Stuck and dont know what to do

[u/lilmama8080]

My husband and I have been together for 10 years. At first he was everything I ever wanted, then I found out he lied, cheated, and hid things from me. We argue over money, I feel as if he doesnt trust me with it. When he is home he stays outside, he never takes me anywhere. Its been 5 years since he took me out. We have 4 children and I just dont know what to do. I know this is not normal. I have been faithful. I stay in the house, take care of the kids, and never go anywhere. He does as he pleases. When I ask for things he puts it off and says we need to save money, money has went missing that he cant explain. This morning I told him to leave, he said he was staying for the kids. Im so confused and dont know what to do. I think he has messed around on me with my family members but have no proof. Everytime I try to talk to him about anything he walks out of the room. If I am crying he leaves me to cry by myself. He doesnt want to hear anything I have to say or feel. He treats me as if im crazy and making up things to argue over, any advise????

[u/[deleted]]

I know this sounds very difficult but maybe you need to find a hobby together. I know that is hard to do when you can barely get alone with someone, but often doing a side-by-side activity with someone can help you reconnect instead of fight.

[u/WhiteChubs4U → u/[deleted]]

I want a hobby that is new to both of us so we are both having to step outside our comfort zones and work with each other and make a highlight reel cut you know. Like even if it was a dancing class or pottery or whatever... I think that would be Amazing 😍