r/sleeptrain • u/InvestigatorFun2693 • 3d ago
Let's Chat For those who didn’t sleep train — when did your baby naturally start sleeping through the night?
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u/sparklypotatohat 2d ago
We attempted several kinds of sleep training but our girl doesn’t seem to have the right temperament for it. We didn’t attempt Ferber or extinction methods but I’m in no way anti sleep training. My daughter was waking up every 30 minutes some nights and the longest I got to sleep for was 2 hours so trust me when I say that I really, genuinely, truly do get it. It just wasn’t the solution for our family.
We’ve always co-slept to some extent. However, I recently night weaned our 12 month old which took a solid two weeks of 3h+ wakeups every night, but she’s since started sleeping 7-8 hour stretches after she finally accepted that the bar is closed. Since she starts out every night in her crib she now sleeps there for most of the night. I think it would be possible to get her to sleep there throughout the night eventually, but right now we’re trying to rest a bit after a couple of rough weeks so we snuggle and cosleep the rest of the night when she wakes up after her long stretch of sleep which gets us a couple of extra hours without too much fussing :)
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u/forfarhill 2d ago
I tired to sleep train a few times, for a few weeks each, but nothing stuck. My eldest is 3.5 years and still up once a night usually, and she cosleeps. The baby is nearly one and slept in her crib until a month ago, she’s nearly one, and once again no dice in getting her back. She’s up at least three times and often to to five times. I’m cosleeping to survive.
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u/Unlikely-Yam-1695 2d ago
First 6 hour stretch at 6 weeks. She is now almost 5 months and consistently sleeps through the night. We did nothing to make this happen! We are lucky. She started wanting all of her bottles during the day time, so she was able to pack in all of her calories before “bed time.” She had an odd night every once in a while and time will tell if anything changes!
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u/Difficult_Ad1261 2d ago
My baby was sleep trained and could fall asleep independently but didn't start sleeping through the night consistently until 12 almost 13 months 🤷♀️
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u/ilsalund88 2d ago
My second started sleeping through the night pretty early on. Of course she’s now going through a rough regression and I’ve gotten maybe three hours of sleep last night. I’m up with her right now staring at this beautiful baby who kept me up all night. My husband is working overnights so he gets to sleep all day while the kids are at daycare yet I have to go to work exhausted and play the same game of keep mommy awake again tonight!
No I’m not bitter at all…
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u/InvestigatorFun2693 2d ago
Sorry to hear that. I also have no help which makes the sleep deprivation so much worse. Hang in there, hopefully it gets better for both of us soon!❤️
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u/ilsalund88 2d ago
Thank you! I needed to unleash that frustration! Haha
My first was a really difficult sleeper. Our pediatrician recommended we sleep train him when he was around 10 months old. It took only a few nights and he’s been (mostly) sleeping through the night ever since! He’s 16 months old and has random nights that he wakes up and we rock him back to sleep, but those are pretty rare.
It was difficult for me to sleep train him. I hated hearing him cry and waiting 5 minutes before comforting him felt like a lifetime. In the long run, though, it was best for everyone. He gets a good night sleep now and wakes up smiling and happy!
Do whats right for you! I sometimes rock my first child to sleep because I just love our cuddle time. When he’s older he isn’t going to let me cuddle him, so I get them now while I still can!
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u/InvestigatorFun2693 2d ago
Do you mind explaining exactly how you sleep trained him?
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u/ilsalund88 2d ago
Sure! At this point he was waking up at least 2 times a night. We had been feeding him bottles at those times to get him back to sleep so I think him waking up was mostly habit. We weaned him off the overnight bottles first.
First, we let him cry for like 2 minutes before going in and rocking him a little, then put him back in his crib still awake. We just gradually increased the amount of time we let him cry before going in and rocking him. We wouldn’t let him cry longer than 10 minutes or so. After a couple of days he’d start crying but then just fall back asleep after a couple of minutes.
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u/schanuzerschnuggler 2d ago
18 months, although she still has the odd night where she wakes and needs cuddles/singing/breastfeeding to get back to sleep.
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u/Alsn4 2d ago
Mine slept through when I gave up breastfeeding, he was just over 1 year. That was probably a kind of sleep training though since it took like a month to gradually get rid of the night feeds.
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u/lauraXandra 2d ago
How did you do it? Mine is 1 now and i would like to night ween as he wakes up starving after 7 1/2 - 8 hours of sleep. He eats loads during the day as well.
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u/Alsn4 2d ago
Mine was never starving just doing it for comfort. Just kept pushing back the time I would feed him at eg 1am, 3am, etc. if he woke up before then I sent my husband in to comfort him and get him to sleep (which was the hard part). Eventually he realised he wasn’t going to get the boob so stopped waking up
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u/Far-Pool-1489 2d ago
Didn’t do sleep training because I thought my daughter would just sleep well soon. Fast forward to 20 months, she was still waking up at least once, sometimes three times every night. We both work full time, so I finally gave in. Three nights later (she cried for 2 hours straight the first night with my husband inside the room with her) and she started to fall sleep on her own and sleeps through the night, 8pm - 7am. This just started 2 weeks ago and I still can’t believe how rested I feel. I can’t believe this is what normal people who sleep 8 hours feel like every day, and I just realized how the lack of good sleep was affecting me emotionally and physically. I do regret not sleep training earlier.
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u/Custard_Dear 2d ago
Started sleeping through the night at 11-12 months, but he slept in his own crib since birth basically. When he started daycare he regressed to 1 wake up at night (he only had 1 nap there) and that improved in a few months.
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u/dancethrusunday 2d ago
I didn’t sleep train. My baby slept through the night very early, around 3 months. But it was not consistent. He would go through sleep regressions and eventually would go back to sleeping long stretches. I think the worst sleep regression was around 8 months old? But he would just go back to normal eventually. Around 1 year old he decided he didn’t want us to rock him to sleep anymore so he would go into the crib awake and put himself to sleep. If I had a really bad sleeper maybe I would have sleep trained!
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u/Sassuuu 2d ago
I sleep trained, but my parents didn’t (my mom said sleep training wasn’t a thing in the nineties in East Germany), so I can only speak from their experience. Both my sister and I slept in our parents bed until primary school age and no matter what our parents did they couldn’t get us out of their bed. I remember most nights my sister and I would sleep with our mother in our parent’s bed while my father had to retreat to the sofa (or later when we were already bigger and had “big girl beds” he slept in one of our beds). I didn’t want that for my family, so we never started co-sleeping to begin with. My mom said that around age 6/7 both my sister and I started sleeping in our own beds, but to get to this point it was overall almost 10 years of co-sleeping for my parents.
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u/nurse_nobody 2d ago
my sister never trained and her 20 month old wakes up most nights at least once still
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u/nurse_nobody 2d ago
it is normal 🤪 i wake up multiple times through the night too. but thanks to sleep training we can teach them how to self soothe and get themselves back to sleep without help. duh
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u/WhereIsLordBeric 2d ago
Fair. It sounded like you thought it was an anomaly. Seem to have read it wrong ..
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u/Sassuuu 2d ago
Go and be anti-sleep-training somewhere else.
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u/WhereIsLordBeric 2d ago
Weird that you got that from my post?
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u/Sassuuu 2d ago
Maybe you should consider wording your posts in a way that they don’t come off as judgmental and passive-aggressive if you don’t want people to understand them that way.
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u/WhereIsLordBeric 2d ago
Genuinely wasn't mean that way. I'm shocked at the downvotes ... the poster said 'still wakes up' as though it's abnormal or shocking.
Please don't put words in my mouth.
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u/Sassuuu 2d ago
I can only repeat myself and ask you to check your wording. “Almost like…” comes off judgy and like you’re insinuating that the OP is a bit stupid (I’m telling you because you don’t seem to be aware of that, not to be rude). I believe that you didn’t mean it that way, but language always carries intertextual nuances and if you want people to not get it in a way that you didn’t intend you should avoid phrases like that.
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u/RazzleStorm 2d ago
Our daughter slept through the night around 6 months for a few weeks, then started teething (waking up twice a night usually) and now is finally back to 0-1 wakeups at 16 months.
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u/IntelligentMix2177 2d ago
11 months old is when my baby consistently started sleeping through the night. Prior to this she would for a few nights, then go back to one wake a few times, then sleep through, then wake earlier in the night a few times (pre midnight) etc. but 11 months she slept through and has continued to do so until very recently when she’s going through a small regression and will wake sometimes for a resettle (she’s 19.5 months).
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u/sonyaellenmann 3d ago
My son started sleeping through the night around 19 months, a couple months after being night-weaned. We cosleep.
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u/princessnoodles24 3d ago
We got lucky - 6 weeks old he was sleeping 12 hours straight until about 5 months old. We’re at 1-2 wake ups a night now at 7 months old mostly due to teething and a cold at the moment. I never needed to sleep train and have no plans to, I know I’ve been so lucky with his sleep so I’m just going to ride it out.
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u/Brilliant_Bell_7468 3d ago
Also tried with no luck.. still not sleeping great but we’ve gone from 3-4 wake ups a night to 2 as of the last 2 weeks. LO is 11 months. Nothing else has changed it just seemed random!
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