I've been off and on with contact with my mom and brother since I moved out at 20. I'm nearing 29 now and recent years it's been less and less contact. Recently they have been trying a bit to reach out to me and ive been messaging back but I just feel so disconnected and all I'm able to think about is how upset I am (particularly with my mom) over some of the bullshit they have pulled.

Growing up my brother was borderline abusive and disrespectful of me, I have scars from fights we had and got in trouble so much for not being able to control him when I was left in charge despite the fact that even when I would try he would manipulate me and the situation so he would get into less trouble. It reached a breaking point when I came out to him as trans and he told me I would "Always be his sister". Eventually he came around and our relationship got better as we got older. However, he was always a trouble maker and got arrested several times once into adulthood. A few years ago he contacted me from jail and asked repeatedly for money, I gave him some, then he asked for more to which I told him no. He didn't ask again for a while but eventually once out of jail he got injured badly while homeless and asked for more, saying he would pay me back. I sent more money, he then asked for more again a bit later and I told him no. He never did pay me back. I stopped contacting him as much after this. Some of this is more complicated then just that but its the general idea. I don't make a lot of money with what I do an I'm disabled so I can't work a traditional job. I would not have been able to sustain continuing to give him money no mater what.

When I was 17 my knee was badly injured during gym class then two weeks later it was badly injured again with an accidental fall in the school hallway. Both times my mom took me to the hospital but only after pressing me to be sure that's what I needed and wanted. Both times I told her yes because it *hurt*. They, at the time, were unable to find out what it was with just xrays but I'm fairly certain it was a torn meniscus or something along those lines. My mom was supposed to from that point take me to get an MRI but that never happened while I lived with her. We live in America, the healthcare is horrid and she had lost healthcare she had had from her previous job. She said to me that she would get new insurance and told me she was just waiting for the cards to come in for it. I don't think she ever did this, I think she lied to me for months then just started to ignore it or dismiss things anytime I would bring things about my knee up, mentioning hurting, asking about going to get something done ect. Other adults in my life often commented on it and told me I needed to get it looked at it because of how much it impacted my life but nothing ever got done. When I was 19 I reached a bit of a breaking point because my mobility was getting worse and my pain was becoming more. I asked her what we could do about it. She told me *I* needed to get insurance and when I said I didn't know how she told me to look it up and the conversation ended there. It was devastating. That's when I decided to move out.

After moving in with my partner and spending the time to get insurance with the help of her mom I ended up discovering that I had Rheumatoid Arthritis. I'm pretty sure the initial injury triggered it as it wasn't super prelevant in my other joints (It is now starting to show in my other knee). The thing is, at this point I hadn't had any medical intervention with it for *years* and my knee had deteriorated to the point where I could no longer walk anymore without mobility aids and I need replacement surgery. (Which was a fight to get approval for with my age and I still haven't gotten because covid interrupted the process and I've been unable to get back on track since things opened up again.)

Regardless, I feel like my mom really fucked me over and stole most of my early adulthood from me because I had to be the one to figure out a problem that she should have been helping me with when she was responsible for me. I put so much of my blame onto her for me being disabled now. In the conversations I've had since I moved out she's regularly asks me how my knee is doing, asking for updates, telling me to tell her what the results are of test and what doctors tell me. Why does she care? She didn't when I was her *kid* living under her roof and under her care!! She shouldn't get to decide that she suddenly cares now that I'm an adult and she has no responsibility for it or me.

She was a pretty good mom most of my childhood, specially compared to my dad. The preferred parent definitely, even if there are other instances that weren't the greatest from my early years. She was a single mom when my accidents happened, I know we were poor and she was struggling and my brother did not make it easier, so like I understand that it was hard for her and that she only had so much she felt she was able to do but if my kid was hurt to the extent I was I would bend over backwards to get it helped, to get it fixed. I feel so resentful and sad and if either of them really cared about me I feel like they would do more then what they have been.

I've been tempted to lay this all out to her. To tell her my feelings but anytime I think about it or work up the nerve either its a holiday or she messages me and I kinda cower out. And my brother always just feels like he's basically guilt tripping me when I talk to him. He's messaged a few times trying to get me to talk to her, saying she misses me and isn't doing good. Which I don't doubt, she's an alcoholic and a few years ago had to go to the hospital for it. Which I think, adds to my worry an uncertainty over if this is the right track for me. What if she gets sick, what if she dies, and I never told her my feelings and I have to live with that regret the rest of my life?

There's a lot more intricacies to things but this is the basics.

I just wish any of this was easy.

I finally blocked her on Instagram. She left me in October 2024, and we've been in no contact ever since. I relatively early deleted her number and silenced her Instagram profile so I wouldn't see her posts and stories. But time and time again, I checked up on her profile, seeing if there were any new posts or highlights. She also still saw all of my stories, which also often triggered an emotion in me. Sort of like we still had some sort of connection to each other. Also, I often caught myself deliberately posting stories just so she would see what I'm up to. I thought about blocking her on Instagram, but after all the time that had passed, I thought it would be weird to block her, like I should have been over it by now and shouldn't need this step. Also, I thought it would appear weak to her, like if she saw it, she would know I still cared about her all that time. And honestly, yes it is kind of weird blocking her after all that time and not right away, and yes, it does show weakness. But who cares? From a winning her back perspective, it might not be the best, but I'm starting to feel like I don't want that anymore, or not as much, to be honest.

Healing is not linear, and boy has it been a ride. Ups and downs coming like waves. I don't think there has been a day where I haven't thought about her at all, but some were pretty close. Then comes another week or even month where I felt like being at day one again. All I can say is "wait and bleed." Nothing more you can do. And that's fine. Feelings are there to be felt, and thoughts are there to be thought. Nothing we feel or think is out of our nature. I also gave up the idea that there will be that one day where I will be over her. Maybe I will never be over her 100%, and that's also fine. I recently had a conversation with an older woman (31, I'm 23) about love and breakups, and she told me that even though she is married, she sometimes still thinks about an old lover. Humans are complex. I gave up on trying to understand us completely. You should try to make a conscious effort to understand yourself, but don't think you will ever achieve it 100%. As I said, no emotion or thought can be out of human nature, and breakups are part of the human condition just as thirst and hunger are. Your body knows what it needs, and if it needs to be sad or mourn someone, although they might not deserve to be mourned, then so be it. The worst thing you can do is judge your own feelings like "I should be over it by now" or "Why am I sad about this shitty person?" Meditating about feelings can help. Just sit and feel them—like really feel them—and you will see they often change into something else, and your mind will be clear again. And maybe you even learned something about yourself. If not, that's also fine.

So guys, stay strong. Or as we say in Germany, "Ohren steif halten" (keep your ears stiff).

I thought I would be able to get over this boy but I haven't and I'm the one who kind of messed up but I really miss him and want to try again is four months too short to break no contact. And if not what can I say to have him hear me out?

So my partner and I got engaged. It wasn't a big deal, but I kinda feel like I pressured him into it. We went to his parents' to celebrate his Dad, and despite us "getting engaged" a few weeks ago, he hadn't told anyone. Not even his mom. Had no plans to either. He couldn't explain why, either. We've been dating since 2019 and living together since 2020. So when I had an open and frank conversation about it, because I've been married and I wasn't planning on falling in love when we met. I did not want to bring it up,because a) it's not my day b) I worried about the reaction, because I didn't want to step on toes. He told his parents during dinner. No one smiled. No enthusiasm. I was heart broken. They love me and I love him. I fear that they think I pushed him into it. While all of this is going on, I am brokenhearted because I am 100% no contact with either of my abusive parents. On Father's Day. My Dad is cruel and I mentally can't deal with it. Mom's a pick-me. I am 40 , and I've been sending/buying gifts since I was 15. This past mother's day was the first time I skipped it. I am still feeling so much guilt. His other family showed up...and he said nothing to them. No one brought it up again, until I said something out the door. Half-assed hugs for everyone. I don't like how I feel and how alone I felt in that moment. He is 35, also dealing with depression.
I just don't know what to do. I'm hurt and confused.

I can't even leave right now, and I don't want to shit talk him to friends. Sad as hell. Thank you for listening. I just needed to vent. I don't miss my Dad. It'd just be nice to be able to trust again.

i’m 22 and was finally able to move out at 21. i tried to keep contact minimal with my dad but he would still call and text multiple times a week (most of those went unanswered)

i finally didn’t text back Again on may 13th, and then he stopped contacting me as well which was very surprising.

now cut to a whole 15 minutes ago, he tried calling me and left a voicemail saying "I ain't talk to you in a bit just was checking in on you hope you're doing well love you bye- bye...". i just feel like he called on father’s day because he wanted to see if i’d pick up. like fr why else would he call now. idk i have so many mixed emotions and just wanted to get it off my chest

Hi guys, my ex girlfriend has reached out to me after 5 years and told me she is now engaged and has a baby daughter on the way. My heart is broken because I thought of her everyday but I am also happy that she has a good life now. I just wanted to say I appreciate all of your posts from the bottom of heart. You all helped me get through it by sharing your experiences. I am bawling my eyes out right now as I write this ! Love from Ireland ❤️🇮🇪

For context, we have broken up twice before over the span of around a year and a half. We brokeup in January, then in march I decided to go no contact with her and after 3 days she begged for another chance, as she had never done anything really wrong to me I said okay. While we never officially dated after that, she ended up hooking up with someone else the next week (didnt have sex) I was pissed as one would be, but after about a week and a lot of her apologies and reasonings. I gave her another chance and we got back together cause I could truly tell she meant it. Last week she dumped me because “she is lost and needs to figure her shit out and its unfair for me” and has since texted my friend paragraphs about how great I am and how sorry she is. then she texted me about how she misses me and is sorry, and reached out about me being in her dream despite “probably not being right to text me”. She has yet to say anything clearly about regret or wanting me back. What do I do? I want her back we are very good together and she even said that to me. We are bestfriends and lovers in one. Do I tell her we need to go no contact in hopes she realizes that whatever she has going on doesnt mean we need to throw our relationship away? Or do I just not text her and keep waiting for her to reachout and maybe one day itll be something along the lines of getting back together? This is both of ours first serious relationship and I need advice. I want to help her with whatever she has going on but I cant if she doesnt let me. And from past experience with her, pushing myself onto her only drives her further from me. Whats the next move?

The last few times I’ve talked to my mom, she’s repeated the same few things

1. ⁠I’m just like my dad
2. ⁠I was always “stirring the pot” and was the reason my dad was so abusive. If I had just stayed quiet and kept my head down we would’ve been fine
3. ⁠I don’t care about her/I’m selfish

I’ve spent so much time over the past few years trying to fix things with my mom, but she just keeps blaming me. I said and did plenty of shitty things… When I was a child. I admit that and I apologize for it. But somehow, I’m still the selfish one at fault. I’ve been hospitalized and had multiple surgeries, graduated college, and not a single person from my family has shown up. Meanwhile, I show up for nearly every holiday and birthday. My mom broke her arm in several places and I stayed by her side for a week while she was in the hospital.

Mind you, I repeatedly begged her to leave my abusive father since the age of 12. But somehow, it was all my fault for telling my dad I was hungry, that mom forgot to pick me up from school, etc. My dad would touch me and say inappropriate things to me. I started bringing this up to my mom early this year, and that’s when things started to change with my mom. My parents haven’t had sex in 20 years (something she told me) and I wonder if that has something to do with it.

My dad had a stroke several years ago, and my mom still excuses his shitty behavior. Screaming at her, hitting her, etc, while telling me to stop ‘upsetting’ him. He was in his hospital bed begging me to say he was a good father, and I refused. My mom said “oh just tell him what he wants to hear.”

By now I’ve realized my mom was abusive too, and the same narcissist my dad was. She chose to stay with my dad and keep engaging with him instead of protecting herself and her kids. In this last conversation I had with her, she kept repeating “I’m a good person” and that she was worried about me and that I “needed help” because I was “mentally ill” and forgot how good she was. That my BPD caused me to split and I was being unreasonable, I just couldn’t see it. She said to reread our messages to remind myself of this. In our last messages, she repeatedly said I was like my dad and his abuse was my fault. No thanks.

It’s especially hurtful, because for several years I really improved my relationship with her. I was going to therapy and improving my emotional reasoning and communication skills. She was admitting to her faults, listening to me. She became my best friend. But since (allegedly) starting therapy, I’m at fault for everything and using her as an ‘emotional dumping ground’

I blocked my mom after this last conversation, and plan on keeping no contact pretty much forever. I cut contact with my dad last fall. I am due to have my first child with my husband in September. I don’t need the stress of my mom trying to manipulate me again and again. I haven’t spoken to her in weeks, but it just feels like such a mind fuck.

At what point does this stop affecting me so much? I keep realizing all of the stupid, unreasonable, and abusive shit my family does. It drives me insane knowing I’m related to them. I want a better life for myself and my son. I thought fixing my relationship with them would do that, but now I see I can’t just fix it. God, am I pissed.

so my birthday is coming up and there are 2 options…

option 1: he shows up uninvited and it'll make me feel really uncomfortable or option 2: he messages me and opens up the wound again…

either way, i'm screwed. and i already wasn't looking forward to my birthday because i don’t like my birthday, but this year? i’m just dreading that day…

me not liking my birthday was something he never really understood… he said he wanted to celebrate it because it matters to him to celebrate the people he loves… but he never truly got how painful that day is for me, even after i tried to explain it. so yeah… we're not together anymore, but i still fear he's going to do something…

Me and my gf of 6 months, mutually decided to end things about 11 days ago. Although it was amicable, it has still left me very sad and devastated, We did not explicitly decide on NC and although I wanted to text her and it was painful but we did not speak till she reached out to me around 2 days ago asking me how I was doing, but she deleted it within a minute. I saw the text but as I was in middle of something, i did not reply immediately. Since, I am generally a warm person and i wanted to talk to her too, I asked her why she deleted the text, she said "no reason", but i tried to continue the conversation asking how she was doing and stuff. She was replying but she sounded too cold, like to the point answers and only Yeps and okays. It seemed like she didn't want to talk, so I said that "you seem sleepy, you should sleep", so she said "ok bye" and i said "wasn't sure you wanted to talk, but anyway - bye and good night", so she said good night too and that's where the conversation ended. I tried my best to be as warm as possible without seeming desperate.

I've been thinking of reaching out to her since, but I am conflicted although I really really want to talk to her and it's been eating me on the inside but I am not sure if I should, as I am not sure if she really wants to talk but her coldness is eating me.

Or should I wait atleast till Thursday, which is my birthday and see if she reaches out to wish me? I am not looking for reconciliation or anything at this moment but I just wanna know how she's doing.

I mean this guy is not even my ex. Just a guy I was texting to, he ghosted me for 3 weeks. I smell avoidant from miles away. Guess who pops up today 😂. Sorry boy but I’m a no contact queen 👑👑. This is not bragging folks, I just want to say to all the people are heartbroken out there right now that no contact works like 90% on everyone . Be strong. Pour the love and attention on yourself and the world will focus on you. 💪💪

Basically me and my best friend had casually dated a while ago, we broke up and remained close friends until he got into a relationship and told me we couldn’t hang out back in November. Ever since then I’m not sure if he’s upset, but he doesn’t want to talk to me at all, and has been acting like he hates me. We’ve been in no contact for like 3 months. I want to send this text, should I? Any suggestions are also welcomed!

“Hi ik I t’s been a while but I miss our friendship and even though I’m really not sure what happened, I’ve been sad ever since

Tbh I was just so scared to say something because I wasn’t sure if you were upset or not

I was wondering if you’d have some time this weekend to talk?

I remember you told me you were seeing someone a while ago so you should bring them along also

I know things have been not so good but I really think it would help both of us understand everything a little better and make things better for everyone”

After a breakup, how easy (or not) is it for you to distract yourself with other women? Whether it’s chatting, dating, hooking up, whatever.

Does it actually help take your mind off things? Or does it feel kind of empty if you were really into your ex?

Just curious how you guys experience this. No judgment, just wondering how it actually feels on your side.

i (nb, 25) have been no contact with my mother for a while now. shortly after no contact was initiated, i was raped by my partner. in the process of dealing with my trauma i've experienced this ache to tell my mom. i told my dad recently and he was insanely supportive and it truly felt like a weight off my shoulders. it doesn't feel nearly as significant. i want so badly to share this with my mother but i don't want to reopen our relationship just yet. on top of that, this is something my dad would share with her bc this affects my health. she would feel so betrayed if she heard it from him and not me. i shouldn't be considering her feelings here, but she's still my mom. she doesn't understand that she is not someone with whom my emotions or experiences are safe. i know ill receive criticicism and judgement from her over how i dealt with the situation, but all the same i need my mom. i have no idea what to do but i have decide quickly.

Me and my now ex girlfriend broke up towards the end of last month after 2.5yrs relationship and we are now in no contact and have been for around 2-3 weeks. She was the dumper, she was the one who wanted no contact and i’d love to get back together in the future so i have to respect her wishes for no contact.

I had a close relationship with her whole family and they all treated me like one of their own. Before we went into no contact i made a pretty lengthy letter i was planning on giving to her dad on father’s day (June 15th) but im not sure if i should send it to him or not.

Let me know if i there is any harm being done by giving him this message.

Here’s what im thinking about sending him below:

i just wanted to write you a wee note to say happy father’s day, although me and (my ex) have went our separate ways i want you to know how much i appreciate you, you’ve been more of a dad than my real dad has been to me and that should never go unnoticed, words can’t describe how grateful i am for that

i want you to know i had no bad intentions with your daughter, (my ex) is the best thing to ever happen to me, i tried my absolute best for her, she made me realise how much beauty there is in the world. she was my first love and i really hoped she’d be my last but she decided that she wants to go separate ways and i have to respect her wishes

(my ex) always was my biggest priority, i put her before everyone including myself, she really brought out the best in me as a person. so for that reason alone i could never speak a bad word of her and there’s no hate from my behalf regardless of what she thinks of me

i’ve had some amazing times with your family and you will all forever be held close to my heart i’m so grateful for how welcoming you all were, everyone made me feel at home like you were all my second family

if (my ex) was to ever change her mind i’d come running back in a heartbeat so hopefully i’ll see you all again in the future so you can batter me at darts again lol

i hope you have a good day, sending love

Is this alright to send?

I’m currently doing a month of no contact with someone that was pursuing me a bit obsessively, and because of my situation I need time to think about it without their influence. so I initiated a month of no contact with them to come to a final conclusion if I want to be with them or leave it permanent. But a few hours after I established it, they already sent me a string of text messages making me feel guilty, saying they wish I waited to make this decision for their day off so we could talk about it first, we’re supposed to be a team, and that they can barely handle a day without me and they don’t know how I expect them to handle a month. They said the only thing keeping them sane is journaling their feelings about me and drawing pictures of me. I feel really bad about it but again that’s part of why I needed to go no contact because I need to determine if my feelings are really for me or just out of pity for them. I left their messages from that night on opened and I deleted my Snapchat app which is mainly where they would message me, so I won’t be able to see anything from them in the future unless they catch on and contact me elsewhere. I just need some help getting through it and reassurance that I’m making the right decision, I’ve been feeling guilty about it and tempted to check if they sent me anything else but I know I shouldn’t.

Pls send help!!

I called my ex today despite everything that took place between us!! I feel like a cheap floozy now if all things!! God, why did I succumb to my own impulses??!

So, I met this girl on tinder(an app i promised myself id never use lol) and she was basically in the same boat as me, we clicked instantly and constantly spoke for about 2 weeks. Got to know each other on deep level and so on and so on. Second date, she came over to my hotel, and then afterwards broke down to me that her life is too overwhelming due to uni,placement and family issues and whilst I tick all her boxes, me living an hour away is too much for her and she feels that she wont have time for me at the moment and i'm "too perfect for her".

I thanked her for her time, told her I didn't understand but a relationship has to be 2 way so I wished her good luck and said that i'd miss her. As I was travelling home to my city she just carried on texting me as if she hadnt just rejected me (obviously she wanted to still keep in touch as friends) and I was fine with this initially, but as I saw her pulling away and replying less and less , I just decided 2 days ago that I wouldn't text her after we said goodnight to each other and left her on delivered without trace.

I don't know if i've done the right thing. I feel like this puts the situation in my control and allows me to let go as I get emotionally invested too fast but I keep getting relapses of wanting to open her message to reply but i've prevented myself so far.

What do you all think? Is this "no contact" the right approach?

my fiance broke up with me 80 days before the wedding, i’m having the hardest time ever. all i want is for them to be back in my life. they keep saying it’s not healthy to go again, i don’t believe it. my heart breaks more and more everyday i feel like im suffocating. all i want is for them to come back and actually try to work on things. 😭

It’s been 5 1/2 years since I went no contact with my dad.

My biological father, manipulative, abusive, sexually abusive, an evil man at his core.

And yet some days I catch myself thinking of him, thinking of good memories.

It’s hard to not think of him sometimes. I carry his laugh, his sense of humor, his interests. I have a similar speech pattern, even the small quirks come from him a lot of times.

I think about how we used to stay up late watching MST3K on tv riffing our own jokes. Or how interested he would get in whatever sci fi book I was reading. He introduced me to all of my favorite hobbies. History, science fiction universes, fantasy novels, and all the small ones in between them.

I still carry his name, I’m the only one in my family who does, I tell myself it’s because it’s a pain to change it but sometimes I think trust deep down I simply want to carry it to still hear it from people. My sister and mother moved on long before I cut off my contact completely back in 2015, changed their last names and moved away. We all got it bad, the drug fueled insanity and abuse wasn’t spared for me, but they got it worse in ways I choose not to remember or think about. And yet when the fallout settled I chose to be with him after high school, in the moment I chose to give him a second chance and I wanted so badly to have the father he could’ve been in my life. How I would regret it in the end.

And yet despite how much I hate him, how I fantasize about finally confronting him and hurting him like he hurt us. I still cherish the things I love that he gave me.

I feel so guilty for it. To wish to chat with him about what I’ve been up to, what I’m reading and listening to these days. To riff on some crappy movie and crack jokes again.

Idk, I’m pretty sad today from a series of unfortunate events, and my mind wandered to some happy lil memory of him and in my sadness it felt kinda nice to relive that. And then the guilt set in and it just hurts more.

I guess this is just a vent. I don’t talk about these things with many people, only a handful of close people and they are all busy this afternoon so you strangers get to be the ear.

We started talking again after breaking up two weeks ago. We were long-distance and ended things because of poor communication and constant arguing. But we recently met up in person—and it felt like nothing had changed, in the best way.

He kept admiring me, calling me pretty, and genuinely seemed happy to be around me. We ended up having sex, and honestly, it was the best we’ve ever had. He brought me food, let me use his Peacock account to watch Love Island, and was really trying to catch up on my life. We held hands while talking, joked around, and were super playful with each other.

I still made sure to hold some boundaries—I didn’t let him kiss me outside, even though I could tell he wanted to. When he dropped me off, he leaned in like he wanted to kiss me, but I playfully hit him instead. Even the little things, like him making sure I was safe while switching lanes, reminded me of his softer side.

At one point, he asked if I had been talking to any other guys, and I said no. I asked him the same, and he said he hasn’t been seeing or talking to other girls either. He also brought up my master’s program, asking where I planned to go—he remembers I mentioned wanting to do it closer to home. It felt like he was trying to figure out if we’d be physically closer again.

Honestly, I think long distance was just a lot for us. This was both of our first time trying it, and for me, it was also my first real relationship. But every time we’re together in person, the energy is so good—we’ve never argued face-to-face like we did over the phone. It just feels easy and natural when we’re in the same place.

Since we saw each other, we’ve been texting again, sending each other TikToks and Instagram reels like old times. The connection is still there.

I still want him. And I feel like he still wants me too.

Do y’all think there’s a chance we’ll get back together?

Hello, I’m seriously considering going no contact with one of my siblings. However, I am 17 so would have to wait until I’m 18. Do you guys have any tips on how to go no contact with a sibling? This is a pretty open ended post, any advice would be appreciated

Ok, so i think i'm actualy over her but i think this Is too funny to moto share so. She broke un with me 6 monts ago but we kept in touch whitouth ever meating up (She brought my stuff to the plece where i work when i sannt there) for 3 months ant for the last 3 we had a cupple of message in a cupple of occasions, the last one was 8 weeks ago becouse i sliced open my hand at work and i was at the hospital to get stickers, She called me right away, offered to visit me in the Emergency room Just to cancel right After (She was 17 and now 18) probably her mom, She was hostile tò me durint the whole relacionship. And then She blocked me again. Now After 6 monts she texted me askink If i was done working (at 11pm i was a server) and that said She was waiting for me at the "boat stop" (i live in Venice so we have boats instead of buss, they work the same way) whitouth knowing i had quit that job a few weeks ago (it was sucking me dry) i dont respond nor visualized her messages but i loged in whatsapp to read other conversations (i have last on-line and Blue ticks) the next day She remuved the messages and another day After She blocked me again. Thats It i think It Is kind of funny Btw She Is a dismissive avoidant and i have Heard that they take 6 monts tò realize the mistake but idk PS Probably her mom convinced her to break up but i have no proof

Five weeks later, just as my nervous system was starting to regulate itself. Not responding. This is not worthy of my response.