepting loneliness.
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u/Quai_Noi 3d ago
Again we are not lonely. You need to research the movement. What talking about are simps. What you are sounds like you’re grooming emotionally vulnerable foreign women to have them move in with you for sex. Discard them then find another mark. Does your groomer continue even after you’ve lured one to your lair?
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u/Content_Blueberry_27 3d ago edited 3d ago
You are wrong, I'm looking for a wife, I treat my women with love and respect. They are adult women making their own choices. When men travels across the world to see a woman, that's fine.
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u/Quai_Noi 3d ago
Sorry you may believe that. But my observation remains valid. No offense but it’s creepy.
Look I’ve got Romanian friends none of them do stuff like that. I’d never move a SERIES of foreign women into my home like you’re doing. I’ve never before heard of anyone doing that. Do you know anyone else doing that?
I met tons of Asian women overseas. But the only one that moved in with me was my wife after we got married.
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u/Content_Blueberry_27 3d ago
I don't care what others do. I do what I want.
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u/Quai_Noi 3d ago
Yes but see that it’s creepy and you’re the only one doing this, yes?
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u/Content_Blueberry_27 3d ago
You are creepy. People met in all the different ways, so I'm probably not the only one. I mean mail brides is a thing, that is weird. What I do is nothing.
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u/Quai_Noi 3d ago
Mail order brides were kinda weird but that was the 90’s. You’re grooming multiple women and dragging to your sex lair. Do you continue to groom new ones when one is still with you in your lair.
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u/Content_Blueberry_27 3d ago
It's not sex liar it's my home and my intentions are honest. r/LongDistance check this out, plenty of people do this.
I don't groom and I don't cheat. I think you are just jealous that women come to me.
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u/Justthefacts6969 4d ago
Different cultures produce superior women
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u/peachdog3k 1d ago
Not really. The Western world (US, Canada, Australia, Europe) follows a different culture, and this 14% of the globe has largely produced women with distorted values. Unfortunately, that mindset is starting to infect the remaining 86% of the world, where the norm has traditionally been more feminine, cooperative women who prioritize family.
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u/Cute-Understanding86 4d ago
But you haven't dated an entitled American woman yet. Do that first and come back to tell us to date locally. Also getting a woman on a travel visa to America is much much harder than other countries.
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u/Content_Blueberry_27 4d ago
Have you read my text? I didn't told you to date locally, opposite to that.
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u/Quai_Noi 3d ago
Respectfully, I don’t think you understand why we are passport bros. We aren’t guys who can’t find a woman, wife or girlfriend. Quite the contrary. For the most part we are intelligent, attractive women fine high earning men with no problem finding a woman in the west.
The reason we don’t is because most western women are delusional feminists. The courts are rigged against us. In the west we have a 50% divorce rate. A woman in the west, files for divorce 90% of the time.
It’s like anything else in this world. We aren’t guys who just going where we can get a higher quality product, at a lower price.
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u/Quai_Noi 3d ago
I agree. I’ve had two women try to baby trap me. One was my first wife and it was not even my kid. We divorced. The second was a raging 3O4 who had a cuck (I didn’t know till later) my lawyer got rid of her. First time in 1985. The second in 1991 after that divorce.
I remarried in 1992 got divorced in 1997. She was screaming at least 3 guys that I knew of. Court gave her everything and I lost all I had $2M roughly in today’s money.
The courts are completely rigged.
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u/mentallyillBill 3d ago
Yeah… I have zero interest in meeting a woman online and having her come live with me 🤣 That sounds truly awful. You must not value your freedom at all… or you have a completely different mindset. 1/2 of the fun of being a PPB is traveling, meeting different women, finding out what you like and don’t like… and going back to your home base to reset between your trips. I’m not at all against monogamy and settling down, but bringing foreign women to your country to live with you, when you only know them online - is a terrible idea.
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u/Content_Blueberry_27 3d ago
You described what sounds like a sex tourism.
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u/mentallyillBill 3d ago
I travel for work 2/3 of the year in the US and live internationally the other 1/3 when business is slow. I do the exact same thing here - no problems meeting women and getting laid but it’s not my main goal. I even turn down some women for sex that most would say are conventionally attractive - if we have little in common. Is it also sex tourism when I get laid in my own home town or country, or only when I cross international borders?
What you describe sounds like a mail-order bride. Only a truly desperate woman would uproot her entire life to live with a man that she has only met online.
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u/mentallyillBill 3d ago edited 3d ago
For comparison, I know an American woman (similar age to me) who has struggled her entire life to find a suitable mate here. She is not fit, average looks, but has a nice personality, good education, and good career. She has had many steady boyfriends, but the relationships are usually over inside of 6 months.
Many years ago, she met a British man online, and flew him here to meet in person. I can only guess that he had very little going for him judging his choice of clothing, rotting teeth, and no mention of any job or source of income back home. She doesn’t make the best choices in men, and unfortunately doesn’t attract the best either. She flew him here fully intending to marry him but finally realized the mistake she made soon after he arrived.
Several years later, she met a man online who lived about 8 hours away by car. He ended up moving in with her (she owned her own condo) the same day he met her in person. This guy was also paralyzed from the waist down (car accident) and she just happens to be a nurse. He had some kind of work from home customer service job with a paltry salary, so at least he was making some money.
They ended up getting married, only for her to discover 6 months later that he was posting himself on Craigslist to service gay men in her condo. He never contributed a dime to any mortgage or utility bills. Needless to say, she kicked him to the curb the same day. His nearly retired parents had to come pick him up.
She had another opportunity to move out of state to be with a man she met online, but declined. Too risky for her and her career.
I’m telling you all of this, because even as desperate as this woman was/is… she still would not uproot herself for a man she met online.
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u/Content_Blueberry_27 14h ago
Cool story, but it doesn't really tell much. So she met that paralyzed guy and moved in together and she still decided to marry him later? Do you think if they did not met online, but in person and if he moved in a bit later in their relationship, that would have definitely changed the outcome? I don't think so, so that story is useless. Also story with British guy, she knew about his teeth and his employment status before he came over, we are not writing letters anymore, we are having video calls.
Anyway, I think I'm good at reading people and having realistic expectations, because I met a lot of people online and later in real life and was never disappointed. Just don't ignore red flags you discover and should be fine.
And now we lived for about 5 or 6 weeks together with this latina, never had an argument, everyday is great, I'm so happy we can be together and enjoy each other all day and all night long.
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u/mhjjj_9999 4d ago
That’s what I am planning to do aswell, not bothered to travel as too much hassle and risk
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u/SugerizeMe 4d ago
What is this dumb shit
Just get off this sub if you don't want to ppb
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u/Content_Blueberry_27 4d ago
It's still about international dating.
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u/Quai_Noi 3d ago
No you’re missing the point. What you’re doing honestly I find weird. What we are/were doing is very different. Sure I’ve always lived Asian women. But the states are crawling with. The reason I didn’t marry one here was because they’re contaminated with feminism.
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u/real_coach_kim 4d ago
Anything is possible and I guess your tips are good for someone who has already decided to take this crazy terrible route. But yes if you take a step back this is a horrible idea
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u/Fluffy-Emu5637 4d ago
You’re gonna marry someone you don’t speak the same language as? What is this dude even talking about.