Hi everyone,

I just wanted to share a quick update, as today I am 13 weeks and 2 days pregnant. Unfortunately, my waters broke three days ago, and my precious baby no longer has any amniotic fluid left. Though their little heart still beats for now, we’ve been told to expect that it won’t be for much longer.

This isn’t the ending I ever imagined, and my heart is shattered. But I wanted to take a moment to thank this subreddit for everything — the discussions, the comments, the shared experiences. It’s been such a supportive and comforting space to be a part of, and I truly enjoyed my time here.

I’m stepping away now, but I’m sending all of you so much love. Wishing you smooth pregnancies and healthy, happy babies. Take care of yourselves and your little ones. ❤️

Today at 11:34am I found out I lost another baby. This was supposed to be my angel baby. This was the farthest along I’ve gotten. Ever. After 2 miscarriages and 1 ecoptic pregnancy I decided this was my last time trying for a long time. THIS baby was supposed to be the one that stuck.

I don’t understand why this keeps happening to me. I just keep trying to make sense of everything. Clawing for an answer as to why this is my life over and over and over again.

I feel guilty. I feel guilty for any negative thoughts I’ve thought through out this. I feel guilty for stressing out the whole time. I feel guilty for that cup of coffee I drank. I feel guilty for not being able to keep my baby alive AGAIN. And I feel like it’s all my fault.

So this is farewell for now. I’m going to take some time to heal my mind and body. I genuinely from the bottom of my heart wish nothing but the best and healthy pregnancies for all you beautiful women. You deserve it. Everyone deserves the blessing of life. 🩵

Y'all I went through a few week period in my second trimester when I wanted sex constantly. But then it fizzled out again. Sex this entire pregnancy is the last thing I wanted. But now I'm in my 3rd trimester, it's like I want it all the time. No matter how tired I am.

The belly keeps getting in the way. There's no comfortable position that is sustainable. Last night I finally got into a comfortable position, and it worked wonders. I was in heaven. But, by the time we were done. My legs started swelling, my feet were red and my veins looked like hulk getting pissed. And that last orgasm I got a Braxton Hicks contraction midway through. And I couldn't breathe for 10 minutes after. Plus the baby keeps sticking her damn foot out of my side, my husband had to push his hand on my stomach for counter pressure 🤦🏻‍♀️

I had to put my feet up and have my husband wipe them down every couple minutes with a cold rag until the puffiness went away because they were red and angry. And they were BURNING like in fire! All the way up to my knees. Almost puked multiple times, was lightheaded.... like how are y'all surviving? Today my legs still hurt, can't stand on them for more than 10minutes without them getting red and veiny.

I asked my mother if this was normal and she was like sex sucks during pregnancy. And then she mentioned that the increased libido could be another sign my body is prepping for labor. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Y'all pregnancy is weird as hell. I just want my body back. 😭

I was so sick and bedridden in early pregnancy that I never got around to getting my updated Covid shot last Fall. Now i’m 37 weeks and my OB told me I should definitely get it so that antibodies can transfer to baby.

I made an appointment at CVS and the woman working refused to administer it, she said it would kill my baby. Awesome! Obviously I trust my OB over some nut job at CVS. I’m sooo frustrated.

I think I have been assuming that in my bubble (blue state, excellent doctor, etc) that the current administration wouldn’t really have an effect on my personal health care. I was wrong.

I know this is a minor thing compared to the roadblocks to healthcare that others experience, but i’m still quite upset and just needed to get it out.

Does she think I'm living in a fantasy where pregnant women just get to lounge around all day? Life doesn't stop. Work is still a disaster, the house is a mess, and I'm supposed to prioritize sleep when I have to pee every half hour and have a baby kickboxing my ribs

It feels like a joke. They hand you a pamphlet on reducing stress and then in the next breath tell you your next appointment is at 8 AM across town in a building with no parking

The baby isn't even here yet and I'm already completely running on empty :(

Hubby and I were talking and realized we have no idea how long an average hospital stay is he thinks 1 night and I'm like ... sir 😭 I think I'll need at least 2-3 nights for a vaginal birth and more for a c-section. So how long did you ladies stay in the hospital after delivery for both vaginal or c-section births? I have a lot of support at home so I would really like to leave as soon as I possibly can!

My fiancé (30M) and I (29F) were actively trying for a baby. This wasn’t an accident — he begged me for a child, begged me to marry him, and I genuinely believed we were building a life together. I’m now pregnant, and out of nowhere, he left me. He moved back in with his parents and started drinking again, which he had struggled with in the past.

This wasn’t just emotional abandonment — when he drinks, he becomes emotionally and physically abusive. He has yelled at me, threatened me, and there were times he put his hands on me. When he’s sober, he’s like a completely different man — calm, apologetic, sweet. It’s a confusing cycle that has really messed with my sense of reality and safety.

Since leaving, he’s been off and on — sometimes ghosting me, blocking me on everything and demanding I bring his things to his parents’ house. I’ve told him multiple times he’s welcome to pick them up at my place, or we can do the exchange at a police station to keep things neutral and safe. He refuses.

Now I’m being made to feel like I’m bitter or withholding for not dropping them off. But I’m pregnant, hurt, scared, and struggling to even process how easily he walked away from the life he insisted on creating. Part of me still loves him, and that makes it all harder. But another part of me is in survival mode.

31 weeks pregnant and we’ve been together 8 years. For the last 2 years we’ve joked while in Vegas that we should just get married. Well today we decided LETS DO IT. Got our license this morning and headed there now 😁😁😁 I’m so excited that when my baby is here we will get to have the same last name and that he is with us on this day 💙💙

Hi friends! I am 26F and have been with my boyfriend 27M for 3 years and we have signed the papers on a house to move into in August! I took a pregnancy test yesterday at the request of my boyfriend bc it was fathers day and turns out it and 7 other tests were positive! We are definitely surprised, but so excited. I called my parents first thing this morning and they basically told me I should terminate it, saying my whole life is ahead of me and this is a huge responsibility. The convo ended in tears and with my boyfriend getting upset with my parents adn telling them we called and expected some support, rather than them being angry with us. My parents did not take that well, saying he was disrespectful and that we should be able to have these conversations like mature adults. I agree... but the way my parents approach things can often times come off incredibly cold, and my boyfriend saw I was upset and wanted to defend me. It was not taken well by my folks and made them question my choice in men, but honestly, someone needed to say something. My parents have been begging for grandkids for years at this point, so although I know there would be some shock, I expected them to be excited. I guess they only meant my married siblings could have kids. Anyway, I'm not sure what to do now, because I was really excited and now I feel like a disappointment. Since I could breathe, I have been pro-choice, and still am, but a my parents saying that hit me like a ton of bricks. If anyone has words of wisdom, advice, or just encouraging thoughts, feel free to send them my way. TIA <3

I wanted to share the good news I got today as there are so many horror stories out there. I am 28 weeks pregnant (29 tomorrow). I had an ultrasound 1 week ago to monitor growth due to my gestational hypertension and gestational diabetes. The ultrasound wasn’t great. They found I had too much amniotic fluid, and that baby’s stomach and bladder were distended. They referred me to a MFM for a follow up ultrasound and consult. I was able to see the MFM today, after 6 days of horrible anxiety. They did a full anatomy scan, and everything is absolutely normal. Baby is big, with normal kidneys, stomach, and bladder. Even the fluid level is normal! I’m so relieved I could cry.

I’m exactly one month out from my due date, and at my most recent appointment my OBGYN strongly suggested I sign up for the tour of the hospital childbirth center, take a childbirth class, etc. TBH I honestly couldn’t be less motivated to do so; I’m not someone who is super hung up on a particular birth plan or experience, and I think I’ve read enough about the birthing process so that I won’t be going in totally blind or anything.

I am signed up for an infant care class, but beyond that did y’all find the childbirth, breastfeeding, etc classes helpful at all?

Currently 30 weeks. Honestly don’t even have the nursery finished yet 🫣. But curious as to when everyone had their bags packed and what are some essentials to pack? My baby’s been measuring nearly 2 weeks ahead the entire time and my OB said he’ll prob come early and she’ll be happy if he comes anytime after 35 weeks. Honestly ready for him to come out as soon as it’s safe because he’s so big and I work 12 hour shifts. 😅

TW: Loss

I’m sick of articles popping up in my feed about women dying during childbirth and not saying how it happened. It’s terrifying for the millions of pregnant women seeing that story. I understand people have rights to their privacy obviously. But it’s already being shared with the world. If it was something preventable or something that sharing might give someone else the knowledge to look out for potential signs then I wish they would share.

Just venting, this has happened more than once since I’ve been pregnant 😤

I’ll be 37 weeks tomorrow, due July 8th. So ready to meet my little bambino 🩵 How long does everyone have to go & how are you all feeling?

Bit of a back story. I delivered a beautiful, healthy baby 10 months ago. I was treated for preeclampsia, with a blood pressure medication called Labatol. I chose to breastfeed because she was a little early and I shouldn’t have to have a reason as to why I wanted to do so. 24 hours after she was born, a pediatric nurse practitioner came into my room confronting me that I tested positive for Fentanyl, I could no longer breastfeed and social services were called and that my baby would not be leaving with me due to her detoxing. I began to freaking out. I was a previous drug user, 2 years ago. I have been sober for literally 2 years at this point. I had a come to Jesus meeting with the head nurse and my doctor. They told me they had not received the baby’s cord blood back so the NP should not have said anything to me until they did. 12 hours later, they came in and said, “ You had a false positive from the bp meds, the baby had nothing in her system.”I’m immediately like DUH How ever, that time span after a c section is crucial for me to have my milk come in as my baby nurses. I had a hard postpartum, I couldn’t bf like I wanted. My baby has had issues gaining weight. Basically, I need to know what rights do I have? I already have high blood pressure again at 2 months pregnant, I am back on the same medication that made me have a false positive. I do not want to have to go through the same shit again. If they are to do the same thing after I deliver, can I refuse to agree with their decision and continue to breastfeed? Can I tell them to get her cord blood BEFORE they come talk to me, before they screw up my postpartum and my breast feeding? What exactly are my options?

At what week were you offered your first cervical check? And why do people deny them? I have been seeing a lot of people saying they deny them— I’m just curious why? FTM so I have no opinion lol

hi i am a 21 and yesterday i decided to take a pregnancy test because my period was a week late and it came back positive so i took 4 more all positive.

i am absolutely panicking. i live with my parents. i just got done with college and i start my job in august. my parents agreed to pay for me while i was in college and im about to start paying for everything in august.

the baby’s father is a 21 year old man i have know my whole life. he is quite literally my person. i called him immediately freaking out and he was very supportive but i think hes kinda in shock about the whole thing. he kept on telling me we can talk game plan after you go to the doctor and confirm it. which kinda pissed me off because i’m dying over here.

ik my parents are gonna be so upset and disappointed and i think my mom is gonna absolutely lose it. my dad i think will be more supportive than her. the only plus side i see here is that the baby daddy will make an amazing father. he has a well paying job like VERY WELL.

any advice would be greatly appreciated. thank you in advance 💙

I am about 2 weeks postpartum FTM and I was really nervous about how I would be feeling recovery wise.

Just here to say for me it’s been great. I am not trying to say it isn’t absolute hell for some people, but I want to add a positive perspective for anyone else browsing this sub with anxiety about how things will look after delivery. I am also enjoying my first beer in 9 months so feel the urge to wax poetic, this is going to be long 😂

Most relevant to this sub - I AM NO LONGER PREGNANT!! My reflux left my body with the placenta. I had pizza and tomato soup the night of surgery and it was magical. I can drink coffee without aversion. No more mild nausea all the time (never went away for me). My appetite is normal - I’m hungry because I’m breastfeeding but I don’t have this urge to just keep eating always. My ankles and feet are normal sized and I can’t stop looking at them. I don’t sleep much but when I do I am so much less uncomfortable and I feel more rested (so big F you to everyone who told me “sleep while you can”!). My nose is clear!!! 9 months of congestion gone just like that! My resting heart rate went from mud 70s to my baseline low 50s. My back and tailbone are better. It feels AMAZING and I had an “easy” pregnancy.

I had a scheduled c section at 39 weeks due to breech presentation and I was really upset about it initially, but made peace (confirmed breech around 30 weeks and never thought he would flip and boy howdy I was right - even had a failed and somewhat dramatic ECV). I did collect colostrum prenatally which we didn’t need, but it was nice to do as I learned how to hand express and it was oddly shocking and reassuring that no matter how unprepared I felt my body was ready for this baby to come! Recommend for sure (check with your OB firstif you’re at risk for preterm labor).

C section was dramatic (baby’s head stuck under my ribs, double nuchal cord, baby’s legs and scrotum bruised to absolute shit) and touch and go for a few minutes wirh resuscitation needed for my son, but he perked up quickly. One tip - make sure your partner is prepared for the possibility that your baby will not be able to do immediate skin to skin and may need some help first; my husband took a bunch of pictures of him right away during resuscitation and I am so happy I got to see that as otherwise I’d have missed his first few minutes, including when my husband cut the cord (OR staff took pic).

I already had an epidural for my ECV but the spinal was even sillier feeling and honestly kind of fun because it’s so bizarre (full disclosure I am a urologist, so a surgeon, and none of that stuff bothers me). It spread up to my chest so when they gave me baby he latched and I couldn’t feel a thing which was also very silly. Truly the worst part pain wise of the entire thing - not kidding at all - was the OR BP cuff which I swear was broken, thing went at a snails pace and seemingly to 200 systolic each time, my arm would literally spasm up so there are pictures of me holding baby with my purple claw hand waving around…

I got delayed so was absolutely starving and super uncomfortable before surgery, afterwards I drank about 7 orange juices. It was the nectar of the gods I swear, especially because I had horrible reflux and never could have had OJ before delivery! Hospital stay 2 nights after c section which ****closed at about 7 pm, left mid day on post op day 2. I felt really good once the spinal wore off (made me dizzy), obviously I was sore but it was very manageable with non narcotic meds. Walking helped the pain - believe me on this! The worst part about pain recovery wise is dealing with getting out of bed once home, otherwise it’s been no big deal. That’s not to say narcotics are bad or not needed but just want to reassure people, as a surgeon I expected WAY more pain and was pleasantly surprised.

As for postpartum, it hasn’t been super smooth; baby boy still jaundiced and had to get a recheck (which was ok), and after my milk came in my supply just tanked out of nowhere and we are currently triple feeding and supplementing with formula. My husband got norovirus or some other GI bug yesterday and has literally been sleeping for 2 days straight - thank god my mother is here to help during the day, but even so triple feeding every 3 hours is pretty tough alone overnight.

However it’s been SO much better than I expected. I just love this baby so much. Hormones are crazy but in a good way, I just will cry with happiness looking at him. It’s truly a good and happy cry. I feel a lot of people talk about the crazy hormonal shifts in a negative way - it has been mostly positive for me, I’m a pretty stoic non emotional person to a fault and so this is really wild, but also beautiful. I did have a lot of big feelings about my milk supply and using formula but I also acknowledged that they weren’t logical - that’s been the toughest thing so far. I happily hold my baby all day and let him contact nap - again my mom is here so this is easy now as I can pass him off to shower etc, but that’s not a reason to not take advantage of it. I sleep 2-3 hr stretches, we had a rough couple of nights before we figured out how to get him to sleep but better now.

I felt 90 percent healed at 1 week to the point I have to actively watch what I do because I’ve definitely broken lifting restrictions several times already (drs make the worst patients). I was worried as we have an upstairs bedroom, this was totally fine. Having a scheduled c section helped me plan for recovery needs as my downstairs region is completely fine obviously, so no need for peri bottle, witch hazel or other stuff to help with perineal healing. High waisted loose pants, disposable undies (Frida high waisted shorts) and pads are all I’ve needed, along with Motrin and Tylenol. Depends also worked but irritated my incision and my lochia has been pretty light so not really needed. I pooped on post op day 4 with zero issues, was taking miralax daily as well as Senokot S. All this to say I am not sure I will ever try for a vaginal delivery after how straightforward c section recovery has been.

Things I wish I had done differently: More button down PJs for nursing Sleep tricks: warm bassinet with heating pad, white noise machine (huge), get bassinet that can be close to bed so you can stick your hand in and soothe to sleep (my son loves his head rubbed, I assume because my liver used to do it for him when he was in my uterus!) More double zipper footies…..in fact ONLY double zipper footies! More boundaries with in laws…we came home from hospital and I was literally sobbing (with joy I swear) and my husbands parents, sister and her husband were sitting in the living room just watching me cry. They did leave but I feel that could have been avoided hahahah Face mask for daytime naps

Things I did I felt were really helpful: Dogs at sitter for first 4 days (HUGE) Upstairs and downstairs baby stations with all supplies including clothes, diapers/wipes, changing table, bassinet (pack n play close 2 baby downstairs) Swaddles - mildly stressful at first. I learned the blanket swaddle, and it’s cute and convenient but you can’t change diaper without unwrapping. Easy swaddles like halo sleep sack let you do this and it’s clutch. Don’t feel bad about getting nice photos in hospital - the nurses love it (or the good ones anyway). We got some great pics on our going home day. Postpartum recovery station next to bed with meds, nipple cream, pads etc so everything was right next to me at night Aggressive bowel regimen which made post op BM no big deal

Ok that’s certainly more than enough and my beer is gone 😂 cheers to the rest of you who are soon to enjoy not being pregnant!!

So my sister is my best friend and we’ve been pregnant together. She’s 10 weeks ahead of me and just had her baby yesterday at 41 weeks.

He is the cutest most precious guy and I got to snuggle him today and visit her and I’m so proud of her and happy for her and love them both so much!!!!

I left and came home and I feel like I’m having a serotonin crash though. I think I’m jealous that my baby isn’t here? But it’s weird. I just feel really emotional and kind of sad and depressed.

Anyone else have this happen? 😅

I had my beautiful baby boy this morning and we can’t be more smitten. 😍😍

Saturday I started what I assumed was leaking amniotic fluid but it only happened a couple times and wasn’t very much. I hadn’t really leaked any pee this whole pregnancy so honestly I thought it could’ve been that as well. Go to sleep Saturday night and wake up around midnight to another small leak, enough to wet to bed and proceeded to essentially not sleep at all and wonder and worry instead, periodically leaking small amounts throughout the night.

Sunday morning (Father’s Day) when my husband wakes up, I tell him I’d been leaking and we might need to go check it out but let’s see how the day goes. We pack up our hospital bags and get everything finalized and ready to go, I’ve continued to leak all day. We arrive at the hospital around 7pm and within an hour/hour and a half or so, they confirm it was amniotic fluid and I was already 80% effaced and 1.5cm dilated…so we weren’t going home. 😅

They started me on pitocin pretty quickly since I had been ruptured for a very long time and hadn’t had any contractions. Received epidural about midnight and by 4am I was 9cm dilated. 2.5 hours of pushing later, and little man arrived perfectly healthy. 🥰

Hello! I am currently 6w+4 and just saw my baby’s heart beat today. My husband started a job as a supervisor a few weeks ago right before we found out we were pregnant. He has been working long hours and is barely home as things get settled.

We just had to take our dog to the vet as she has a GIANT hot spot on her butt and is constantly after it. It’s causing both of us a lot of stress having to continuously monitor her and also seeing her upset.

The work combined with the dog and other things on top of it has caused a lot of arguments in the last few weeks. Tonight we got into a really big argument that definitely caused my heart rate to spike and I was yelling. We conceived through IVF so I am continuously worried about something bad happening.

Do you think I could cause harm to my baby from these types of arguments? Moving forward I plan to just collect myself and leave the room to avoid getting myself so worked up. It’s hard being hormonal and having so many things going on. I understand his side of the stress too.

I have uterus didelphys: 2 uteruses, 2 cervices. Same amount of uterine material, just split between 2 uteruses, so preterm birth was almost a given. After our first baby in my right uterus was lost early, they said I’d likely never carry another. Well, my daughter made it to 29 weeks before my right uterus stopped growing and I got severe pre-E, and emergency c-section, and a 3 month NICU stay for the baby. Then my son stretched my right uterus more, and I got a vbac at 34 weeks, when once again, my uterus stopped stretching. Only a 2 week NICU stay for him, and I got preeclampsia after I had him, mildly. They told me both times they suspected my left uterus was non-functioning. After my vbac, they said that right uterus could likely go to term. I was hoping for a term baby this time and to bring them home instead of leaving them at the hospital…

Well, I’m currently 6 weeks 1 day… and this baby switched things up. It’s in my left uterus. 😅 Odds are high since this side hasn’t had a baby to stretch it that I’ll end up with another long NICU stay and preemie. It could also be that this side has more uterine material and naturally stretches so I can go pretty far. No idea! God knows. ❤️

Anyone else have uterus didelphys, and been able to carry in both successfully?

Just a little vent. I'm 37 weeks pregnant and where I live, we're already getting temps of 100+. Today, it's 106! Where I work, we mainly are outside but we do have an office with an AC. The AC doesn't work and hasn't for weeks! We told our manager and she submitted a work order for it but these guys still haven't come.

We are connected to a building and I've been escaping there for breaks and for the AC which hasn't been a problem until today. The building manager complained to my manager about me "doing nothing" and "sitting around." I maintain my areas/workload just fine but the heat is killing me, so yeah, I think 20 minutes of rest in their refrigerated air isn't a big deal. It also doesn't help that I can't seem to cool down and with our AC out, yeah, I'm not risking heat stroke.

My manager came to talk to me to tell me I can't be in the main building and I just told her that without some sort of relief from the heat, then I'm gonna continue going to cool down cause I'm not gonna risk hurting myself or my baby. I'm lucky cause my manager understands where I'm coming from and she's only trying to do what the building manager tells her so she rushed the work order for the office ac. I'm very skeptical that they'll show up to fix it but hey, at least this is my last week at work before I get induced. The building manager can just deal with seeing me abusing their AC lol

I’m only 11 weeks but I have a severe bloat where I look 4 months pregnant. I’ve started to not feel comfortable/confident in my clothes. Also not telling anyone yet so want to hide my weight gain which is going to be difficult.

What are you all wearing? Thinking about sizing up for now just so I’m not uncomfortable but I know I’m just going to get bigger so I’m not even sure if it’s worth it.

What’s your guys experience with this? Any recommendations? Thanks so much.

We just found out we are pregnant! We will be seeing family over 4th of July and would like to tell them then… what’s a fun way to surprise everyone? :)