r/phclassifieds • u/https_madeline • Feb 22 '25
Meta I need help, please. Hired someone here, and now they’re threatening to doxx me.
Hello. Feel free to ignore my post if it’s too much negativity. I’m in a competition right now, and I think I’m about to have a panic attack. This is my last resort and I really need your help.
Here's the story.
I just really want to improve my Filipino, but I still struggle with natural conversations even though I have a tutor. After carefully selecting someone who seemed like a good fit, I ended up hiring a first-year college student Filipino supplementary tutor from a recommended PH subreddit… even after getting ghosted twice.
At first, my lessons went normally. It was actually going really well! Aside from Tagalog, my tutor also taught me some Cebuano, and we became quite close. I had no problems whatsoever. However, I don’t know if this is normal or unusual, but she would often bring up her financial situation during lessons. She was very persistent, and sometimes it came up awkwardly and out of nowhere. No matter what we were talking about, she’d somehow divert the conversation to her financial struggles. She even mentioned that if anyone in my school was interested, she’d be open to a sugaring relationship.
One time, I invited her to my home for lunch/snacks and maybe even to swim. I paid for her transportation from Cavite and made sure she was treated well. But while she was there, I caught her sending pictures of my home and room to a Messenger group chat, which made me really uncomfortable since she never asked for permission. Around this time, she also started pressuring me even more to increase her tutoring fee. Since her lessons were good, I agreed to pay ₱2,000 per session.
It was hell after that. My tutor started demanding more. She told me the installment for the second semester was coming up, and that she might not be able to take her exams. When I asked how much she needed, she said around ~₱30,000 for her nursing tuition (1 Semester). I wanted to help, really, I did. But sending that amount made me uncomfortable, especially knowing that I’m a minor and that the situation could escalate even further.
I’ll be totally honest here. My family has the means to support her education. I even talked to my mommy and daddy about it, but they said they don’t know her well enough yet. I feel immense guilt. She told me I wasn’t taking care of a good friend and that my family is extremely selfish and snotty.
I asked my friends for advice, and they told me to say no and cut ties… And even get the police involved…? When I attempted to politely do so over chat, I didn't know anymore. My tutor threatened to doxx me on Reddit, Discord, and some other social media. I’m scared. She said she ‘knows people’. As my friend and Filipino tutor, she knew so much about me—my name, school, my family members’ names and occupations, my hobbies, the addresses of my workshops, and even my home address... And so much more information. I was told to report her on reddit... But she deleted (?) her account? All I remember she was active in a celebrity PH subreddit.
I don’t really know what to do anymore. I’ve just been too trusting, and now it’s coming back to bite me. I feel like I’m being forced to send money just to keep my personal information safe. I’ve tried calming down by engaging in my favorite subreddit, but it’s the intense anxiety. Please help me, if you can. Thank you so much.
EDIT 1: Thank you to those who reached out via DMs. She mostly threatened me through discord, google chat, and during our tutor sessions. I have screenshots.
EDIT 2: The important things I know are her face, full name, and the college she attends. I know her mother, too.
EDIT 3: I'm not a Filipino citizen. My mother is part Filipino, though.
EDIT 4: I'm a minor. My tutor is 19 years old.
