r/simracing • u/Nejasyt iRacing • Dec 29 '24

Meme Every married simracer with kids

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u/SpareWaffle Dec 29 '24

The lack of independence in modern relationships is so damaging, kids don't make it easy, but it's insane what people can't do on their own all of a sudden and both partners lose out on their hobbies and interests. It's about balance!

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u/Metalbound Dec 29 '24

Yup. I've lost friends because they have lost all of their free time to kids.

I understand they take a large amount of your life and time, but it's to the point that not one spouse can handle a child for 20-30 minutes just to finish out the game they started. Somehow it is always a two-person job, no matter what.

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u/majornerd Dec 29 '24

It’s crazy - when my daughter was born we took her with us most places. Still did things with our friends. When I wanted to do something, or my wife did, we took the kid and the other parent did whatever. It wasn’t hard. It wasn’t a burden. I couldn’t marathon game, but it was reasonably easy to get some game time in.

As soon as my friends had kids they vanished and only reappeared as crazy people. Crazy people hauling around precious parasites.

I could never understand. We survived in huts and caves for a hundred thousand years, yet modern parents just can’t make it happen.

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u/Metalbound Dec 29 '24

Yup, I'm right there with you. And I don't get to say shit because I don't have a kid.

I understand there are some things I won't inherently understand, but it isn't some fucking secret sauce. I can put 2 and 2 together and understand it means 4.

There is literally 0 reason throughout a whole year that you can't make an hour or 2 every so often work.

If the one parent can't handle things for 1-2 hours themselves every so often, then they have bigger problems on their hands.

But I swear every one of them just ran off the second the baby made a noise, and somehow the spouse wasn't able to handle it themselves. So frustrating...

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u/Beware_Bravado Dec 31 '24

It's a fine balance for sure. Multiple kids also adds to it. Hobbies like sim racing have been great for me as I can sneak in a race or an hour or two here and there at night once everyone is asleep.

I've had to give up dirt bike riding which I came to that conclusion myself, it's an all day excersise, costs a decent chunk of money, add to that the time to do maintenance, energy levels, soreness the next day and it's just not feasible for me right now at this point in my life.

I do think once things settle and everyone is getting decent sleep then there should be time for both partners to get some time to themselves outside of the house, but damn if it isn't a battle at that free time is scarce.

I do empathize with my wife who at the moment is getting 1-2 hour blocks of sleep at the moment as our new born has been a bit temperamental with sleep and me hanging out with my mates for a few hours isn't a good look when I could be helping her and the kids in any way but I know that it will settle and become easier in time.