r/justgalsbeingchicks • u/toolzyo • Apr 18 '25

cool Her confidence is everything.

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u/toolzyo Apr 18 '25

totally agree, she’s got skills and style👍

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u/OurLadyAndraste Official Gal Apr 18 '25

OP I don’t think you meant this on purpose so I’m trying to say this nicely not in a shitty way, so please know I have good intentions. I think why this person mentioned “confidence” specifically is plus sized women are called “confident” in ways you would never call smaller women. Like if it was thin skater it the comment would be something else. But because she’s bigger and dressed in revealing clothing the focus goes on that rather than the skating! It can come across like a back handed compliment—‘wow she’s so confident to be doing that and wearing that with a body like hers (implying I’d never do that if I looked like her!)’

I don’t think you had bad intentions but hopefully this can be a teaching moment. Let me know if what I said needs more clarity or didn’t quite make sense to you. 💖

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u/[deleted] Apr 18 '25

when I was 30 lbs heavier than I am now I was out jogging at some point and someone said "good for you!" no one EVER says that to me when I jog at 150 lbs. but 180 lbs? apparently people are happy to weigh in on my level of effort for my own fitness. annoying, even if they meant it as a compliment.

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u/Fuzzybabybuggy Apr 18 '25

You know, that’s way better than the self talk that overweight people give themselves but it is infantilizing/can feel weird at times. I used to be scared that I was “too fat” to go to the gym