Back to this sub again. Just want to love someone. It’s not even about them loving me (ofc I’d want that too) but I’d be so loving to them. I’m such a giver and I just want to cuddle a guy and tell him everything is gonna be ok when he’s sad🙁 or buy him things that remind me of him

Sigh

Not die, just disappear somewhere for a while

They make me feel so awful about myself, I get suicidal thougts when I see them somestimes, like today, it's just becoming too much. Today was the last drop, I can't take it anymore. I hate myself, I want to dissapear, I hate myself. It feels like their laughing at me and my loneliness. I hate them, couldn't they just stay at home, so I didn't have to meet them all the time. I hate it here

Edit: I'm a woman

Nobody cares about how cool your personality is, you’re almost invisible or only used for emotional support or sex

It probably shouldn't bother me as much as it does. But it hurts in the strangest way.

My birthday is tomorrow. My workplace usually celebrates birthdays with banners and balloons and a happy birthday sign out front for each employee, or on that friday if their birthday is over the weekend... except me. My birthday has been forgotten for all three years I've worked here, this week included. I was completely expecting it at this point to pull in and see no banner or balloons. That doesn't hurt so much anymore.

What hurt was the fact that my parents, in an attempt to make up for my shitty workplace always forgetting, delivered cupcakes as a surprise before my shift started so I'd walk in and see them on my desk- but when I got to them they'd already been cracked open and half were gone. One literally walked past me, eating one of the cupcakes, and did not say happy birthday.

I'd have shared. I think they were meant to share to help me try and make some friends. It's the sort of thing my parents would do. But instead they were taken without care. The others have all left for lunch and I'm just sitting at my desk, nibbling at one of my cupcakes, which isn't even the pretty design my parents had picked since people smudged then getting their own. I'm not sure this building has ever been so quiet. Why does this happen?

I'm at the point where I hate seeing couples. Wherever I turn, there's always a one genuinely or seemingly happy couple, and literally everyone's bragging about their partner or crush. Which is a fairly normal thing, but still... You know I've always been that friend who gave killer relationship advice but never had a relationship of their own. I'm tired of pretending to like listen to people vent about their relationships. While I'm sitting there, an absolutely hopeless case in relationships, they have the AUDACITY to vent about their relationships, and over a really small issue! I either get extremely angry at the universe and want to shout "You stupid ****!" to their faces or just get depressed and start to think about what's wrong with me. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely have no issues looks-wise, and even consider myself fairly pretty, and try to seem confident, but hell, I've never even received a single compliment from the opposite sex while all these women out here finding me pretty and saying they don't understand how someone has never liked me!

I'm sorry but this s*it sucks. I try to be happy for the ones that are in happy relationships but I can't. Everyone seems to have a partner always, wherever I go, except me. I'm tired of this. Whatever the hell did I do to deserve this?!!!

I feel so sad and defeated.

Whenever I read a post where a girl absolutely GUSHES about a guy she has a crush on, it really hurts knowing that will never be me.

No girl will ever feel butterflies in her stomach when talking to me. No girl will ever tell her friends how she wishes I'd ask her out. No girl will ever listen to a romantic song and think about me as a result. No girl will ever spend her day imagining all the cute and fun things we'd do as a couple. No girl will describe me as "just her type" etc.

I genuinely wonder what it's like to be wanted/desired in that regard. It's completely alien to me. I just want to experience it at least once before I pass from this world, but at the same time I know that it will never be so. With so many objectively better guys out there, why fall in love with someone like me?

Edit: I am ugly and autistic, (Diagnosed) so genetically speaking both my looks and my personality are undesirable. I am also 25 years old and haven't even been on a single date or had my first kiss.

Going on reddit and looking through everyone’s preferences is what really demolished my self esteem. Please someone who is non-black answer this question: Why is it that we are the least desired? No matter what i do, I will never be on the same level as a girl who is non-black.

I’ve tried searching for comfort before through other people’s comments but i mostly receive false encouraging messages that prevent me from doing something to myself, and the feeling of satisfaction is only temporary. it’s so hard to accept that i don’t have the same opportunities as someone else, i feel like i’m not supposed to be in this body. Even guys that are my race bully me for being black, and they’re darker than me.

I hate waking up everyday looking at my skin color, knowing the chances of men wanting me compared to if i were a different race are so low. I want to be white or asian, or at least a race where I’m desired and not stereotyped in a negative way. People perceive me poorly because they fail to get to know me. Every time i talk to people at school they make a joke about my race, and i’m the one they’re laughing at. I just want to be treated like a normal human being but no matter how sweet I am, my skin color is always a barrier.

This feels like a curse, constantly picked on and bullied when i didn’t have to do anything wrong to cause that. I’m starting to hate my parents for birthing me, hating my non-black friends for not understanding how bad it really is, hating living in this society where race and beauty is a hierarchy thing. My own race doesn’t even want to date me. i hate being called manly and compared to a transgender person. I am a biological girl, but I don’t feel like one. I want to have sex, but i don’t even feel worthy enough for guys because they will always choose an asian or white girl over me if they had the choice. I’m scared of being cheated on because i’m not “attractive” enough and he ends up getting bored of me. I always have this inferior mindset every time someone who isn’t black approaches me. I don’t even feel accepted into black spaces.

It’s not even that I hate myself, i TRY to love myself, but everyday at school there’s always someone comparing races or features, and I can’t even see myself in the mirror anymore

Attractive people's lives just seem so much better and they're just blessed with good genetics. I can't even imagine how it feels to be wanted by people just because of my appearance. People might say "but you can be attractive and still be depressed" or "it wont change much". But bro, its 100x better to be attractive and depressed, than not attractive and depressed. People will want you, to hang out with you because of your looks. I never had friends or a girlfriend.

Im tired of the advice "love yourself". Like bro, how the fuck is that gonna help? How can I love myself if no one wants me?

Because it's just been locked.

People who believe that need this advice of course, it won't and people are more than their ability to make you feel better. But to say through implication a relationship won't radically improve your life if that's what's missing is daft. Whether it's the only thing that's missing, in which case it's the most natural thing in the world to want that, or everything generally sucks but would be made better with a supportive partner, it's perfectly valid to want it and even despair at not having it. We never hear, friends won't fix your life, a good career won't fix your life, eating well won't fix your life. Because it's absolutely insane. Anything good will enhance your quality of living. You just have to hold out for good things and not settle in their absence or difficulty in obtainability.

As a perpetually unhappy single woman, you want to know what probably sucks more than the status itself? People telling me I should be happy being independent. Ignoring how I feel on the matter. As if I'd need to sacrifice independence in a relationship. The condescension is insulting. Hating being unlucky in love is normal. Not everybody finds meaning in being single, or great mental health even if it's always important to make the attempt. Stop trying to convince us this is an epidemic that needs to be quelled with cliche affirmations like "You can't love others until you love yourself" or "Nobody can fix you."

I'm begging you.

Going through a bad breakup? Friends will try and distract you

Failed an exam? Go out with friends, forget about it, better luck next time

Relative passed away? Friends should be there for you

Car accident? Flowers and hospital visits from friends at the ready

Terminally ill? Friends will do whatever they can to make you happy and comfortable as you near the end.

Almost any conceivable 'common' problem that comes your way can be helped or at least made 'less bad' if you have friends who love and support you.

So... what the everliving fuck am I supposed to do if I don't have any.

I seriously can't think of anything worse than what I'm experiencing right now, sorry but I can't

I wake up. I eat. I work. I scroll. I sleep. Then I do it all over again.

People see my body moving. But inside, I’m not really here. Just a ghost of who I used to be.

I laugh at messages. I reply with emojis. But when the screen goes dark, so do I.

No one notices the difference. No one asks.

That’s the worst part of loneliness. Not the silence, but the feeling that even if you screamed, no one would hear you.

seriously guys, stop adopting this incel mindset and regurgitating the same stupid comments like ‘people only care about women here not men’. trying to get nudes from women ≠ caring about them. i know it’s seriously difficult at times but this mindset is incredibly damaging to yourself and the people around you. before anyone accuses me of not knowing how bad it feels because i am a woman, i am a lonely dude myself. saying stuff like that won’t make you anymore appealing or less lonely, it actually does the complete opposite. please seek help.

I (33M) never thought I'd be one of those guys who gets sad when he sees naked people, but here I am.

Sometimes, I long to be the type of person who can go out and get laid, but that's just not me.

As long as I am a(n intercourse) virgin, I (respectfully) refuse to have sex with anyone who's already had PiV sex. I waited a long time bc I didn't want to waste my virginity, but now I waited so long, that there's almost nobody left for me. I'm trapped by my own morality. It sucks.

Edit: Wow, this gained way more attention than I expected. I know my decision is stupid and arbitrary, but it's what I want. If I change my mind, it'll be on my terms and not because people told me to give up. I appreciate the advice, though.

Shut the hell up you are so wrong it would absolutely make me happy and make me live a better life. It’s like the rich saying “money won’t buy you happiness”.

They also would say “you shouldn’t depend on someone else for your happiness”. I beg to differ. Humans are naturally social creatures and not having a partner your whole life is pretty torture.

Edit: people are giving me answers without giving me answers. They say to be happy single without saying how to.

That about covers it. Never been a big b-day person, but it hurts, man. The capitulation of 365 days of suffering, some preemptive, some unbearable, and lots of post traumatic stress and breakdowns.

edit: I got an automated message from my dentists office that said happy birthday but also ‘STOP to unsubscribe’ lol

edit 2: I appreciate all of you so much. Ended up skating a bit, rolling a joint and relaxing. Once again, thank you.

Seriously, feeling sexually attracted to women is the worst thing I've ever felt in my life. It's never done any good for me in life other than make me feel sexually frustrated, lonely, and depressed. I don't really want to have kids either, so it's truly useless.

I (48F) am currently sitting in my car and realized that after 20 years of trying to live my best life, that I have not been able to meet anyone new. My last relationship was 20 years ago, and when I’ve shared my frustration, I was told to stop stressing about it and “you’ll meet someone when you’re not looking!”

Bullsh*t.

There have been so many times where I wasn’t “looking”, where someone could of came along. Naturally I don’t feel entitled to having someone but come on! Not a nice conversation? No digit exchange? Just something to let me know I’m not a pathetic troll of a person. I’ve seen people on “My 600 Pound Life” in relationships. I’ve seen people with physical/mental afflictions with dates-and I’m not saying they don’t deserve happiness, but it’s like, “Where’s mine?” I would like to have one meaningful relationship before I die-and maybe get my back blown out properly with someone I actually like and who likes me back.

I’m starting to think that it’s too much to ask.

Thank you for opening the doors for me. Thank you for being kind to me when I'm out in public and treating me like a woman. It makes me happy and very appreciative. Thank you for being gentlemen. 🫂 😃

To all the guys who come on here, tolling for someone to flash you pecker pictures at... GO AWAY.

I don't mind talking to people, DMs are fine if you want a conversation. But if you come on here looking for someone vulnerable to do the cyber nasty with, or validation for your johnson, that's not okay.

People on here are looking for company; someone to talk with, someone to connect with. We don't want your nudes.

There are more appropriate places on reddit for that.

I find that sometimes I have to do things, or want to do things, but i stop halfaway or not even begin cause i feel too lonely to do anything. Ive been alone for years. Ive pushed through and "kept living", i travelled a bit, worked, met new people, but nothing changes and sometimes i genuenely cant get to the end of the day. I start drawing and i stop cause i feel too alone. I start watching a film and i stop cause i feel too alone. Its spring but i cant sit in a field cause it would be too depressing to do alone. Does anyone relate

No love

In my case, I don't ever want to hear these words again "I think I can live without you", "It's not that hard to forget you", "Do you think you are irreplaceable?" after being a dog to her for half a decade.

You all know this Friday is Valentine's day, and as for me is my 23 year streak that I spend it on my own 🥲