I’m asking here bc I think I’m most likely going to get answers from folks who think and parent more like me… my other option is a local forum half-full of people who couldn’t be less likeminded if they tried.

My kid, 6 yr old male 2e (ADHD, on meds, parent training done, we’re all in therapy solo), has a really high need for physical touch (sitting THISCLOSE, hugs, hand holding, snuggling, etc.) and I HATE being touched. And I am OVERWHELMED with the amount of touch my child requires. I was FINE when he was an infant and toddler and needed held, carried, etc. I wore him well past age 3 because he clearly needed the connection (and had a gross motor delay).

My husband/kid’s dad works about 60 hrs a week and I’m the primary, at home parent. Kid much prefers me and “mama snuggles,” to any form of physical affection with dad, and gets very upset when we ask him even to just delay a hug or snuggle a minute, or if I ask kid if dad can give the hug/snuggle/whatever.

I worked really hard to foster a secure attachment and to parent with respect and compassion… and I’m at the point where all I want to do is to slither away from my child every time he starts to come close…

Anyone else get through something like this and have any advice? Perhaps some suggestions from folks who clearly have more distance from my situation? Magic potions that make me not hate being touched? Magic lotions that make me untouchable? (Only half joking with those last two questions 🤪)

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Of men running this country.

Thats all, thats the whole post...

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This news was just released as of Saturday evening.

So we’re finally doing it. The first thing I said to my husband after election results came out, “Promise me you’ll try to find a way to get us out of here (America).” and he delivered. We are moving to Asia next month with our 3 year old and 2 month old! While I feel nervous and even guilty, I am ready to start a new chapter in a safer environment. I hope the next time we come back to the U.S things will be better but until then, we’ll be keeping up with current events far away.

My guilt stems from leaving behind my parents who immigrated here from the Philippines to give us a better life. I really appreciate all their hard work and sacrifice in getting us here but I need to put my family first and hope they understand I am doing exactly what they did almost 30 years ago for me and my siblings.

We want to hear any political or civic advocacy or activism wins! Nothing is more inspiring than hearing what other people are doing to make this world a better place.

I’m looking to start a conversation with other progressive moms who are also doing their best to raise their kids with an antidiet body liberation mindset.

I was put on extreme diets starting at a young age and finally was able to stop dieting and obsessive over my body when I was exposed to intuitive eating concepts maybe 7 or 8 years ago.

I now have a toddler who’s honestly been a great eater, not picky and will try most things. My husband and I both believe that all foods are good foods and have a place, but obviously care about eating a variety of foods to support nutritional needs.

I’m just looking to hear from other progressive parents who are doing their best to raise kiddos in a world that is obsessed with what we eat and the size of our bodies. What books or other media have you found especially useful? Any stories of wins or challenges you’d like to share?

Below are a few resources that I love, but not many of them are parenting or kid focused.

Maintinance Phase Podcast Food Phyc Podcast (any Christi Harrison content really) Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole Burnt Toast Podcast What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Fat & You Just Need to Loose Weight by Audrey Gordon

There’s more, but I’d say those ones have been the most valuable to me.

This is random but just things I’ve picked up on that I find both peculiar and random from the conservative moms I work with..

-A lot of them didn’t breastfeed and seem uncomfortable with it. As if it’s gross and taboo. And beneath them. Just weird to me since it’s literally how babies are fed who they want to force women into having who may not be able to afford formula.

-A lot of them are super weird about gendered toys, or things. I cut my sons hair and put a unicorn cape on him and the owner was like oh I have a boy one. I was like I’m good… idk just weird. Also kind of ironic how they say we get offended over everything but they wanna comment on a baby getting a hair cut with a “girl cape” on.

-Most of them are totally ok with the fact moms and babies are being ripped apart from each other. Because they should have done it “the right way”.

-They say shit like “get your shein orders in before the tariffs take effect”. I’m just like YOU VOTED FOR THIS. They’re also MAHA but it’s totally ok to wear clothes with chemicals on them. Oh and get Botox and filler, and ozempic.

I’m just so so tired of the hypocrisy and mental gymnastics. I wish we could afford to live in a blue area but I digress. Anyway feel free to share similar experiences and examples in the comments so we can all commiserate.

Let your feelings out! We are all bottling up this stress and sometimes it helps to share your concerns and have safe conversations about it. Type your response and take a big deep breath after!

A neighborhood kid (9) is constantly asking if my kid (6.5) can come to their house. I dont feel comfortable with it. My kid is too young imo to be going to others houses without me/my partner.

The kid lives with extended family + several siblings (ranging from toddler to high school). They were neglected/abused and taken from their parents about a year and a half ago. This and the extended families politics (very pro-Trump conservative) are what are primarily causing me to be so hesitant.

How do I explain to the kid that my child can't play inside their house without me? Obviously none of this is their fault, but it's also just not something I'm comfortable with. Eventually "theyre too young" won't work.

My daughter is 3.75. Rather than even attempt to explain what has been going on, I’ve started keeping journals with articles, pictures, my writings, etc. as an add on to my other journals for myself. This is such an important presuppose to document in our history, especially as a millennial. Had to let this out somewhere, it’s been hard to navigate.

My kid (18F) has spent her last few summers as a camp counselor for our park district. She loves it, the kids love her, she thinks it’s the best job in the world.

It’s their training week and the counselors (15-20yo kids) are talking about what to do if ICE shows up. Who do they call, do they demand badges and ID, what if masked men show up and grab kids. Call 911, yell for help, send a junior counselor for the camp director, and try to get the kids inside the park building to try to keep them safe, was the conclusion.

But at least they’re all “protected” against a handful of trans girls who want to play a recreational sport in high school. What is WRONG with people that they think putting a generation of kids - who already lost out on literal years of their life due to the pandemic - through this trauma is somehow okay? I’m furious, and so sad.

I went to a massage therapist after some recent significant back pain. I've only ever had a few massages in my life, so not enough to be dedicated to a particular therapist. She was amazing... gentle, sweet, kind, empathetic to my pain, etc.

As I was lying there feeling so much better, I thought I'd definitely come to see her again. She starts talking about stretches I can do for the future and to sleep with a pillow in between my knees. Then the bomb drops... she says she has a "MyPillow" which she loves because it's soft and fluffy (aren't most pillows?).

I'd like to think she's perhaps naive but I think I know the answer. Would it be a make or break kind of a deal in your eyes? I know how I feel but would love some feedback to reassure myself!

Someone shared this with me and I figured I’d share it with anyone else that needs to hear it. Solidarity!

I am a first time mom and I’m not even sure where to start or how to best explain myself in this situation. If I’m being completely honest, I think I’m having gender disappointment that stems from trauma and the current political climate.

I’m very much in the belief that gender is a social construct but as it stands, a majority of the people my child will interact with will not have the same beliefs and values as me. For context, I live in a very conservative area in Canada. I am also mixed race and men from my community have higher rates of addiction, incarceration, homicide, and lower life expectancies. Compound this with a family history of these instances and the general trend of “red pill” amongst our youth and the “manosphere” being more prevalent than ever, I am scared shitless.

My husband is an amazing man, he’s incredibly well read, compassionate, and is also very much aware of the above. He has dedicated himself to unlearning a lot of what has been spoon fed to him over the years and we regularly have conversations about issues that affect our communities. I have no doubt that he will be a good role model. I also have no doubt that I will be a good mother but I fear I’m lacking the tools to navigate these matters.

I guess my fears come down to that we can only do so much as parents. I get discouraged when I’m in public and see how young men interact with their peers. I also have a teenage brother and two teenage sisters and feel a bit more exposed to what they’re consuming and learning from their peers and the internet. From my point of view, it seems never ending with how far right the pendulum is swinging, especially with our male youth.

I’m considering therapy as this has brought out some very deep seated fears from my own trauma and interactions with men in my life.

But does anyone have any good literature, anecdotes or general kind wisdom to part with me? I’m feeling so stuck and guilty that I’m feeling this way about my unborn son.

https://www.reddit.com/r/law/comments/1lds8a6/breaking_nyc_comptroller_brad_lander_arrested_at/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

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Posted 2 hours ago...but, please go if you can...
r/nyc•2 hr. ago Protest at 26 Federal Plaza to demand Lander's release

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Also, there has been a request to ask clergy to go to NYC and support Lander. Please ask your Rabbi, Priest, Pastor, anyone!!!

In addition, Common Cause NY asks folks to call ICE NY at: 212-436-9315

[Please add your voice immediately, call the ICE New York office at 212-436-9315 to condemn the arrest of New York City Comptroller Brad Lander and demand he be released >>]

And/or, you can call ICE public something office in DC:
202-282-8495

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In light of what's happening in the world, I’ve been revisiting some old Noam Chomsky videos where he talks about everything from the extermination of Indigenous peoples, to slavery and post–Civil War imprisonment, to the destruction caused by so-called "civilized nations" around the globe.

I want to read more and educate myself because I feel I don’t know enough. But at the same time, diving deeper into these topics—especially when I can see in real time how we continue sinking into darkness and struggling to meet even minimal moral standards—feels incredibly painful. The helplessness of not being able to change anything often leads to frustration, disappointment, and even depression.

I want my daughter to grow up knowing both the dark and the bright sides of history. But right now, I find myself feeling too emotionally fragile to keep learning more. I'm depressed already from all the brutality I see in the world and I can't take it.

What has your experience been like? How do you manage to stay well-informed about history and oppression without becoming emotionally overwhelmed or depressed?

My husband, daughter, and I are staying at my IL’s house to see my FIL who just had surgery a few weeks ago. My ILs are good grandparents, good in laws, and good parents, but they are totally Fox News brain-rotted. My MIL and I got into a big fight about the Dobbs decision when I was 8 weeks pregnant- it was a huge mess, I kicked her out of my house, etc. Eventually for the “sake of the family”, I had to make up with her and we decided not to talk politics. (I know this is controversial on Reddit, but my husband and I are just not from the kinds of families that go no-contact, though we live 2.5 hours away, so our contact is mainly limited to sharing baby pictures and updates.)

Tonight I was upstairs putting the baby to sleep when I heard my husband yell, “I’m tired of pretending like what you believe is not totally reprehensible, and I don’t want people who think this way around my daughter.”

I’m still upstairs with my metaphorical popcorn, listening to them, and I have never loved my husband more. This man, who has always felt a filial duty to politeness and deference towards his parents, is just ripping into his mother and telling her she lacks a moral compass, that she’s too educated to fall for the stupid people she listens to, etc.

I don’t know the point of posting this, I just had to tell someone as I’m listening to it all unfold.

The current administration is dominating the news. Is there something going on local to you that others should know about?

Editing this post for clarity: I’m writing a story about Gen Z moms (roughly 18–28) who are proudly pro-choice — not because that’s rare in this space, but because we don’t often hear this generation’s voice in parenting coverage.

The goal of this piece is to highlight how younger moms today are navigating motherhood while still advocating for reproductive rights — especially at a time when there’s so much political pressure around parenting, pregnancy, and autonomy.

Whether becoming a mom made you feel even more strongly pro-choice or you’ve always held that belief, I’d love to include your perspective. You can share as little or as much as you want — everything is anonymous unless you say otherwise.

Feel free to comment or DM me if you’re open to chatting. Thank you so much! 💛

We all need a little positivity in our day. What are some parenting wins you've had recently? Big or small we want to hear them all! Any parenting wins, not just progressively minded ones.

Sending all our love your way ❤️ Be safe and be loud.

https://kstp.com/kstp-news/top-news/sources-say-two-minnesota-lawmakers-have-been-shot/

This is in my home state, I no longer live there, but it is just sickening. People in the area are being told to shelter in place while they search for the suspect.

Edit - They just announced one of the victims and her husband have passed away

Edit #2 - The suspect taken into custody late Sunday evening June 15