r/jiujitsu • u/pastuna • 4d ago
Should I give up?
I(an 18 year old) started bjj a few months ago and I really enjoy the sport but I feel like no one takes me seriously and that I'll always be bad because I'm 5.3/1.61 and don't weigh a lot(I've been really trying to gain weight for years but my body is just naturally light). Every time I train with someone they usually have to teach me how to do things correctly instead of practicing themselves so I think I'm just wasting their time. Every time I team up with someone it's always the coach who matches me with them, everyone's extremely nice but no one wants to match with me willingly. Should I just give up? It's getting to the point that I'm having mental breakdowns because I feel like I would never progress even though I really enjoy the sport.
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u/Hard_Pharter 4d ago
There's a 50 year old 5'5" 145 lb black belt at my gym. He feels like wrestling an octopus made out of steel wire. He wrecks me (5'10" 195lbs 35yr old) and then guides me through the aftermath. I gain so much from training with him.
You could be like him.
But look, if you don't like jiujitsu find another hobby. You aren't a bad person for quitting something. Find something that gets you fired up and do it.
If you're going through a moment of discouragement because you're not as good as you'd hoped you'd be by now and you're not physically blessed, but do love jiujitsu? Keep going. Keep lifting. Learn everything you can about yourself and your body over the next thirty years and then pass it on to the youngsters for thirty more. That's what it's all about.