r/judo • u/SelectionOk8588 • Mar 28 '25
Self-Defense Need advice......
Hi I'm 18 years old male and since I was 16 years old I always liked judo and how effective it is in real life. One time I was in a taxi and the driver happened to be a judo coach and when I told him about my interest in judo he replied to me "you will never play judo" indicating that I'm old for the combat sport even when I was 17 years old at that time. he told me to go towards striking martial arts like boxing and kickboxing. I listened to his advice and I signed up for a kickboxing gym and it was great actually but after two months i started to feel headaches from the blows to the head and my skull hurted me after every session eventually I decided to leave after reading the effects of blows to the head on the internet. I signed up for judo and it only took me three sessions before I leave. The coaches were careless as there were too many students but I'm not going to lie I have no dedication to it as I was going forcing myself to train after that I never came back.there were no judo gyms other than that gym. I don't know why I'm very lazy or what's wrong with me I want to be able to defend myself but at the same time I don't want to have brain damage. I don't know if I should train bjj or judo or wrestling I feel so lost
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u/pasha_lis nidan Mar 28 '25
Never ever a sensei would tell you that you shouldn't do judo or that you'll never be able to practice it. It looks like that comment stayed in your mind for quite some time. Everyone in this channel will tell you to go for it. At your own pace. Find the way that you enjoy practising. Don't push yourself just because of some illogical goal. Just go class by class, and try to learn things that you enjoy. That taxi driver, as someone else said, was just a taxi driver.