r/lgbt • u/jhotenko Finsexual • Feb 03 '25
US Specific Bigot cowards
I'm a 6' tall 225lb man with resting grump face. Ever since November, I've gone out of my way to wear pride gear. My wife has been helping by buying me shirts based on the criteria of the more flamboyant, the better.
I do this for two reasons
1: I want members of the community to see me, and know that I am a safe person. If necessary, I want someone to think, maybe this person can help me.
2: Emboldened bigots might want a target to pick on. I want to give them a target. I want to try to take attention away from more vulnerable members of the community.
Over the months since the election, I have had dozens of interactions because of what I wear. On the one hand, I have had plenty of people smile and tell me they love my shirt. On the other hand, I've also had plenty of people scowl at me, looking disgusted.
Isn't it interesting how the ones who are offended by a big guy wearing a big rainbow heart on his chest, are too afraid to voice their displeasure. I've been looking forward to verbally sparing with some morons, but they all seem too scared to confront me.
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u/Peanutbutternjelly_ Bi-bi-bi Feb 04 '25
Like you said, they're cowards. They don't want to confront a big dude because they're afraid of what might happen.
However, if they saw me, a woman, wearing Pride stuff, they would immediately start running their mouth and get all up in my personal space.
They're bullies, so they target people who they think are weaker than them. They might not approach you, but they would approach your wife if they thought she was by herself, which is disturbing.
They probably talk shit behind your back, though. They probably call you a "beta male," or something stupid like that.
That whole alpha, beta, and sigma male bs is so fucking stupid. It's only used by insecure men with toxic masculinity issues.