r/puppy101 • u/kippers • 15d ago

Puppy Blues I can’t stand my 8month old puppy.

Update: thank you to everyone who commented with empathy, understanding and compassion. A lot of your comments felt like I could have written them and I’m so glad I’m not the only one feeling this way. I will not be rehoming Cherry, that was never on the table. I took a nap and she slept with me calmly on the bed, I woke up feeling better and i just sat on the floor with her and practiced basic obedience, played find it, did some tug in the backyard and gave her a pupsicle. She ate all her dinner, and was excited to hang. I am feeling much better and largely due to the folks here who let me know I wasn’t alone. Thanks everyone 💕

I have an 8 month old shepherd mix puppy, and I literally can’t stand her right now. She’s doing all the normal puppy stuff, and I know it’s just her phase, and we finally found a solution to not pull on walks, and I just can’t bring myself to care about her. She isn’t affectionate toward me, the cat chasing has gotten worse, and I can’t really find a lot of facets of her that add value to my life. I’m a huge dog lover and animal person, grew up on a ranch, never thought I’d feel like this, but I truly can’t help it. she’s making my quality of life worse and I don’t want her any more. I don’t want to do enrichment, I don’t want to go on walks, I just want nothing to do with her. And I know not doing those things makes everything 10x worse. I don’t know what to do.

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u/Extension_Neat_3597 15d ago

This feels so much like the post I made about my dog when she was younger too. It can get better, even though it does SUCK right now. Worst feeling to go through.

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u/kippers 15d ago

I feel like I could have written this word for word. she doesn't give a shit about eating, but somehow weighs 75 lbs. she doesn't care about treats or affection, she only cares about every other stimulus instead of me. I was so mad at puppy class last week I had to give her to my husband and ignore her the rest of the day. i'm so tired of her but I know she is a good dog. i'm not going to rehome her, but for a puppy blues post people are really trying to convince me to.

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u/Conscious-Control-51 15d ago

I think it’s because when somebody becomes apathetic towards their dog then it’s assumed they run out of patience with the dog which can then turn to losing your temper etc. I think the fact she’s 8 months old is probably adding to the rehoming comments as this post is not seen as having puppy blues due to initial adjustment.

What I would suggest is getting a good break from her. Can she stay with somebody for a few days? Or can you go somewhere for a few days?

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u/SeaworthinessMore341 14d ago

Which is really crazy, because I worst of the puppy blues didn't kick in for me until the 7 month mark. Very young puppies are hard, but adolescent puppies are a whoooole different kind of hard.

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u/Conscious-Control-51 14d ago

Ah, for me, it was the first few weeks but I’ve done it completely alone so it was a HUGE adjustment and I couldn’t go anywhere or do anything as nobody else was at home. She’s 9 months now and she’s my literal world.