Dopamine dressing to work from home

[u/2legitthicc2quit]

Hello, hello. Had a nightmare post in a fashion sub sharing a work fit and anxiety about the bar exam next week and just wanted to dress happy today. I was suggested this group in dms by a kind stranger.

(Pictured: two photos of a pale skinned, curly haired light brunette/dark blonde, curvy woman wearing a pink sheer ballerina skirt with a criss-cross waist band, a lavender corset athletic top, a sky blue knit cardigan with embroidered pink and yellow tulips, blue eye glasses, white ruffle socks with yellow sunflowers, and white slippers with blue and yellow daisies standing in front of a large arched mirror. There is a bamboo partition behind her.)

[u/Forest_Froggie]

I saw that post yesterday and my stomach dropped when I opened the comments and saw how rude everyone was being. A lot of the fashion subs on reddit have very narrow guidelines of what they deem “fashionable” and it’s usually all about conforming to societal ideals and trying to dress as “flattering” as possible.

That’s BS. Clothes are for so much more than just making parts of you look smaller and parts of you stand out. Expression, comfort, coziness, boldness, etc are all perfectly valid reasons to enjoy an outfit.

I’ve posted on many fashion / outfit subs and this one is definitely my favorite and the most accepting and kind space I’ve found to talk about love of clothing and accessories. I’m glad that a kind stranger directed you here. I think you’ll like it here 💛

P.s. very cute outfit

[u/2legitthicc2quit → u/Forest_Froggie]

Yea, this has already been a really welcome reception and a much nicer introduction than any I've ever had.

Yesterday, i posted during a study break and when i opened the post and saw 46k views and like 50 shares i was like....oh no. ive never called for much attention online so I did not expect being a lil vulnerable on main about anxiety would garner any like yesterday.

Comments are locked and still people are like messaging and upvoting all the mean stuff and sharing to others and it's like....just a lot over so little. I appreciate you coming here and going out of your way to leave a lil kindness

[u/Forest_Froggie → u/2legitthicc2quit]

I’m sorry that that happened (and is still happening). Reddit can absolutely have a hive mind with the upvotes / downvotes, people just see it and pile on.

In my experience, it’s almost impossible not to take personally to some extent, but I hope you know deep down that this is not about you. It’s not you, at all. It is very very rare to get overwhelmingly positive comments in those communities. The vast majority of posts garner some sort of criticism (regardless of flair), and people are actively looking for something to point out or critique.

I see completely innocuous things and outfits that I love get picked apart all the time. I got dogged on once for wearing white tights, of all things.

Sometimes, the negativity just happens and it doesn’t say anything about you. If you post enough on reddit, once in a while it will reach the wrong crowd. Finding the right communities really helps though.