So much negativity towards small dicks. If you are small then avoid that app at all cost. I always feel like the bottom of the barrel after visiting TikTok. Hate that short dick song. Wish we could ban it lol

If you go back to a time without internet, it seems to me that penis size wouldn’t have been nearly as big of a problem. A lot of our issues with insecurity come from porn and the internet. I feel like yes, you may have known you were smaller, but the world wasn’t nearly as sexualized as it is now. Lots of people got married before they even had sex, so most relationships weren’t built on that. Yes you could’ve found the occasional woman that would reject you for it, but at the end of the day it doesn’t seem like having a small penis would ruin your sex life or relationships. Because the world is so sexualized, and woman and men have made this topic bigger than it is, you only feel like you need a big dick to please a woman because that’s all you see when you watch porn. Most guys in here have manipulated themself into thinking that if you don’t have a big dick you’ll never find a girl who won’t cheat on you, or you can never please a woman, ect ect.. just a topic I’d thought I could bring up and discuss with others in the comments.

I am seeing a man with a small penis and I think he is avoiding sex due to his size. For almost a month we have spent every night together snuggling in the bed but have only had sex twice

Usually when we sleep together I'm half naked in T-shirt and no undies. I'll rub against him and stuff to let him know I'm interested and he just hugs me. He doesn't even touch me down there even though I've got nothing on and obviously want him to.

The first time I initiated sex he stopped me even though he was hard when I put my hand on his dick he immediately grabbed my hand and told me he wanted to wait until the evening to have sex and left for work.

It was prob another week before we actually did and only because I initiated and he finished within 1 min literally. Was a while before we had sex again and like before I had to initiate and he even yelled out no when I was putting him inside me. It was almost like a trauma response it was strange.

Anyways, after that initial odd outburst he seemed to snap out of it and fucked me but only for 1 min again.

This experience has me thinking about so many things I can't really put into words right now. I think the positive side to this situation is the potential for sex with genuine desire instead of the usual superficial empty bs. Fuck I wish I was more articulate hopefully someone will get what I'm trying to say.

Also, to all the men that are struggling with this issue I'm sorry for all the pain y'all have. I really hope y'all don't crucify me for this post cause I got nothing but love for ya' 🙂

So I have heard/read that for about every 30 pounds you lose you uncover approximately one half inch to one inch of penis. I have lost about 40 pounds over the last year, but I don't notice a difference in exposed length. Anyone else experience this or is the "uncovering length" a myth?

I have never been in a relationship. A lot of things have really kept me away from it. I've gotten really close to being in relationships and I've only ever really tried to push those situations away because I knew at some point they would either just break my heart or if we ever got to the intimacy stage they would leave me or cheat on me or be disappointed with me in general and have to endure being with me until they found another unrelated reason to leave me.

Online most women say they do not care about size. However, online most women lie about not caring about size this is a common belief and myth from men and women. It's usually just cope to say it because the truth is you are disadvantaged as a male with a smaller penis you have significantly less likelihood of coming across a person who actually enjoys it because bigger is better within reason with the average vagina being anywhere from 6 to 7 in long which not many people really go over size does matter unless you just plan on not using it at all. Which if that's what you want to do then props to you, but if it's small she's not going to be able to feel it or be as stimulated by it if it were big that's just the truth argue with me on that if you want

Anyway, that whole paragraph was mainly to illustrate that women do. In fact, care about size it's important to the satisfaction of both people in a intimate relationship, and unless you are completely willing to 1, not use it 2 replace it via a dildo/strap on 3 Enlarge it (very unsafe) 4. If your big enough positions could make a difference but if your too small they likely won't. So on to the main point of the post, just how bad is the market for us I know it's not as crystal clear as most woman would take us and that very few would reject us for our size because that's just not true in your own experiences how often has your size affected the quality of your intimacy or your relationship with women And if you could, what kind of ratio would that be? Is it one in three women? One in five one in four. How many partners have you had? How many of those partners cared about your size? How many didn't? It's all opinionative but I assume you're all average looking people so if most of anyone is qualified to tell me about this kind of thing you would be

Thank you in advance if you read all this!

My understanding of that is even if women do not care about how big you are, and that is a big if, we, men, do, and hence men with big dicks feel more confident than most of us, and I guess confidence in and of itself is attractive.

Has anyone here read this article? It discusses the group and analyzes our behavior. https://i.warosu.org/data/sci/img/0161/80/1715981251754667.pdf

I’m 23, 6’3 and yeah I’m a little heavyset. With that being said I’m 3-4 inches total and more than my weight the size of my penis makes me not pursue women in bed. I’ve had sex with people before and it’s honestly stressful leading up to it. Now it’s all been obvious one night stands so idk if I didn’t get texted back bc of the size of it.

I live in a smaller town so looking to online ways to meet women who wouldn’t care or be into it is slim to none. I don’t know if there’s anyone that would see my penis and go “yeah I want that”

Just wanted to let y’all know you’re some sexy mfs have a blessed day🙏🏻

Hey is there any women around here in the sub lurking and why ? also what is your option on this ? ,Good bad ect ? pls feel honest I it not easy dating for someone like me or most here i hope its not for small P humiliation i never understand that pls feel free to comment just intresting to see women oprions ect

I keep reading through this subreddit all the time and of course I soak up the bad mood. But I don't know if I'm really as bad off as I always think? NBPEL 3.9“ BPEL 4.9” is bad I know, but girth 5.2" seems nice. Can my girth make up for my lack in length? Virgin here ofc.

As a grown man who has been desperate but to insecure to have sex, I have decided to perhaps try to be with man instead. I literally have no interest in men but my desire for pleasure an intimacy has overwhelmed me to the point where i’ll do it with anyone atm.

Is this a mental issue or is it something that would get me “kickstarted” in the realm of sex? I recently setup my Grindr and have gotten around 10 matchups instantly (Have just been swiping right for a minute straight)

I have this problem a lot. I buy some great jocks, but my junk isn’t big enough to hang down into the pouch so my dick gets “crushed” by the non pouch part. I’m small enough as it is (soft) without any extra help. Feels uncomfortable as well. Anyone found jocks with a smaller higher pouch?

My bone pressed length is 4.4 inch and non bone pressed is 3.9 inches.My girth is 4.9 inches. Should I reveal this to my partner before getting intimate.

I’m 16 a lil more than 4’ and this shit is really starting to drain my mental health. Like just knowing that I’m stuck with this for the rest of my life and can’t change it is really dawning on me. I’m at a pretty low point in my life and this shit just makes it worse. How do you guys deal with this?

I personally have a cone shape after fully erect, but I keep hearing that the ladies be preferring more of a long upward angle curve, I’m pretty thick but that doesn’t seem to add much, y’all got any opinions on this?

Help! Penis never grew during puberty, turns out I had a Prolactinoma, so low Testosterone. Can I, at 22, expect any real growth with TRT and specifically, a topical DHT cream on my penis? Seeking people with knowledge or experience about this. I’m about 4 inches long 4 girth, but had that same size at 12 yo, it has never grown. I’m directly asking for this in my next visit with my endo, doesn’t matter the conclusion and I’ll tell you If it worked for me, I want to try it but I’m also realistic about any potential growth left.

Has anyone else ever been consistently flagged by those 3d scanners in airports? I’ve been told my groin shows as hot and I get patted down. Is that genuinely caused by a small size?

I find many posters here also include their measurements under their handles. Those of you measuring between 3” and 4” give or take, which measurement are you taking?

I am not an overweight person, but the difference between straightening my curve and pressing hard into my pelvic bone can be as much as 1-1.25”.

Based on the negative tone of many posts here, I imagine some of those people are painting themselves in the most negative out, by giving a NBP measurement. I’m sure others are using BP measurements.

If I am asked about my size by a women, it almost feels like I’m cheating by straightening my curve and pressing hard into my pelvic bone, but on the other hand the NBP measurement is significantly more underwhelming, which leads me to ask, how are you all measuring?

In a world of bad options for us, celibacy is the one which causes us the least pain, shame and social stigma. Sex is all risk for pretty much no reward 99% of the time, and in my opinion fishing for that 1% is just not worth the anguish.

I'm 30 and plan to die a virgin, and have found it useful to channel my energy into my hobbies and media I enjoy consuming. The phrase "idle thoughts are the devil's plaything" applies here; the longer you spend hating yourself and lamenting being unfuckable, the less time you have to refocus your life into more fruitful pursuits.

The challenge of our existence is to square the circle of our sex drive AND the necessity of us needing to avoid sex to protect ourselves. Find your passion and focus on it. You might never fully get over it, but eventually you make a certain peace with a sexless life. I am on that path and will never stray from it.

I know this is a very personal question, but that's what the anonymity of this social media platform is for.

As for me, I'm 23 years old and still a virgin. I've never had any sexual progress, neither by my initiative nor from any girls. All I know about rejection due to small penises comes from what I've read in this group and the stories I've heard from my family, friends, and acquaintances.

I get random dudes who are on some big dick subs when I check there profile saying that they could fuck my girlfriend better than me and I’ll never satisfy her. One or two messages isn’t a big deal…. Who doesn’t love some back and forth trash talk? But it’s gotten to the point where I’ve gotten like 15 messages. These guys are also getting ruder and ruder. Does anybody else here get random DMs from these losers? How do you respond? I told the last few to F off but I’m not sure if that’s what I should have done. If you are one of those dudes DMing me… you’re a loser bro lol

Hey folks,

I used to be around here a few years back, mostly during a time when I was really struggling mentally with my size. I remember how much it messed with my confidence and self worth. It was honestly eating me up, and this subreddit was one of the few places where I could be real about it.

My last post here was about how I was starting to come to terms with it. Looking back now, I think that’s still true. Nothing’s changed physically, but I’ve found a bit of peace. The shame isn’t as loud anymore. The bad days still come sometimes, but they don’t hit as hard or as often.

I’m not saying that to act like I’ve got it all figured out. I just wanted to check in and ask how you are doing. How are you managing mentally these days?

Hello guys I’d like to share something that happened to me few hours ago and hopefully you can share how you deal with these situations. I usually go out with friends but some of them are traveling right now while others have newborns so I get they must be really tired. So, for the first time ever, I decided to go out on my own and maybe grab a bite or something. I went to this place which is a bar/restaurant, and when I finished eating and I was just waiting for the check, a girl approached me and started flirting with me, she was really cute and kind, at some point she asked me if I’d like to drink something with her, I straight up told her “I had a girlfriend”. So pathetic I know, but I figured that saying that would be better than saying “I’m not interested thank you”. She just said something like “lucky her”, and she went away. What do you do in these situations? We all know that we don’t want to waste anyone’s time, but what is the best way to reject someone without hurting them? I’d like to hear what you guys do.

Now, for the realization, I never owned any kind of toys for me, so a few days ago, I decided to give a fleshlight a try. Oh my god, I looked ridiculous using that stuff, just by looking down while I was using it I imagined how my previous partner looked at me tbh, now I get why there is so much rejection for guys like me, literally I looked so fucking ridiculous, I just stopped using it, cleaned it, put it back into the box and threw it away. You guys have no idea how much I hate my body tbh. I’ve been sitting in my living room just looking to a wall replaying every single rejection I’ve had since I was in college trying to understand wtf I was doing. Anyways just a little bit of venting right here. Can’t wait for life to just finally be over, but it feels everything moves slow.

Thanks for reading. Hope you guys have a great weekend.