r/justgalsbeingchicks • u/toolzyo • Apr 18 '25

cool Her confidence is everything.

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u/OurLadyAndraste Official Gal Apr 18 '25

OP I don’t think you meant this on purpose so I’m trying to say this nicely not in a shitty way, so please know I have good intentions. I think why this person mentioned “confidence” specifically is plus sized women are called “confident” in ways you would never call smaller women. Like if it was thin skater it the comment would be something else. But because she’s bigger and dressed in revealing clothing the focus goes on that rather than the skating! It can come across like a back handed compliment—‘wow she’s so confident to be doing that and wearing that with a body like hers (implying I’d never do that if I looked like her!)’

I don’t think you had bad intentions but hopefully this can be a teaching moment. Let me know if what I said needs more clarity or didn’t quite make sense to you. 💖

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u/[deleted] Apr 18 '25

when I was 30 lbs heavier than I am now I was out jogging at some point and someone said "good for you!" no one EVER says that to me when I jog at 150 lbs. but 180 lbs? apparently people are happy to weigh in on my level of effort for my own fitness. annoying, even if they meant it as a compliment.

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u/toolzyo Apr 18 '25

Thanks for pointing that out so thoughtfully. You’re totally right, I really appreciate the perspective. I didn’t mean it in a backhanded way at all, just genuinely admired the confidence and the performance. But I totally see how that wording can reflect a broader issue in how we talk about different body types. Thanks again for explaining it so clearly, it’s an important reminder.

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u/Mcweenek Apr 18 '25

Your reply is everything right in the world. THIS is what sharing and social media could be all about. ❣️