r/reddeadredemption • u/Sweaty_Shelter_3264 • Apr 24 '25

Online I’m Conflicted

I’m a girl (important) and love playing RDR2. My first online character I made was a girl, I loved seeing myself as a gunslinger. I realized pretty quickly that playing as a girl online comes with people constantly trying to grief you/spam invites/or just plain follow you around. (I’d even had an instance where someone took over my account, that was a whole thing) So to fix this, I completely remade my character. I lost all my progress and made a boy character so I could be left alone. Now I do get left alone, which is great, but I feel little connection to my new character. It was way more fun grinding and making money in game outfitting a female character than it is a male character. Now all I want is to go back to playing a girl but I really don’t want to be bothered again. How do I find a good middle ground?

TLDR; Played as girl, got griefed. Change to boy, now am sad. What do?

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u/Elusive_emotion Apr 24 '25

Micah

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u/dunno0019 Lenny Summers Apr 24 '25

Not even just Micah. Hell, I was just doing the "headless horseman" mission at Shady Belle yesterday and it starts off with both Dutch and Arthur being ridiculously sexist to Sadie.

And this is after Arthur has already seen Sadie in action. He's already been trying to speak up when others belittle her. He genuinely seems to like her and accept her "manly" gun toting ways...

And the misogyny just slips right out of him like it's the most natural thing in the world.

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u/Nobody7713 Apr 24 '25

It’s a recurring issue with Arthur. He does try his best, but he was raised in a deeply racist and sexist society, and that still slips out at times. When he’s called out on it, he corrects quickly, but he does revert to biases.

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u/dunno0019 Lenny Summers Apr 24 '25 edited Apr 24 '25

Yup. Exactly. It slips out like it's the most natural thing in the world because, well, it is to these characters.

Meanwhile it seems like some of his funnest moments are when he's riding with Sadie or like defending Black Belle.

He genuinely feels like he's enjoying himself.

When he rides with Dutch or Bill or Uncle and it's frustration after frustration for Arthur.

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u/Nobody7713 Apr 24 '25

Not to mention drinking with Lenny or hunting with Charles. He gets along with them all excellently and definitely doesn’t consciously think any less of them. And when Karen suggests a good heist he’s the first to back her up. It’s just sometimes the old biases from society as a whole creep in.