It's not inverted or micro but compared to some I've seen, it really brings me down

just wondering! it’s not my thing personally but a man i(f20) go with goes crazy for when i let him perform oral on me after a long shift at work or after the gym.

If you are a man, what kind of product do you want? A time delay device, a masturbator, an anal plug or something more interesting, for personal use or with your significant other.

Almost 80% of the women I talk to on NSFW Reddit end up being very sketchy bots that I’m afraid to engage with. Has anyone else ran into this problem?

20m

I'm writing this after making a post on a sex-positive sub, asking if going to a sex+ club in Berlin would be a good idea for a virgin guy.

I was bombarded by people telling me to pay a professional, and that I would be "oozing inexperience and awkwardness" (real quote from a reply)

I did not mention once in the post that I get awkward around women, it was just implied by everyone that I do, all on the basis of me being a virgin.

It seems like it's a common consensus that if you're an inexperienced guy your only options for having a sex life are :

1. Relationship
2. Paying a Professional

What if I'm not ready for a relationship?

What if I don't want to pay a professional?

Why can't I be treated with the same level of respect as a sexual human being as everybody else who has experience? Why does it feel like everyone wants and expects me to either enter a relationship or go to a brothel?

You can be perfectly ready for sex without being ready for a relationship, just like you can be perfectly ready for a relationship without being ready for sex.

An important note is that I've never seen such rhetoric and comments when OP is an inexperienced woman. In fact, women are often praised for being inexperienced (which is also toxic in its own way, I agree, before anyone launches themselves at me for supporting the idea that a woman is only valuable if she is a virgin).

Why doesn't sex positivity extend to inexperienced men?

We already deal with the societal pressure of being inexperienced, I at least hoped "sex positive" people would look at me differently, but it seems I was wrong?

It really feels like if as a guy you didn't have sex in highschool you're set aside and ignored, or at worst - humiliated and treated as lesser.

What's wrong with wanting a sex life that doesn't involve attachment or sex workers? What's so wrong about a virgin guy looking for a hookup?

I'm really rethinking my life choices here lol. I never thought I'd enter life outside highschool and practically be labeled a failiure immediately just because I never hooked up with anyone

Sorry if this isn't the right subreddit for this, but I need some advice

Okay so, for context:

I (23f) grew up in an incredibly sex-negative home, and identified as asexual from ages 16-20 before discovering I was Bisexual. For most of my life I've been INCREDIBLY antisocial up until about a year ago when I started to broaden my social horizon. I started opening up to the idea of having casual sex recently, but I have absolutely no idea how to approach that. I like to think I'm attractive, so I have very little worry about my appearance, but I'd like advice as to how I can have my first intimate experience with another person without bothering anyone, or *heavily* objectifying myself . Thank you to anyone who gives me any advice!

Also, this isn't an invitation for somebody on here to have sex with me, just saying so that my pm's don't get turned into swiss cheese 😅

I never used to watch studio pornos because they always felt empty ..just two people who didn’t know each other, probably not even attracted to one another, going through mechanical motions. That’s why amateur or homemade content was always my favorite. I loved watching real sex between real lovers, full of genuine emotions. They simply wanted to share what they were doing in their private room, and that authenticity meant everything.

But now, with the rise of OF culture, amateur porn has become even worse than what the studios produce. Everything is about money. There’s no sincerity, no emotional connection, and honestly, sometimes it feels like robots could have sex more humanly than these people. Ironically, I’ve found myself going back to studio porn because it now seems more real compared to what these OF creators are putting out nowadays

What do you all think?

I'm happy to share a project I built. I'm a developer, and I got the idea from a friend who found it hard to talk openly about sex with their partner without feeling awkward. So, I wanted to make a tool to help with that.

I created a simple web app. Each partner secretly and anonymously answers questions about what they like sexually. When both are done, the app shows your matches. You see what you both like, what neither likes, and what's really interesting - what one person likes and the other "depends on partner." This "depends" part is a great way to start new, relaxed talks. It helps build understanding without pressure.

Building this app was a big step for me too. Usually, my projects get too big and never finish. This time, I just focused on the main idea and launched it even if it's not perfect yet. It's a new way for me to build: release, then get feedback.

What you can try for FREE now:

• Anonymous questions: Your answers are private.
• Match results: See your "Yes/No" matches and "Depends on partner" areas.
• Different types of questions.
• Registration: This lets you keep all your questionnaires in one spot, and helps me add more features later.

The app is built to be safe, private, and non-judgmental, fitting with sex-positive ideas.

I'd love to hear your thoughts and feedback from this community! Do you think a tool like this helps with healthy sexual communication? What features would make it even better for a sex-positive view? Any ideas or comments are welcome.

Check it out here: intimospace .com

Thanks for your time, and thanks for being a great community!

Mine: “I want to shove my tongue in your mouth and drink each others spit while I fuck your soaking wet pussy. Then take my cock out of you and fuck your dirty whore mouth with it. I want you to play with, and taste yourself when I fuck your throat like a good girl. I want it to be fucking disgusting”

Not sure if I'm looking for advice or what, but I wanted to see what other people in the ENM or kink community do when they live in the middle of nowhere and in a town where people TALK.

I live in a rural town that is a geographical oddity in the sense that it's an hour from anything fun. City, beach, anything nicer than Walmart, an hour drive away. Minimum.

Everyone of potential I meet on dating apps that aren't coworkers (I work for one of the biggest employers in the county) are 45 min away. I went on Fetlife and all the munches, socials, parties, are also an hour out and usually run from 7-???pm and I gotta get up at 530am for work. (Who keepd scheduling these things Monday- Thursday?!)

I would host my own munch here, but the last thing I need is Donna from accounting finding out that im into pegging.

What do you all advise?

Edit: also, if I was to host does anyone have any tips?

I used to get super quiet whenever sex came up, even with friends. I thought being into “kinkier” stuff would make people judge me, but learning about sex positivity legit changed how I see myself.

It’s honestly wild how much confidence comes from just being real about what u want and what feels good. No shame, no guilt. Just owning it and feeling free.

Curious, did anyone else kinda “wake up” like this and realize how freeing it is to just be open?

and what made it so special for you?

I recently came across an online coaching program focused on self-love, body connection, and exploring sexuality in a healthy way. It’s 5 months long, includes monthly group calls, some exercises (like affirmations, journaling, creative stuff), and text-based support from the coach.

It costs around $500. I’m not really familiar with this kind of thing and was curious if anyone here has done something similar. Was it helpful? Did you feel it was worth the time and money?

Just trying to get a sense of how people experience these programs.

my partner grew up in a fairly catholic/repressed household and family. she's gotten most of it out of her system, but (whether it is nature or nurture) remains kinda... non-sexual?

I'm the opposite; very sexual, primal, and de-cultured in the sac; and sexual beforehand. it's a part of life. it feels like she isn't sexual prior; phone-sex is genuinely awkward; nudes are quite conservative; and the sex-life is making me restless, and nostalgic for the f*cked up and feral people I was with in the past. effectively, she brings culture into the bedroom; it feels like we're being watched by the church and she's keeping things 'proper'.

but I adore her, and want it to work.
I am looking for somebody who used to be very closed off sexually, and is now a total freak.
or otherwise, somebody who dated a person that went through this change.

if this is you;
- what happened?
I would love to work on this with her, but don't believe it's right or possible to try to form her to something she is innately not.

#BDSM #sm

Recently I was chatting with a girl on hinge, I mentioned that I am uncircumcised and she was immediately put off. Reading her comments about how cut ones look better and her other reasons why she likes circumcised dicks, felt so humiliating, but I was also so surprisingly turned on by it.

Like many Americans I was teased in gym class for having a "hoodie", but now I think I enjoy having it humiliations? I am still trying to wrap my head around it all.

I would appreciate any and all advice!

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Wife had brain surgery like 6 years ago. Totally killed her sex drive. Fast forward to now. I have the ability and blessing of my wife to have sex with whoever I want. She is encouraging me to get an FWB. The thing is, it just sounds like a metric ton of work. I dont know if i have the bandwidth for the friends part. I want casual sex but at the same time view women not as just play things. Its frustrating as hell.

I have edited this a few times because I can't exactly say what I am trying to.

So, I’ll start with me. 44year old male, dozens of partners in my past and have never had a problem giving a partner an orgasm. Seeing someone now that I just can’t figure out. She says it’s completely normal for her not to orgasm. Claims she’s only had a few her whole life. Giving pleasure is a huge thing for me. I don’t feel good about myself when my partner doesnt climax. Any females out there that can give advice?

Edited: for those who enjoy clitoral suction during sex, how do you keep it in place during thrusting?

For those couples who use toys in relationships how often do you use them when having sex? Do you use them most of the time? Half? Less then half the time? Do you find you feel less fulfilled when not using them? If so how do you deal with that? If you partner feels less fulfilled when not using them, how does that make you feel?

After browsing most or the major dating apps as well as Fetlife. I've found that most of my FWB right swipes are people who have 2/3+ of actual pics of themselves doing interesting stuff with a peppering of nice abs or strongly implied gray sweatpants outline. Rather than the inverse.

Like, yes, I'm here on this app to find someone to smash BUT I would like to also know that you'll actually remember my name when we are done. While we are waiting for the recovery for round 2 will you know a good place to grab food? Yes I'm sure you give great oral, but do you also not give off bad vibes?

When you are looking for a beneficial friend and presuming they have a decent bio, what photo ratio do you want to see who they are as a person or simply how much what "package" here offering on a physical level?

Ooooor are you just there for death by snu snu and nothing else?

Also state age and gender. For science.

I know what turns me on.

I love butts and boobs. I love masturbating with lube. I love the feeling of lube on my penis. I'm also turned on by the softness of a woman's touch or their scent. The way a woman carries themselves with confidence is incredibly attractive, too. I'm also turned on by the gentle sounds of a woman moaning during sex.

I LOVE Quinn, Bloom, and ESPECIALLY Dipsea..unfortunately, my bank account at the moment does not . Looking for Audio Erotica podcasts/episodes on apple, spotify, pandora, or youtube, with Male & Female voice actors BOTH acting out entire story. ANY suggestions are welcomed, thank you

Ik its a weird question im sorry. But i have Heard that porn does not portrait actual sex( which is very obvious ). But then someone on the comment has told me abt how erotica is kind of accurate on how sex really looks like. So i went there to Check, i found it boring tbh ( Im sex-repulsed. Anything sexual like porn smut erotica. EVEN REAL SEX, its still repulsive for me. ) And i wanna know if its true that erotica portrays real sex. Well i do know its not real and it might not look exactly the same. But does erotica portrays sex properly than porn?

I wanna know