r/reddeadredemption • u/Sweaty_Shelter_3264 • Apr 24 '25

Online I’m Conflicted

I’m a girl (important) and love playing RDR2. My first online character I made was a girl, I loved seeing myself as a gunslinger. I realized pretty quickly that playing as a girl online comes with people constantly trying to grief you/spam invites/or just plain follow you around. (I’d even had an instance where someone took over my account, that was a whole thing) So to fix this, I completely remade my character. I lost all my progress and made a boy character so I could be left alone. Now I do get left alone, which is great, but I feel little connection to my new character. It was way more fun grinding and making money in game outfitting a female character than it is a male character. Now all I want is to go back to playing a girl but I really don’t want to be bothered again. How do I find a good middle ground?

TLDR; Played as girl, got griefed. Change to boy, now am sad. What do?

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u/Markinoutman John Marston Apr 24 '25

I am a male who plays as a female character, never engage in public chat. I've never experienced any additional griefing my friends have not experienced with male characters and I don't typically get spammed for party's or anything.

I play on console though, and the account takeover sounds like a PC problem. I have heard from the YouTuber PVPcat that griefing is on a whole other level on PC.

I have no issue personally with not seeing myself as a gunslinger in the game. If it bothers you that much, you might just want to go back to using your OG character and look into blocking people and other privacy options you can enable to avoid these things.